hey man you should take a good long look in the mirror every time you post . Do you ever regret your actions and what you write? Do you stay awake at night knowing you support content for pedophiles and people who fetishize dangerous content? Sure, TECHNICALLY, You have a ârightâ to do it, god bless the internet and all that, but donât you feel fucking awful and ashamed that you support content being written and distributed by people who fantasize and maybe really actually do abuse real life children? this behavior should be condemned. You are encouraging people to behave in such a way that is harmful to society and specifically the development of children . What if a child was sexually abused read something proshippers smothered all over the internet? Yes, a childs internet usage should be monitored, but there also shouldnât be softcore childporn on the internet. Idk though! I hope you enjoy getting your rocks off to rape and children and i hope youâre happy with your life and yourself . idk though. idk
Hi there! You've sent this to me anonymously, but based on your writing style, the specific post I suspect this is in response to and your apparent desire to make me feel bad, I'm 99% certain you're a teenager, which means I'm going to treat you as one. I don't say that to be insulting or dismissive: I say it because this is, or ought to be, an adult topic of conversation, and having judged that you're not an adult, it would be irresponsible to pretend otherwise. Which is also why I'm responding at all: as you're at the point of attempting to harass strangers over this issue, I feel a responsibility to say something. Several somethings, even!
And the first and most important point is this: you do not know enough about this topic to have an informed opinion.
I'm not saying this to insult you. I'm saying this as a neutral statement of fact. You don't know enough, and not only is that okay, it's normal. This particular facet of human sexuality and psychology is an extremely adult topic, one you've likely only encountered because of the internet. It's clear from your message that the very concept of dark or taboo sexual fantasies angers, disgusts and upsets you, and that's understandable! These are not easy things to talk about, even for adults; even, at times, for adult professionals. But revulsion is neither same as nor a substitute for knowledge, and particularly not when it leads you to reflexively reject the claim that there's something deeper to understand in the first place.
The second point is this: you are not mature enough to learn about this topic in depth.
I'm not just saying this because you're a teenager, although that's certainly a factor; I'm saying this because your present level of immaturity is such that you're sending anonymous, angry messages to internet strangers about a topic you don't understand. In order to learn, you first have to acknowledge your own ignorance, and that's not what you're doing here. But even if that weren't the case, depending on how young you are, it might not be appropriate for you to investigate this at all without the supervision and guidance of a trusted, knowledgeable adult - someone you know in your actual life, not a random internet stranger.
Which brings me to the third point: teens who engage online about adult topics without sufficient knowledge are vulnerable to exploitation.
This is a general rule of thumb for the internet, but it also applies in specific to fandom antis. I'm personally aware of multiple instances in which teen antis were preyed upon by adult antis who falsely presented themselves as "safe." The teens would commonly have something like "minor, proshippers DNI" in their bios, which served to identify them; the adult would then engage with their posts, building up a sense of familiarity, before messaging them in private, pitching themself as a fellow anti and thus as someone they could trust, not like those disgusting proshippers. The teen would then be invited to a private server or groupchat, often filled with other teens, in whom the controlling adult or adults would then stoke fear and paranoia, leading them to view anyone outside the group, but particularly other adults, as potential predators - and predators, of course, deserved to be targeted for harassment.
This harassment was cast as being both necessary for the group's safety and as a show of virtue - if you weren't willing to do it, then how could the others trust that you were safe? Which then led to the teens being sent explicit material by the adults under the guise of knowing who to target, which then turned into the teens being encouraged to seek out extreme content themselves, both to show to the adults to prove their commitment, and so that the group would have new targets. If the teens became uncomfortable with what was happening, it was hard for them to leave, because not only had they been trained to see disagreement with the group as a sign of sexual deviance, but they were afraid of being targeted themselves.
In other words: predatory adults exploited the fears these teens had about adult content to groom them into viewing and exchanging that content under the guise of objecting to it, by painting themselves as lone safe adults in a world of predators. That this happened was not the fault of the teens thus exploited, but it might have been prevented, at least in some instances, if those teens had had a better understanding of human sexuality and psychology. Abuse of all kinds, but particularly sexual abuse and exploitation, thrive in cultures of silence and shame. If you are taught that certain fantasies are inherently bad and disgusting, and that enjoying something in fiction is the same as wanting to do it in real life, then you are made vulnerable to manipulation.
To give a different but related example: in early childhood education - which is to say, when dealing with very small children, toddlers through kindergarten age - it's now considered vital that kids are taught the proper words for their genitalia and are encouraged to use them without embarrassment. On learning this, many parents react negatively: they think it's rude or gross or even wrong, because they themselves weren't raised with that sort of openness. But extensive research has shown that this is one of the best ways to keep children safe from sexual predators, as it means ignorance of their own bodies can't be used against them. If they know what the word for a body part is and have no shame in using it, then they're better able to communicate if someone tries to touch them, because they're not afraid they'll get in trouble for mentioning something "dirty" or "inappropriate," and because they can accurately describe what was done or attempted.
This is also why, when kids get older, it's important for them to learn basic sex education and sexual health: because ignorance poses a far greater danger to them than knowledge. There's a reason why, for instance, teen pregnancy and STD rates are far higher in places that focus on abstinence only sex education. Simply telling teens that pre-marital sex is bad and gross doesn't stop them wanting to have it; it just means that, when they do, it's much more likely to be unsafe. But even where those kids do end up waiting for marriage, the years of thinking of sex as gross and sinful still impacts them, because their sexual development has been characterised by a sense of shame. Frequently, they struggle to sleep with their partners or to enjoy it if they do, because they feel like they're doing something bad - and that leads nowhere good.
Which is why I believe it's so important to openly acknowledge that dark fantasies are a normal aspect of human sexuality: that liking something in a fantasy doesn't mean wanting or condoning it in real life. Just as with these other examples, if we treat even the concept of such fantasies as disgusting, wrong or taboo, then we're setting people up to fail; to feel shame over something that carries no moral weight at all. And sexual shame is psychologically damaging: people can spend their entire lives trying to overcome it.
Child sexual abuse is one of the most horrific things on Earth. I condemn it utterly, and for that reason, there are absolutely fictional works whose content I find viscerally disgusting. But the fact that I find something disgusting does not make it harmful. Fantasy is not reality, fiction is not a statement of intent, and harassing real people over fictional content is more immediately harmful than the content of that fiction will ever be.
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