hold on tight and don't look back

With my ex it started slow with things like “your friends are bigoted towards me, but ask me for evidence and you’re victim blaming/ not believing survivors. So you need to cut them off or you’re supporting abuse. Also I heard them talking behind your back and they also hate you for being disabled, cut them off or you’re complicit.”

But before I knew it I was totally isolated and it had turned into “asking me not to sexually assault you is ableist actually, because my ADHD makes me impulsive and I always forget you asked me not to do that. Just because I don’t use a wheelchair doesn’t mean I’m not disabled, – you’re just another wheelchair user who’s bigoted about invisible disabilities”.

Abuse can also come from someone who is marginalised in ways you aren’t, or who you feel is “more marginalised” than you feel you are.

It can come from people who are part of groups who are unfairly stereotyped as more likely to be abusive, and those people might tell you that anyone criticising or questioning their harmful behaviour is just falling for the stereotype.

It's how I was raised and there was a point in my life when, after 4 years of escalating abuse & finally being free, I mentioned to someone how my ex had spoken to me. When she asked me why I would stay with someone who kept insulting me, I was genuinely confused - why would I break up with someone for being honest with me? Wasn't it a good thing we had such open communication?

Having been raised in abuse and taught to cover up to it just made me ripe to continue being abused even more and constantly act like my ex was the best part of my life, while hating each and every bit of myself more and more every day.

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He is... dust...

Brothers after the Verdigris incident time

Something a little different

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