Avatar of the Lonely

There is never any justification for someone putting their hands on you in any way without your consent short of immediate risk of harm or death.

If someone tells you that "the way I'm acting is your fault because you know that doing X thing would make me do it and you chose to do it anyway" is just fancy bullshit talk for, "I know my behaviour is wrong, but I don't want to be held responsible for it so I'm pushing it on you"

Nothing good ever, ever comes from someone who tells you, "I don't want you talking about our relationship with anyone". This person cannot handle accepting responsibility and processing criticism so they need you to never, ever question them. That's easier if they control the narrative and your friends aren't there to cut in.

Nothing constructive comes from screaming.

"It's not like that all the time" is optimistic and sweet, but the truth is, it shouldn't be like that at all. Sweet words and gifts and gestures don't erase being frightened for yourself or for your loved ones. That is not normal. Don't minimize it.

It is not healthy or normal to be genuinely afraid of saying "no" to someone, for any reason at all. Violence, outbursts, retaliation, anything. You should not have to be afraid of someone's reaction to your boundaries.

You are not responsible for saving anyone. Even if you love them. Even if they have nobody else. At the end of the day, if they want to hurt themselves in any way, they will, and you can't stop them forever. People need to want to improve before they can actually improve, and if they're threatening to harm themselves to keep you around, they're using your love to hold themselves hostage. You do not decide their choices for them, and they don't get to shunt that off on you.

This movie also promotes whitewashing. They casted a lightskinned wasian woman to play Nani instead of an actual indigenous Hawaiian woman. This movie is promoting the erasure of Hawaiian people getting to tell stories about themselves, there’s not a single Hawaiian person behind the writing or directing for the production of this movie and its clear that unlike the original cartoon, it’s made with a clear lack of respect for its people.

There's a scene cut for time from Lilo and Stitch that explicitly dealt with Lilo's experience being the backdrop to a bunch of tourists, and even though it was not in the full movie, the motive is still there. She took a picture of that white guy with his ice cream the same way people take pictures of her as "oh look honey it's a real native."

There's times when changing the race or gender or background of a character is a neutral thing. This was not a neutral act on Disney's part. This divorces Lilo's action from her motives. It leaves it hollow, not just in the way that all of these soulless live action remakes are, but in a way that removes her home from her background. What is she taking a picture of, if it's just some guy with a dropped ice cream? Why is she doing this? Why are you watching her do this? What's the point?

Do not watch this movie. Go watch the original. It's great! And if you missed that cut scene, watch that too.