the gold beneath the virtual rainbow

Thin people are absolutely relentless with this. "But I have to TELL them!" "I can't just not SAY something!" "We can't just PRETEND it's fine to be fat!"

I like all the comments crying about this being ai when it very clearly is not ai. These are the same people who say "ai fries peoples brains"

My God, there is intense bombing very close to us right now. Please donate to help evacuate my family to a safe place.

at the risk of sounding cynical I have to be honest, I feel like the reason the "trans women have a harder time passing than trans men" is such a "can of worms" statement is the fact that so many trans men really try to cling onto their idea that they are More Oppressed or Equally Oppressed to trans women

thinking about how in the last chapter of whipping girl Serano talks about subversivism and how the queer/trans community prizes and encourages genders it views as more subversive over ones which are perceived within the community as more ‘traditional’ (i.e., binary). I posted a more full quote about this yesterday, but because our society associates masculinity with like, toughness and coolness, and associates femininity with being reserved and held back, much of the (tme) queer community views trans masculinity as more “subversive” and “against the binary” despite the fact that transfemininity is much more disturbing to cissexual society.

the anon about feeling validated by support from tmes has me returning to thoughts ive been wondering for a while: i am tme, and i want to support trans women more, but am afraid of falling into an unintentionally harmful mentality. kind of like the way men act as 'white knights' towards women, or the whole 'white savior' mentality. i dont know what the equivalent would be towards trans women. ive been trying to listen, learn, and share online, but i struggle to make friends thus do not participate in local queer communities (if there even is one by me?) and, ive been rather oblivious to the extent of transmysoginy until recently. do you or any of your followers have thoughts on what tmes can do to uplift trans women, and where any lines might be in terms of letting our privileges get in the way? is there any idea on what is the healthiest way to support trans women online and in-person, without creating unhealthy dynamics due to tme privilege? especially since i want to be a participant in-person local communities and activism later. personally, am going to start online and get a grasp of whats best, and prioritize/trust the voices of trans women. im sorry if any of this is confusing or ignorant, either way my current priority is listening, learning, and uplifting my sisters however i can, and however they all need and want.

Personally what I'd say, in general, is speak up for us but don't speak over us. All the shit that gets thrown our way is exhausting and we'd love nothing more than to not have to deal with it, so if someone else who knows what they're talking about - and that's crucial, learn and listen and see how we handle things ourselves - can lighten some of that load and challenge it for themselves then that'd be much appreciated, but if we choose to then say something directly then that's your cue to step back and let us take the lead.

All I've got to add is maybe a good first step would be to stop thinking that it's not white knighting, it's gotta be something else when trans women are involved.

Related to a lot on your page tbh, but most importantly Trans Men needing to prove their oppression.

you know I hear a lot about trans men being mistaken for trans women, but not a lot about trans women being mistaken for trans men

My theory as to what explains a lot of transmasc uwu behavior is internalized self hatred for being a man or even a not woman, that they scapegoat onto trans women. A lot of transmasc people I've known had TERF accent beliefs, and sensibly feel hurt by those beliefs when they start to transition. However instead of deconstructing it, it transforms from "men are bad." to "well that can't be true because I'm a man. AMABs must be bad. I can't be bad or do bad things because I'm a pure and harmless widdle AFAB"