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i feel like "feminist" anti-kink sentiment is very tail-wagging-the-dog. like male doms playing out bdsm scenes of abuse are not oppressing their female subs that's acting. you're mad at acting. you're those aliens from galaxy quest. same with fearmongering about "booktok". however an eroticized version of patriarchal dynamics being a popular kink DOES speak to the pervasiveness of sexism, bc eroticizing the oppression is a way of coping with living under it. it's women creating a fantasy world where men being menacing to them is sexy and not scary like it is irl, or where it is still scary but in the fun way like a horror movie bc you can tap out at any time by using a safe word or putting the book down. acting like this sort of kink is oppressing women is like if you assumed the thermometer controlled the weather outside. it might be depressing to look at the thermometer and see the impact of climate change, but it's not the thermometer's fault

talking about stuff like prison reform or the SO registry really quickly makes you realize how many peoples political ideology boils down to "look, just tell me who the bad people are so I know who we should be killing."

and this is not unique to one side of the political spectrum btw. right or left, authoritarian or anarchist, all are susceptible to the rhetoric of "who is the acceptable target?"

I genuinely believe so much of queer discourse can be traced back to "one person of a specific minority wronged me personally, so now I assume that everyone of that specific minority are categorically evil."

I think a large percentage of the queer community (and I would argue the larger progressive community) has never truly reckoned with their own capacity for bigotry, and instead have assumed that because they are a minority they *can't* be prejudice. This makes them incredibly susceptible to bigoted thinking and it's a huge problem. The queer community is shockingly bigoted and hateful, ranging from racism to sexism to transphobia to anything else you care to mention, and in many ways it just keeps getting worse because people respond to any criticism with "you are calling me, a whole ass trans woman, transphobic" and don't even try to improve.

[girl in a low cut top voice] i just dont know what it is but everyone is being sooo nice to me today….[grows grave and guarded] they’re conspiring against my reign and they think me a fool

okay but we can't know for sure that the loud noise and bright flash offstage—which occurred after the character who was holding the gun exited the stage with it—was a gunshot, because we didn't get to directly see it