change your icon/pfp and put something coherent in your blog description or you're going to get blocked bcs people think you're a bot

this site is built around reblogs, so please actually reblog posts(especially art and fics!!)

you can set your likes and follows to private

checkmarks here are a meme and mean nothing

follower counts are private and we like it that way, so get used to not judging people by that metric

drama and discourse is boring, use your blacklist and block button liberally

DON'T CENSOR YOURSELF!! we can swear and say kill and make fun of corporations all we want, and if you tiktok-ify your tags people who have things blacklisted for whatever reason will still see them, and people who want to see that content won't be able to find it!! spell words out normally, you won't get in trouble!!

tumblr live is sketchy as hell and full of fake accounts, if you decide to use it anyway may god have mercy on your soul o7

1. “I said something I didn’t mean to say and I’m sorry I said it.” There are lots of things people leave unsaid because they know it’s unfair, irrational, or unnecessarily hurtful. Also lots of things that are just hurtful, so it’s a mixed bag

2. “I made a dumb leap of logic because my angry brain wasn’t working like my calmed brain.” This can apply to projection (“Why are you mad at me?”), paranoia (“I just know you’re about to break up with me.”), jumping to conclusions (“Oh, you just want to run off to that friend of yours, don’t you?”), etc etc

None of them are gonna be physically violent

The Reddit users are going to judge you if you express any religious or “unscientific” sentiment

The Catholics run the gamut from “hardcore pro-lifer” to “Nun who invented communism”

The Protestants have brought lots of food but are going to proselytize the entire time you eat

The crystalists are split 60/40 on whether or not vaccines cause autism, and you don’t know who has the majority until you’ve been there an hour

The Anglophiles have good pastries, but 1/3 of them are in Sherlock cosplay

The girlbosses are all within 10° to the left of the center of the political spectrum and will try very hard to get you to invest in their MLM

The vegans brought food but will turn hostile if you let slip that you’ve used animal products in the last year

The reenactors have booze, but your phone is dead and they’re giving a very pro-America history lecture

The influencers have a pool, a jacuzzi, and lots of drugs, but they have a combined net worth that teaches seven digits and won’t let you forget it

this is a very good and valid question, thanks for asking! having everyone masked would be much preferable, but i think that masking is still worthwhile even when you're the only one doing it. some reasons why:

i think a lot of people, understandably, think in terms of risk level and you have to in some ways. something is relatively low-risk, so we feel more comfortable doing it. this shorthand lets us make decisions without getting too much decision fatigue, or stopping ourselves from being able to do anything. however i think we often don't pull ourselves out of this vague hypothetical into the actual reality of covid. the fact that something overall is lower risk is not going to matter if the person you just talked to for 5 min is infected, or you are asymptomatic and just talked to 20 people. then suddenly, you have covid, or half of those other 20 people have covid, and that's that. it's not really a consolation then that the activity was "low risk." all it takes is ONE person. i think we often don't think about that because frankly it's scary. but covid is scary. i try to use risk levels to determine if i will do something, but not if i will mask.

while high-quality masks give some protection to the wearer for a certain amount of time, masks primarily protect others. it's hard to wrap your head around the fact that you feel fine, but could have covid and be asymptomatic because that's not intuitive! but it's true, you really could be the person at the event who is infected, and if you wear a mask you're helping protect those around you in case you are. obviously it's better if everyone does this, but it's still worthwhile to do what is in your control.

mask-wearing is a collective effort, and although it's true that most likely, other people will not be masking, it's one of those things where it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy to operate from that assumption. if everyone assumes that, then nobody will mask even if maybe they would if it was standard practice. it's kind of like voting - "i'm just one vote, it won't matter if i don't vote".. but if 50k people all think that and don't vote, well now it does matter collectively.

you wearing a mask may inspire others to rethink their masking. maybe next week they decide to wear a mask to the doctor's office, not knowing they got infected from this event. but since they wore a mask, the immunocompromised person who sits near them in the waiting room doesn't get infected.

every one of these little instances matters. if you don't get covid, you won't spread it to your family, someone at the grocery store, someone at work. they won't then spread it to their family, their friend, someone in line at the bank. who won't spread it to their family - on and on. it cuts off one line of the circulation. and any one of those people may have otherwise gotten long covid, or been immunocompromised and faced severe illness or death. if it prevents even one of those cases, that changes the entire trajectory of that person's life, even though they'll never know. it matters.