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For those of us raised as girls, we were told to sit down, shut up, and look pretty. Even if someone wasn’t specifically told that, it was obvious that it was being pushed by the people, media, and social norms around us.

So when we as transmascs and trans men are told /that exact same thing/, to sit down and shut up because someone “more important” is talking, it reminds us of how we were treated when we were little girls or when we were seen as little girls.

And the “look pretty” part doesn’t get left out either. The ratio I’ve seen of “shut up and sit down” in the same sentence as something referring to our genitals (or the genitals they expect us to have) is nearly 1:1.

We have to walk on eggshells constantly. We are either seen as confused and stupid little girls or scary and privileged cis men. I’ve seen countless posts saying something along the lines of “take away the trans part from trans men and it all makes sense” which is ridiculous, obviously. We are trans.

When we step outside that perfect model of either the stereotypical 14 year old with fluffy hair and a high pitched voice or the stereotypical cis man with all the power in the world, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst. When we fit into those stereotypes, we are critiqued at best and abused at worst.

We are treated like dress up dolls that are just a bit broken. We can’t be good enough for everyone, let alone anyone. People put their own perceptions of us above our experiences and then stick their fingers in their ears when we try to tell them that maybe we’re worth listening to.

We just also don’t call it forcefem because that’s literally a kink term. It’s a form of consensual non consent centered around forcing another person to be more feminine.

Trans boys and men? Our parents forced us to be more feminine. We have to be careful which partners we date because they may want to force us to be more feminine. We may even be pressured by our friend groups to be more feminine and end up losing them if we don’t comply (and as much as I’d be inclined to say “good riddance, he deserves real friends,” we have to remember that for some guys, these friend groups have been their closest friends for years and in other cases it’s the only group of queer people they know. Some friendships are important to some people. Shocking, I know). That sounds an awful lot like forcing someone to be feminine if you ask me.

But we still don’t call it forcefem cause, well, they’re not doing it cause it gets them off. They’re doing it because they see trans men as defective women who need to be fixed and, if they can’t, some horrifying anomaly that will spread a contagion to your daughters.

I've been forcefully made to be masculine my entire life, buddy, and you don't see me decrying forcemasc as a kink, now do you!? No in fact you never hear a trans woman complain because the moment we do we get mass reported.

(Incidentally the fact that forcefem is more prevalent than forcemasc is an example of the very hyper-scrutiny that we trans women are subject to constantly.)

Why can't you step up and be a brave strong man and accept that there's some vulnerable women over on the other side of the fence who are forced to me masculine not by peer pressure but by an omnipresent threat of violence that you can barely imagine.

And that the idea that someone comes along and protects us from this violence and forces us to confront our fears and live the life we truly want and need, can be conforting?

OP's long spiel here is a rhetorical device called "garnering sympathy" which people will read and go "yeah those evil transfems are bothering our sweet boys, let's go harass them!" It is a pathos laden essay, without the decency to remind people not to harrass.

This post is a violation of the virtue of silence. It will contribute to making things worse for transfem users of this hellsite.

The OP, I cannot stress this enough, DOES NOT HAVE A PROBLEM WITH FORCEFEM. I'm a transfem into forcefem and he's a pal of mine! I know this! He is asking that you, again, do not make forcefem jokes at transmascs. Do not sexually harass transmascs. He asks you to do that and you go off on this defensive spiel. The fact that you immediately jump to accusing transmascs of not being faced with violence when they try to transition is such a leap to being a terrible person even within the bounds of your outrageous misread that it makes me gobsmacked you went that far that fast. Get the fuck over yourself, holy fuck.

Really? Like a stereotypical high-school bully? So we are just supposed to be okay with jokes about being forced to be women, something that KILLS trans men regularly, and then when we have a problem with it it's cus we're too sensitive and "Can't take a joke?"

It's literally just bog standard transphobia, but because the people lobbing it at us are also trans we're...bigots if we don't just sit politely and let it happen? Okay. Flawless logic there.

Making fun of a group of people that are privileged over you is one thing, but wishing non-cartoonish violence and death on them ("they should fall off a cliff" vs. "they should be wiped out"), wishing sexual violence on them, dehumanising them, claiming that they're less capable of creating art or living meaningful lives, saying that their relationships are inherently shallow and fake - these things are fucked up. I understand venting and saying extreme things when in pain, but when you find yourself regularly posting about wanting certain people tortured and killed, you need to examine that.

"Stuff like this is made to brainwash young girls into thinking that they can 'fix' dangerous men. Such girls usually end up in abusive relationships and their parents are right to worry."

It is rather strange to come across such a gross generalization, operating on an assumption that girls are blank slates whom anyone can manipulate and who can't distinguish between real and make believe on top of it.

In my entire "career"(if you can call it that) of engaging with fiction , the girls and women that I have run into in fandoms happened to be some of the most intelligent, talented, cool, witty and insightful people I have ever met. I've devoured the fics they have written. I have delighted in the arts and edits they've made. Their perspectives and interpretations about the characters and their relationships are genuinely fascinating to read about regardless of whether I agree with it or not. They are the ones who are most often at the receiving end of the antis' ire for no valid reason but they just keep deriving joy and inspiration from their favourite characters and ships and keep sharing it with others through stories, art and thoughts. They are not just smart but incredibly resilient, sensitive and aware not just about the media they consume but about the world around them and its issues.

Besides, if the goal was to brainwash young girls to settle for men who suck, you don’t need fiction for that, the patriarchy already did a pretty damn good job with the older generations: just look at how many unhappy married women we had and still have.

The concern shouldn’t be about fiction influencing people, but a lack of BASIC EDUCATION influencing people from a young age.

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“absolutely, do you want the meal or just the sandwich?’

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*fishes something out of my pocket*

“mikey what do i do?”

“get the fries. youll need the energy in the coming days”

*stuffs it back in my pocket*