jessica ♡

I have so much love and respect for women who are honest about their own loneliness but also find the good in it like when audrey hepburn said “I have to be alone very often. I’d be quite happy if I spent from Saturday night until Monday morning alone in my apartment. That’s how I refuel” and when charlotte bronte said “I care for myself. The more solitary, the more friendless, the more unsustained I am, the more I will respect myself” and when jenny slate said “I think I’ve come to terms with the fact that there will always be a ribbon of loneliness running through who I am. But that’s why I want to do comedy, and why I want to connect with people. You can use that ribbon to be a part of a finer tapestry, or you can choke yourself out with it! Your choice!” and when mary oliver said “whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination, calls to you like the wild geese, harsh & exciting - over & over announcing your place in the family of things”

the reason people "have trouble reading" or finish a book and then go months without reading anything even though they want to read is that people approach reading as entertainment and not an intellectual discipline.... people aren't "motivated" to read and don't instinctively want to because most of the time, reading doesn't give you the dopamine rush that other forms of entertainment and content do. that means it's harder to feel like doing it and it doesn't feel effortless/ as entertaining as consuming other types of content. approaching it as an intellectual discipline makes a lot more sense since you stop having to feel like it in order to do it, and you stop expecting that it will give you that dopamine rush that other forms of content do. it becomes a consistent habit rather than just another form of entertainment.