in defense of lysistrata

Times when little girls had to "hold it" (to what? Make sure grown men didn't watch them pee?) While they literally told their boys to pick the most visible spots to urinate in public? Or they formed a woman-fence around them and creepily relished in the task?

I want to know if my experiences are the norm because theres no way the results of this behavior can be seen everywhere but not the precursor.

Girls are taught to ignore, show no interest in and hide our anatomy not only from boys but grown men and even ourselves. So when something, anything is wrong down there we have no vocabulary for it.

I remember being in the girls bathroom with other girls and I asked my super smart friend in the next stall over, "what's that thing that sticks out?" (The clitoris). My friend says, "I think that's where the pee comes from!".

And yet somehow despite being sent nothing but negative signals about our bodies we still managed to be curious, rebellious and have our own little girl codes.

The saddest part about this stuff was learning about incest around 8 or 9 years old. Girls being casually raped by older male cousins in the bath and not even knowing what that was all about. Especially in ethnic communities, it is kept under wraps and the male is always protected.

What I never understood growing up was that "girls have to sit with their legs closed". What is between our legs that's so special and from WHOM are we hiding it? Instead of that, why didn't they say, "watch out for bad men who look at you strangely or try to touch you".

It's always something that subconsciously codes our bodies are "wrong".

Or being chided for starting puberty early. Girls get called "fast" (instead of adults looking into whether or not the girl is being molested or groomed) and adults saying "now you have to wear a bra" (when studies show that constant bra wearing especially from an early age actually diminishes breast tissue strength). Who are we hiding our tiny nipple buds from? I don't recall any boys ever noticing them, so who could it be? And why is it the girl's responsibility?

Anywho, you know how hindsight is 2020. Sometimes it's even sharper and maybe I am looking too deeply into innocent or general lack of knowledge among our generally underage/too young mothers. I was born from out of one of the early teen pregnancy booms of the 90s.

In any case, I grew up with a sense that my body was neither truly mine nor good or worth loving.

From being told girls "can't" all the time to internalizing misogyny and meeting it out to other girls around me when I was old enough to criticize other girls for sitting with their legs unlocked on the school bus,

Looking back though, my friends were too strong for their ages. There was incest, abuse, arrests, religious clashes (with me being a protestant bigot towards catholics) and all the usual societally enforced "competition" sewed among females from an early age. We are taught to be better than the next girl so much of the time, and that usually means doing things "right" and "proper".

you’re not a bad person if you do something that you don’t particularly enjoy because, for example, it makes your partner happy, but always remember: you have no obligation to engage in sexual activities that you don’t fully like and enjoy. 

and you don’t ever, ever need to justify that - if your partner has an issue with “It makes me kind of uncomfortable” or “I don’t really like it”, then that person does not deserve a moment of your time, in or outside of the bedroom. you don’t have to prove yourself to anyone; you don’t have to meet anyone’s standards of acceptable vs. unacceptable activity (or lack thereof); you don’t have to force yourself to be comfortable with something because of any perceived political connotations of performing or refusing that act.

A Glasgow nightclub has installed a two-way mirror which allows male revellers in private booths to spy on unsuspecting women as they visit the toilet! With no notification or signage anywhere in the venue many female club goers have been left feeling embarrassed and used. Although they do briefly show the mirrors in a promo video, the club has been quickly deleting comments and posts on their social media from club goers trying to alert others to the situation. This is pretty much illegal and hugley violates privacy. Thank you The Shimmy Club for giving us a shiny, new, creative and cool take on objectification. article here

“No space, leave the place” (fingernail test)

A two way mirror must be set INTO the wall, not placed on top of it.

If you rap/knock against the mirror, one installed onto a wall (a normal mirror) will make a dull sound, because there’s something behind it. A two-way will have more reverberation.

Use the flashlight on your phone to shine on the mirror, if it’s a two-way, you’ll be able to see into the other room.

You can also shield your eyes and see in if you lean up against the glass.

i had a biology professor who told a story about a woman who got tens of thousands of dollars for donating her eggs and i was like “that sounds amazing!” and she was like “not so fast, that woman later in life learned that they took so many eggs that she could no longer have children”

only much later in life did i learn about how the barrage of hormones given to women for this procedure affects the body and how risky any surgery is to one’s life.

Remember how women are girls are put into menstration huts during their periods, and aren’t even allowed to touch food or animals because they’re considered dirty and impure on their periods. But that has nothing to do with vaginas and uteruses though right?

Remember how there exists a penis festival and everything literally surrounds penises but the second women talk about their vaginas people go fucking insane?

Remember how women are discrimated against since they have the ability to get pregnant and companies don’t want to have to pay for a woman to go on maternity leave for a year? Or how many people refer to this as ‘paying a woman to do nothing’?

Our bodies are so stigmatized? More women than ever are getting bikini waxes and vaginal plastic surgery. The president of the United States was elected after bragging about “grabbing women by the pussy.” In several states it’s now nearly impossible to get an abortion, because as soon as a woman gets pregnant, her body belongs to the state.

Talking about female anatomy has absolutely nothing to do with you. Our fight against stigma and sexual assault is not about sneakily trying to make trans women uncomfortable. When women made and wore pussy hats, I can guarantee you they were not thinking, “this will show those trans women that they don’t belong.” They were rebelling against the election of a rapist to the highest office in the country.

Why does the Tumblr libcult not see that?

On this blog I post receipts and proof of TRA abuse aimed at random women who believe in fighting for female safety, liberation and accommodation, so I can show the often denied fact that it's TRAs who enter conversations that have nothing to do with them in order to create hostility because they are misogynists.

However, some of these Tumblr radfems fall into the reactionary trap and say hateful things about trans people or misgender trans people who are NOT enemies of the cause.

Easy mistake to make.  Don’t do that to yourselves.

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