(no longer) bi myself(!)

First of all, you’re not in trouble and it’s not your fault:

Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (book)

Codependent No More (book)

The School of Life youtube channel, most of their books

Who Cooked the Last Supper (book)

Even if it was, it’s okay because people grow and change and everyone is going thru something

Nonviolent Communication

Projection (concept)

The Paradox of Getting Better (comic)

I didn’t do the thing today (book about productivity guilt)

Self-Compassion (book)

The Wisdom of No Escape (book)

Talking to Strangers (gladwell book it kinda suxx)

U got a disability girl

Circle of control (concept)

Spoon theory (concept)

Self-care (concept)

What is happening in my brain

Neurotribes (kinda suxx)

Laziness does not exist - Devon Price

How to ADHD youtube channel

Pathological Demand Avoidance (concept)

Unmasking Autism - Devon Price

Don’t Think of An Elephant (book)

Thinking Fast & Slow (kinda sucked)

You need Emotional Regulation

(The fuck is an emotion?)

Steven Universe

Brene Brown Atlas of the Heart (or anything she writes)

(what is processing even)

The Artists Way

Somatics in general

journaling in general (it works bc you collaborate between two brain centers narrative and motor - telling a story while writing it down)

You are Not Your Brain (book)

There was a shadow (children’s picture book)

(you are not a floating head, your body is also your mind)

Body keeps the score (suxx actually but it is foundational so)

Tai Chi (gets you in your body, shame free, feels nice, huge benefits)

The Whole Brain Child (book)

Anxiety is stalled action -

Karen Pryor dog training (operant training and positive reinforcement. U wouldn’t bully a dog for not knowing a trick, why would you bully yourself)

Turid Rugaas dog stuff (calming signals)

Atomic habits (very much an airport read, just google it)

PowerWash Simulator (taught me baby steps)

you need to understand when youre numbing vs relaxing (concept. i personally need active relaxing)

(you’d think I’d have more books or resources on the nervous system but I find the dog model most helpful for myself. I’ve gathered that if i think of it in terms of only a current state - ie feeling my feelings now, and a past state ie trauma - processing old repressed stuff - it all becomes nice and simple)

What are we even doing here?

Bring Me the Rhinoceros (zen koans book)

Anything/everything by Alain de Bottin, Pema Chodron, Thich Naht Hanh, Joseph Campbell, Carl Jung

So who am I?

Marie Kondo - Lifechanging magic of tidying up

The Artists Way (dates, morning pages)

A Simpler Life (school of life book)

How do I express it?

(some of these are work related)

Julia drawfee youtube big projects (google it)

Linda Barry comics syllabus

Anne-Laure Le Cunff: The 3 cognitive scripts that rule over your life Youtube (the pacts / Tiny Experiments model) Art & Fear (book - essays on making stuff)

Adulting:

Everything is a system

Don’t Make me Think (interaction design book, helpful for organizing the house for like, a purpose)

The Extended Mind - book (in the way that your body becomes the car when you are driving, the physical spaces you live in are your brain)

How to make sense of any mess - Abby Covert (information architecture book)

Mental Models (there is a book by farnham street but i didn’t read it)

How to take smart notes (zettlekassen)

Good strategy bad strategy (goal setting)

An Elegant Puzzle: systems of engineering management (mix of goal setting and modeling)

concept- dont follow a passion bc thats hustle/grind nonsense. just follow what feels “satisfying” and what youre naturally good at

Money