Yeah whatever you say

An excellent analysis of the new Canadian study of trans identified youth and how it refuses to paint the full picture.

Men practice separatism when they preferentially hire their buddies to the higher-paying jobs at their companies. They practice it when they hand down valuable keepsakes or estates to their favorite male relatives. They practice it when they socialize amongst themselves while not helping the facilitators of the social events, which are usually women.

I think you're making the mistake of treating the word "separatist" as a yes-or-no identity, rather than "separatism" as a series of actions, with degrees of rigidity.

i have hated someone so much that i would like to torture and then kill them and then drag them to hell by my own hands. but not only have i never actually felt like taking the necessary steps, or even placing myself in a situation where i would feel tempted to follow this feeling, i have never, never, never felt anything sexual about it. there is no sexual element to my aggression. there cannot be, because those are completely opposite forces in me. one activates, the other inactivates. it is similar to the desires of wanting to cry and wanting to have sex as those don't go together either. weirdly, men understand that part. if you feel so sad that you want to cry, your arousal disappears. if you start to feel aroused, you stop crying. simple as.

There is a huge appeal ... to black and white thinking. It's the easiest place to be and in many ways it's the safest place to be. If you take an all or nothing position on anything, you will definitely find comrades, you will easily find a community ...

how it feels to become an active participant in your own life

what i will never understand is how quickly "queer" communities turned from "let everyone love who they love" to "analyze your sexual preferences until your love life is as politically correct as the rest of your activism".

Get your book shelves back. Get your CDs and DVDs back. Download every single video clip and music file you like/consider useful to your computer's actual hard drive, no matter the method, and then copy those files to several different external hard drives. Buy a new set of external hard drives every 10 years or so and copy the files there again (external hard drives do break after a while). Get your hands on a physical radio and CD player. A physical recording device. Buy a flashlight instead of using the one in your phone. Buy a calculator. Buy rechargeable batteries for most of your battery-operated devices.

hey did you know??? that if you stop stretching and maintaining mobility in your body then it goes away?? things get tight and you can't move the way that you used to??? and when you decide to try getting a stretch routine going that the first week fucking sucks because you keep going 'damn i used to be able to do this no problem' and then you have to switch gears and be kind to yourself and just focus on getting better from here instead of berating yourself for dropping the good habits in the first place??? and your body never stops aging so you gotta keep taking care of it and sometimes you gotta take care of it extra in certain areas because of things that happened when you were younger and it's boring and sometimes hurts but it's so necessary???

“At a clinic in Anand in northern India, women give birth to Western children. White women’s eggs are inseminated with white men’s sperm, and the embryo is implanted in the wombs of Indian women. The children will show no traces of the women who bore them. They will neither bear her name nor get to know her. After giving birth to the children, the Indian women surrender them. They sign a contract and receive between 2,500 and 6,500 USD the moment they give up their responsibility for the child they just gave birth to. For the women, most of whom are poor and from nearby villages, the payment can be up to the equivalent of ten years’ salary. The buyers are typically American, European, Australian, Japanese, or wealthy Indians; they are childless heterosexual couples, homosexual men, and single men… With traditional surrogacy, the industry had been limited to the Western world. An Indian mother would have meant a child with Indian features. But suddenly, through the miracle of modern technology, it became possible for an Indian woman to give birth to a white child. Thus, Americans could pay two-thirds less than for surrogacy in the USA and still come home with their “own” child, even though it had spent nine months in an Indian woman’s body. Embryo transplantation also impacted on American courts’ judgments in the child custody cases. In one case from 1993, almost identical to “Baby M”—the mother had second thoughts after the birth and wanted to keep the child—the judgment was that she was not the child’s mother. She “was not exercising procreative choice, but was providing a service.” Because the egg wasn’t hers, the pregnancy wasn’t motherhood but a “service”; therefore, she had no rights to the child she gave birth to. This has now become standard practice in the USA, and even when the egg belongs to a third woman—a so-called egg donor—custody is granted to those who paid for the child.”