the gold beneath the virtual rainbow

Being supportive of binary people is relatively simple, they have decided to sort themselves into one of the boxes that we have lots of experience interacting with. Being supportive of nonbinary people can be comparatively tricky, because you have to resist the urge to create box C and drop them all there. That's how we end up with various prejudices like "woman lite". Humans really, really like to categorize things. It helps us think. Unfortunately, sometimes it helps us think wrong.

But like with most things there are ethical ways to go about doing this.

1. You have to consider how healthy it's going to be for them. The most clear cut example is loosing weight, study after study show that not only is there no healthy way of intentionally loosing weight there are also no effective long term ways. And there's nuance here of course; botox, lip filler, corset training, etc, these all have varying levels of health risks.

Great question imaginary dominant

First go read THIS guide to training

Second, what are your goals. There's no point starting to sculpt them without having an idea of what you want them to look/ be like as you both make progress.

After that it's going to depend heavily on your vision of them. But here's a few suggestions on where to start.

Clothing (and maybe makeup?), absolutely the easiest place to start. Do you want them to show more skin? Dress up more? Feminine, masculine, or androgynous? Colourful or all black? Is there a specific style you'd like them to dress in? As with everything it might be best to start slowly, don't replace their entire wardrobe in one go; gradually guide them in the direction you'd like

Posture? Do they sit up straight? If not pressing the lower middle of their back whenever you notice them slouching is a good reminder. How do they walk? If they step in a line their hips will sway pleasingly. How do they hold their hands, what's their resting face look like, etc, etc, etc all of these things can be modified

Vocal patterns? The voice is very malleable, you could raise or lower their pitch, remove or add words or phrases to their lexicon

There are innumerable things that you could change about your submissive even without getting into the plastic surgery side,,,

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