RueAndCry

[looking at people younger than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at people older than me] you have your whole life ahead of you [looking at myself] its over

crazy how there are only 2 hours of doing things every day before you keel over and die. if this werent normal id be worried

Official ominous postcard

This isn't just for cults either! Shitty partners, bosses, friends - they all do variants of this where if you kick back the first time they make an unreasonable request, it proves you weren't ever committed since you'd let such a small thing ruin everything. And of course, if it's the third or the tenth unreasonable thing they ask of you, it's SUCH A SMALL THING to be a deal-breaker at this late point in your relationship!

This is the first time I see reasonable advice about this topic on Tumblr. By 'reasonable' I mean something, that doesn't involve acting straight up rude (ignoring the person you don't want to talk to completely, pretending they don't exist, or 'standing up to them' in a way, that will immediately start na argument and ruin everyone's mood) or avoiding family gatherings completely. It is possible to spend time together, even if there's a person you don't like there, without having to talk to them much, but also without openly showing your aversion or acting passive-aggresively.

I have heard a variant on it that I really like: "You cannot hate yourself into someone you can love."

The fastest way to accomplish The Project is to cease being afraid of The Project. The Project cannot maim you. The Project cannot kill you. The Project is more afraid of you than you are of it. It is okay if The Project turns out differently from how it was in your head, and it is okay if it has flaws. You are capable of engaging with The Project.

“It's taboo to admit that you're lonely. You can make jokes about it, of course. You can tell people that you spend most of your time with Netflix or that you haven't left the house today and you might not even go outside tomorrow. But rarely do you ever tell people about the true depths of your loneliness, about how you feel more and more alienated from your friends each passing day and you're not sure how to fix it. It seems like everyone is just better at living than you are. A part of you knew this was going to happen. Growing up, you just had this feeling that you wouldn't transition well to adult life, that you'd fall right through the cracks. And look at you now, it's happening.”

This.

One way to get tasks done in the day is to make yourself a Chekhov's List. Put all of the things you have to do on a list, and now that they've been revealed they'll need to be completed by the afternoon (third act) and when you've completed something you can Chekov that task from the list

Self care kind of got co-opted by like, Lush marketing, but the thing is that actually self care is an extreme uphill battle. You need good sleep good food and gentle exercise calibrated for your specific physiology. How many days a week do I get all 3 of these? Hahahahahahahha

all human beings have certain needs and disabilities/illnesses often make those needs much harder to meet. crucially, this does not mean that the needs cease existing.

Right a lot of this is Basic Organism Maintenance… it’s not useless to say “first, have you got your Basic Organism Maintenance under control?” because most of us don’t. Often there’s an obstacle to Basic Organism Maintenance that does need to be addressed. Then once you have IDed which Basic Organism Maintenance tasks are problematic you’ve already made a checklist of priorities. Hurray! Information! 🤗