*runs into your oven, glass shattering on impact*

How does he talk about women who aren't from The Category? Are all skinny women horrible rail-thin cunts? Are all cis women crazy, unpredictable bitches? How about his exes from The Category? Did they betray the True Way Of Being The Thing? Are all his exes from The Category? (That doesn't bother me so much if he's also in The Category, tbh. t4t is real & so is fat4fat.)

Does he have a fixation on the body parts/qualities that put you in The Category, or does he also talk about how great your eyes/mouth/brain/conversation is? Does he have cutesy or infantilizing terms for parts/qualities of your body, especially parts/qualities of your body specific to The Category, double-specifically if they're not terms you used first? Are you "fluffy"? Is your dick your "princess wand"? Do you use those terms?

Is he proud to be seen in public with you, or are you his dirty little secret? Have you met his friends at karaoke night, or does he only ever want to stay in? Are you a person, or a living sex toy?

The family was left a similar one on a hard drive last week. We’ve been searching - multiple heat seeking drones, cadaver dogs, search and rescue teams, state and local police, literally every resource available; and we have not found Ansel. There are statewide press releases. We believe he may still be alive.

Obviously this is traumatic, and I ask not to pry on any potential relationship you had with Ansel. If there is any information you have on close friends he may have gone to stay with, any locations he idealized "leaving" at, any steps he had taken in planning this, etc. please message me. anything at all it would be of immense help.

I hope you’re holding your own in the face of this kind of news. If it’s any consolation, we are almost certain he’s still alive, somewhere with someone.

this is @transfaguette 's sister, who as we know, killed himself or has seemed to have gone missing recently.

if anyone in the trans discourse tags can help her out to find her brother before its too late, please help her out!

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My father would constantly viciously mock my body hair and other 'masculine' traits to disprove the idea that I was a 'real girl', but then he was the same man who screamed at me for six hours when he found out I was trying out presenting as male when I was trying out different gender presentations as a middle schooler and tried leaning into masculinity for a bit, then he'd treat me like a boy again when he'd tell me not to cry because 'men dont cry', then he treated me like a girl again when I developed breasts and he clearly decided I was attractive to him.

My mother refused to teach me how to do my makeup or buy me dresses and once she realized I was never going to get a period she practically gave up on treating me like a woman at all, but then when I told her I might try leaning more masc as a teenager she was suddenly so adamant about gendering me as the girliest girl in the whole world, then once I realized I was a woman she seemed to flip right back and cut off my whole length of hair ostensibly because it was 'matted' but probably because she doesn't like me presenting as a woman.

My peers would scream at me for wearing dresses or mock me for wearing makeup because "boys don't do that" and I was seen as a predatory or mockworthy boy dressing up, but then that didn't stop my male peers from leering at me and making sexual passes that revolved around me being 'female'.

My transmasc ex would play up how aggressive I was while making himself look like an innocent widdle guy in comparison, playing on the fact that I was intersex and transfem and therefore he could twist me into being "masculine and scary" when needed, but then he'd put the emotional labor and sexualization and condescension of womanhood onto me just as easily.

It's like no matter what you do, people are determined to oppositely gender you. 'Woman' enough to sexually harass and assault, 'man' enough to be harassed for even trying to present as feminine, 'woman' enough to be burdened with all the emotional labor of my family and relationships, 'man' enough to be painted as the horrible pushy aggressor no matter what I did.