Raven Silversea

Here's a google form with a lot of questions on it. If you don't have the time, here's a tumblr poll with one question on it.

I'm really interested in the results but I don't actually have a plan for doing something with the results. You're just indulging a nutty blogger's sense of curiosity.

Do you find that you sew less since your nearby Joann Fabrics closed?

Junicorn x Witch Hat Atelier

Prompt 4: leopard appaloosa (ft. Euini)

Mostly I've been thinking about my experiences in gender nonconformity and how it relates to or differs from those around me. In specific, my wife and I have been talking a lot about what happened with our former relationship with a friend. This former friend is a trans woman who echoes a lot of the views of this vocal minority on here (and some other spaces) that seems to hate or fear anybody/anything that doesn't fit her view of femininity or womanhood. Her view honestly lining up with what is the hegemonic femininity here and is upheld by patriarchy (just with trans woman inclusivity... To a degree).

Examples of this would be like how she tried to encourage, really almost pressure my wife, into the idea of a full vaginoplasty. Or how, before she or I was even out and I thought I was a cis woman, she seemed very put out by my lack of interest in traditional femininity. Or her judginess of my wife preferring black or darker dresses/outfits.

And I've seen this view in many places tbh. From almost tradwife women to TERFs to this vocal minority that encourage transandrophobic, intersexist, exorsexistist, etc behaviors. This fear/hatred of non patriarchal based femininity or non feminine people/women.

I'd love some feedback, but I feel like it would be useful to have a term for this as a whole. Below, I propose this term:

Dispatriphobia

Dis- as in 'non' or 'not' and 'patri' as in 'patriarchal'. I had to do a lot of thinking. I didn't want this to be confused as to being against femininity or feminism as that is not the point at all. This is about those, whether agender or trans man or gnc or multigender people or anybody else, who do not fit these hegemonic or hegemonic based ideas of femininity and face hatred or fear for it.

Some of it may be from anti-transmasculinity or exorsexism, etc but I think for some it stems primarily from this idea of dispatriphobia that I am trying to articulate.

To copy and paste mostly my part in the comments:

It is focused on the fear or hatred of anything/anybody that isn't feminine in presentation and/or gender in a way that upholds the hegemonic standard, not necessarily in tandem with the way patriarchy upholds a hegemonic masculinity. This includes cis men as well.

The people expressing what I'm trying to name hate them and anybody (or anything) that doesn't meet the hegemonic idea of femininity on base level. Specifically I'm thinking of people who preach lesbian separatism as a political movement, discussing ways to completely cut out non feminine things/people or divine femininity in a way that they refuse to interact with or even choose to specifically harm anybody who is not a woman and/or feminine in the hegemonic way.

Are you in the Way?

Are you in the wAy?

Are you in the waY?

endless favorites ♡ parker (leverage)

alright I finally got around to watching netflix's "The Dinosaurs"

(Don't become a paleontologist kids, it turns watching dinosaur related things from "fun" into "work")

THINGS DONE WELL

Birds are treated as full dinosaurs throughout

Emphasizing that dinosaurs had complex behaviors and social structures

Plenty of fluffy dinosaurs present

Most of the reconstructions are fantastic

KPg presented as tragedy and not inevitable

The ending showing all the different dinosaur behavior juxtaposed with modern dinosaurs doing that behavior is glorious, ESPECIALLY because it wasn't just theropods

THINGS DONE... NOT AS I WOULD DO THEM

the only named titanosaur is the smallest one??? what are we doing

For that matter, please just name the dinosaurs. I promise, audiences aren't allergic to names. I promise.

stop acting like the Jurassic was the time of giant dinosaurs when EVERY "BIGGEST" DINOSAUR WE KNOW IS FROM THE CRETACEOUS

I'd make more of the mid-sized theropods fluffy or at least have some decorative floof

I'd have more of the stepwise process of the evolution of birds as we go straight from early Jurassic dinos to Anchiornis, including showing how complex feathers evolved for display and communication before flight

can we PLEASE stop using the Kpg for TraumaPorn, I'm not kidding, I'm sick of watching dinosaurs die horrible horrible agonizing deaths for twenty minutes at a time

WE KNOW BIRDS ARE DINOSAURS. they were PRESENTED as dinosaurs THROUGHOUT. the "Gotcha! they didn't all go extinct!" thing at the end doesn't MAKE ANY SENSE when we ALREADY KNOW

also acting like its a Tuatara situation - implying just a small remnant is holding out - when birds cover the entire planet and outnumber mammals a significant amount is... a Choice. (It's a bad choice)

STOP ENDING DINOSAUR DOCUMENTARIES AT THE KPG WHEN WE KNOW THAT ISN"T THE END OF THE STORY

THINGS THAT ARE JUST PLAIN WRONG WTF

what the actual eff was the Spinosaurus sequence

I did see quite a few somewhat pronated hands

Dinosaurs were either straight up endothermic or gigantothermic. they could handle snow. they DID handle snow. why do we keep acting like they died the minute cold water touches their skin. we don't have a lot of evidence of titanosaur migration because cold. what is this.

Why is Alamosaurus with Edmontosaurus. If they aren't Alamosaurus, why are we just making up titanosaurs for fun. Like I know they almost overlap but the emphasis is decidedly on ALMOST

hateg island in the non-latest cretaceous segment because...????

anchiornis could probably fly. the gliding stuff is almost certainly dead in the water.

In short, I liked it a lot, but I did yell at the screen frequently too, so what can you do

I just want a "story of the dinosaurs" docuseries that COVERS THE CENOZOIC. I think we've gotten enough out of the "violent end" narrative and we have plenty of documentaries that just cover the mesozoic. make the madness stop. no, we don't have to ignore the extinction, but that doesn't mean we can't do "There was a tragedy... nonetheless dinosaurs rose from the ashes..."

like yes, it's a surprise to HUMANS that dinosaurs are still around. you know who isn't surprised?

THE TWENTY THOUSAND (probable) SPECIES OF DINOSAURS THAT COVER EVERY CORNER OF THE PLANET

THEY KNOW. ITS NOT A SHOCK. WE WERE JUST STUPID.

anthropocentrism will actually be the death of me

It's not weird that we are here! There are SO MANY OF US! We're not outliers, we're not oddballs. We are occupying a space we CREATED and we are still fucking here, having fun with all our younger online friends, which is COOL AND GOOD and NOT EMBARRASSING ACTUALLY. It's fucking rad.

Look. We *built* online fandom, comrades! We built it with Angelfire and Geocities and the fucking telephone cables we unhooked from our phones to plug into our enormous, boxy desktop computers to suffer through glacial download speeds that today's children can't even fathom. I think we should all agree to stop apologizing for being here when this is our fucking house. An excellent sentiment (not mine):

To all of my beloved young friends - remember this when you get older. You don't need to grow out of fandom. Who the fuck cares if it's cringe? Childlike joy is something to CELEBRATE, NOT SOMETHING TO BURY AND HIDE!