the gold beneath the virtual rainbow

ok I may be cracking open a nuclear can of discourse worms but genuinely is it not like. easier for trans men to become cis-passing

like I'm sure higher wages help a lot, but mainly like I feel like I see and encounter so much more discussion from trans men who are able to go fully stealth than trans women who can. and I see plenty of trans men online who are very cis-passing, whereas I rarely ever see the same for trans women

like I've seen talk about how trans women are privileged because we're more represented in government, but I can't help but think there probably are some trans men in government, they're just understandably taking the opportunity available to them to be stealth, since being in government is a notoriously high-risk position and if you can help it it mitigates a lot of risk to not be openly trans

oh my god right, how could I forget, trans men start HRT on average significantly younger than trans women, I'm sure that's a significant factor

Hi hello recently identified intersex AFAB enby here, before I knew I was intersex or trans in any capacity I was thrown out of women’s restrooms bc people thought I was a trans woman (I had leg hair and peach fuzz people, fucking leg hair and peach fuzz) which resulted in aggressive femininity if I wanted to use the restroom in public (full face of makeup, not room much though, make sure they can see your tits, etc)

I've met a fair amount of transmasculine people who need to prove their oppression in relation to me as like... idk? an affirmation of their identities? it's weird and leads to a lot of very stilted and uncomfortable social interactions, or like I'll say something that's too feminist all of a sudden he's really intensely explaining some trauma out of nowhere. idk

a couple days ago someone reblogged one of my posts where I'm defending patricia taxxon with a screenshot of a post from isuggestforcefem and said "this is her blog btw" which of course it literally isn't, those are in fact two different people. so anyway I went to check their blog and between posting how much they hate isuggestforcefem (who, again, they appear to believe is the same person as patracia taxxon) they also post about how they're in the serial killer fandom. so you know I guess that's how the transmisogynist smear campaign is going

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And the third plate of pasta. Maybe even a fourth one. Like actually.

ah ok gooseworx's tumblr account got banned

extract celebrated culture from transfem and then drop them like a brick

Frankly if youre transmasc and you read the above and all you can think is "But what about meeeee" instead of "Oh my god, I'm being used as a justification for the discrimination of my sisters, I must speak up for them, and fight for them with all I have!!! I do not want hate being pushed on transfems in my name!!!", you are heartless, and should make your first priority to find wherever you lost your heart.

This is transfeminism!

You can’t just put tme in your bio you have to actually unlearn transmisogyny.

I’ve seen absolutely heinous transmisogyny from people (particularly cis women) with tme in their bios. Like it doesn’t give you a pass.

It's so frustrating because there's so much of this website which won't even acknowledge the usefulness of TME and TMA, but even the sliver of people who do think that their stance on this actually relatively minor point means they're automatically incapable of being transmisogynistic when the whole point is that TME people are more likely to participate in transmisogyny.

You can’t just put tme in your bio you have to actually unlearn transmisogyny.

I’ve seen absolutely heinous transmisogyny from people (particularly cis women) with tme in their bios. Like it doesn’t give you a pass.

Also in a similar vain I’m staring fucking daggers at general cishet “allies” who only like the gay/trans people they can fetishize, and even those they don’t really see as people.

i think i would like “egg” jokes more if the term was less frequently used to refer to women who are out and acknowledging their gender and just happen to be early in transition. if your “egg” friend is posting pics holding E that’s just ur friend who started transitioning. not to mention the way girls are using it as an identity choosing to stay in the closet and “be an egg instead” despite the fact that realizing ur trans means ur not an egg anymore. maybe i would like egg more if it didn’t just get turned into another way to deny trans women their womanhood

like i have seen girls with “egg checklists” making a list of things they have in common w trans women in order to convince themselves to transition. when that is literally reason enough!!! the second you realize your own egginess, you’re no longer an egg! that’s the cracking!! you cant see the egg from the inside!! if you’ve realized it then that’s reason enough!!!! you don’t need a list to deserve to transition. you don’t need to prove your egg tendencies. you deserve to live the way you want now. no justifications. it’s right because it’s what you want. simple as.

"tme/tma is a binary!!" yes that's how oppression descriptors fucking work dipshit. you're either the intended target for discrimination or you're not. you don't fucking transcend oppression just because you're nonbinary or intersex