Supporting Polyamory And Non Monogamy

Sex is not a bad word. People who have a lot of sex aren't bad people. People who don't have sex aren't missing out. Judging someone based on how much sex they have is ignorant.

You may have to accept the possibility that your partner won't feel the same way you do, it's an unfortunate reality when coming out. Even still, you aren't doing anyone any favors by hiding how you feel. If they accept it, that's wonderful! But if they don't, then don't hide this part of yourself to try to make them happy. -Quinn (they/them)

Well, I'm afraid even I haven't quite mastered the fine art of wooing women. My main piece of advice would be to just be open and honest with anyone you are interested in, and see how they feel about it. Go out and talk to people, don't be afraid of messing up.

Sorry for the late reply, I didn't see the notifications for my asks. If she's polyamorous and her partners are okay with her pursuing other people, I don't see a reason not to. Unless you aren't comfortable with the situation, I would do whatever makes you happy.

Honesty

-Poem by me (@polyamory-support)

It is certainly possible! Of course, the biggest rule of polyamory is honesty. Talk to your partners, and make it clear how you feel. Even if it's a hard conversation, it's one you need to have. Best of luck!

Labels are what you make of them. Typically, polyamory is accepting and participating in polyamorous relationships. Similar to how a bisexual person is still bisexual no matter what their partner's gender is, a polyamorous person can still be polyamorous in an exclusive two-person relationship. But if you would rather define yourself as monogamous in that relationship, that's your choice. As a good friend of mine says, "Any cat owner can tell you that there is a huge difference between being put in a box and choosing to lay in a box!"

And it's okay to mess up. It's okay to change your mind, it's okay if it's just a phase. Don't let anyone use that invalidate you. Phases are important in figuring out who you are. Have phases, do stupid things. It's okay.

This is definitely a conversation worth having. I have found that a very strong majority of my friends and family are accepting of my relationships. Of course, not everyone is going to, but that's just life. Don't live your life to make everyone else happy, because everyone loses when you try. As for the internalized slut shaming, it may take some work for you to actively change your perspective. Just remember that polyamory isn't just about sex, it's about love and trust and compromise. Remember that your sex life does not define your value as a person and you are worthy of respect regardless -Quinn (he/they)

Give me cute polyamory