Modern Dating 101

Whatever you are not changing You are choosing. If you're not happy with something in your life and you don't do anything to change it, you're making a choice to stay there. You're making a choice to be unhappy or miserable. You're making a choice to suffer. When it comes to jobs, relationships, and various other situations you are literally only one decision away from a different path. If you're not happy, change things. Work making you miserable? Leave. Find a new job. If you're unhappy in your relationship, seek help or leave. Don't waste anymore time suffering when you could be out there living your best life possible. We only have one shot at our time on this planet, why would you ever want to waste a second of it in a situation that could easily be changed. Happiness is a choice. And its yours. Stop putting that responsibility on anyone or anything other than YOU. • • • Can you spot the areas in your life that could be made better with a couple (difficult) decisions? Where would you start? • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #PepTalksByShee #ModernMama #HappinessProject #HappinessIsAChoice #ChooseHappy #IChooseHappy #SelfLoveProject #SelfLove #SelfLoveAwareness #SpiritualGangsta #SpiritJunkie #SpiritualBlogger #Blogger #DatingAdvice #Dating101 #DatingLife #LifeAdvice #Writer #TruthBomb #GoGetIt (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvt0cKwgzGM/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=pq6kdcif6z8s

《 swipe to see who 😄 It was my baby girls birthday yesterday ❤ She turned 9. I remember the day she was born like it was yesterday. She entered this world like a lion, not wasting any time after only 5hours of labour (her older bro was 36hrs 😬). She was fierce, with an unmistakable powerful energy even back then at only 6lbs 11oz. My little firecracker right from the first breath #ForceToBeReckonedWith She is the most beautiful girl I've ever laid eyes on, inside and out. She makes me proud every single day. I am so honoured that she chose me to be her mama 😁 Happy Birthday my sweet little boo, I cant wait to celebrate with you soon. #HappyBirthdayBabyGirl • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernMama #IMadeThis #ProudMama #HappyBirthdayBoo #HappyBirthday #MamaLlama #MamaBear #BabyGirl #Daughter #MyMiniMe #MiniMe #BeautifulGirl #9YearsOld #SpiritualGangsta #Blogger #Writer #LittleFirecracker #MostBeautifulGirlInTheWorld (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvq_O5Pgz77/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1jxm0k9t66yab

While else is excited to have life balance out again? Only problem... everything is your fault again 🤷‍♀️😂🤦‍♀️ Also all those things that you were putting off u tim this was over .. it's go time, bitches!! • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #MercuryRetrograde #WitchyMemes #ItsGoTime #LetsDoThis #OkToSignThingsNow #YourFault #MercuryRetrogradeCanSuckIt #BackToNormal #AstrologyMemes #AstrologyJunkie #SpiritualGangsta #spiritualblogger #SpiritJunkie #UniversalEnergy #Writer #TruthBomb #FreshStart #MoonLoverAlchemy #MoonLover #AstrologyGeek #Astrology #TarotLover (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvkqlpXgb-k/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=iti7exsqcju0

The cost of not following your dreams.... Is spending the rest of your life building someone else's. #Ouch I'm not saying there is anything wrong with doing what you need to do to make ends meet. If you're happy in your secured and safe 9-5 job, that is perfect. #YouDoYouBoo However, if you're not ok with that and you feel you were put here for more, please, for the love of God, #FollowYourHeart. It's scary and most of the time not all that secure, but the #MentalHealth benefits of living out your purpose is undeniable. As someone who needs to have purpose and fulfillment in her life, I can tell you the cost of not following your heart and doing what you love can be absolutely catastrophic for your mental health. I've been trying to figure out my path for years. I've settled into a job, which is a great gig and pays the bills, but doesn't fulfill my heart or life purpose. I'm in the process of building something amazing and I can't wait to launch and share it with the world. Now that mercury #retrograde is over, I can officially start planning my launch and reveal!! #ExcitingThingsAreComing #EndOfMercuryRetrograde #MercuryRetrograde • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #MadeForMore #SoulPurpose #FulfillingMyDreams #BuildingMyDreams #ChasingMyDreams #ComingSoon #MoonLoverAlchemy #MoonLover #MoonMagic #SpiritualGangsta #SpiritualBlogger #Writer #GoalDigger #TruthBomb #Snapchat #snapchat👻 (at Thornhill, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bvjtdeqg2KE/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=19nm0bccqcaev

Read that again. 👉 Do not allow your loneliness to lower your standards. 👈 Listen, once you get past the loneliness, being alone is actually quite enjoyable. Hard truth, getting past the loneliness stage is tough cookies!! Time alone, especially in between relationships, is so incredibly important. I'd even say its vital. So many times I've heard the age old advice "the best way to get over someone is to get under someone new." 🤦‍♀️ I have to say that this is absolute bullshit. Sure it may offer some temporary reprieve, but in actuality, it's going to do more harm than good. You've probably experienced a lot of trauma, sadness, and disappointment. You've been hurt, broken, and have been left with questions, uncertainty, and probably trust issues. Time alone gives you the opportunity to learn about yourself - to really dig deep and uncover your true wants, needs, and desires. Time alone gives you the opportunity to learn to love yourself and enjoy your own company 💝 #LoveYourself • • • Take the time to heal or you will project the same issues all over everyone else you come into contact or try to build a relationship with. • • • #ModernDating #ModernLife #HealingJourney #RelationshipAdvice #BrokenHeart #Healing #SpiritualGangsta #SpiritualBlogger #Dating101 #DatingAdvice #Loneliness #HeartBreak #Rebound #RespectYourself #SelfLove #SelfLoveProject #DatingInHookupCulture #DatingProblems #DatingColumn #DateLife #RaiseYourStandards #RaiseYourFrequency (at Markham, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/BviN4m5gxGO/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1loczm3su3ed8

My eldest picked up a guitar one day and fell in love. He immediately picked up all the chords and before I knew it he was carrying the damn thing around everywhere. He went from driving me crazy with the constant strum of out of tune chords over and over again, to rhythmic music within a matter of weeks. He's currently teaching himself how to play #BoulevardOfBrokenDreams By #Greenday No matter how much I feel like I fucked up, i see how well my kids are doing, how they are all developing into these incredibly smart and talented little humans and I am do honoured and humbled that they chose mr to be their mother. I made these 💞 Me. I was told that I'd never amount to anything. I'd never become anyone. I was worthless. Fuck those people 🖕 I may not be exactly where I want to be with my life, but when I look at my kids I know I'm on the right track and I'm doing a great job. • • • What's one thing you've done or created in your life that you are ridiculously proud of? #TootYourOwnHorn #TootTootMF • • • #ModernDating #ModernLife #ModernMama #MamaBear #MamaLlama #ProudMama #AppleOfMyEye #TalentedKids #HeGetsItFromHisMama #MusicallyInclined #MakingMusic #GuitarPlayer #FutureMusician #LoveOfMyLife #SpiritualGangsta #MyBaby #HesGettingSoBig #HowDidThisHappen (at Niagara Falls, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bve2sTpAS_M/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=uvptb68c9e9i

Learning to love yourself, broken bits and all, takes time, healing, and ample amounts of #SelfLove Finding someone that can love those parts of you too takes time and patience, and lets be honest here.... you usually have to kiss a few frogs before you land your prince 🤷‍♀️ Your faults are not weaknesses, they are part of the matter that makes up who you are. Without them, you wouldn't be you and that would be a damn shame 👎 #Goals Finding someone that not only understands this, but embraces it is key to a healthy and long lasting relationship. Finding someone that wants to learn about your past not to punish you, but to learn how to love you better should be true #RelationshipGoals 💖 Your flaws are a gift. Stop running from them. Stop hiding them. Start embracing them and loving yourself more because of them. • • • Tell me something you love about yourself. Tag a friend and tell them what you love about them #SpreadLove • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #Md101 #SelfLoveProject #SelfLoveAwareness #2019Goals #LoveYourself #HealingJourney #BentButNotBroken #YouAreAllStardust #BelieveInMagic #SpiritualGangsta #SpreadMadLove #CrazyLove #TrueLove #Romance #ConfidentInLove #EmbraceChange (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvcfPW4gRHX/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1ndtjh2sy4ly8

I'm working on getting my #Magikal creations into the hands of those who need them 🙏 Essential oils for the soul, crafted to help bestow balance, courage and strength based on your #AstrologicalSign. Know your sign, find your blend. #Earth 🌍 #Water 🌊 #Air 💨 #Fire 🔥 • • • #MD101 #MoonLoverAlchemy #ModernDating101 #ZodiacBlends #Astrology #Photoshoot #BehindTheScenes (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvZxnUpgg2_/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1uiv68fvubsej

Pulling a post from the archives today 🤓 This article was written on request from a broken heart 💔 • • • How To Get Through a Breakup -》moderndating101.com/getting-through-breakup/ • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #PepTalksByShee #MD101 #GettingOverABrokenHeart #Heartbreak #BrokenHeart #BreakingUp #RelationshipAdvice #GettingOverYourEx #DatingAdvice #CuresForABrokenHeart #BrokenHeart #HealingJourney #HealingYourself #SelfLove #SelfLoveAwareness #SelfLoveProject #BreakingUp #LoveHurts #EmotionalIntelligence #ControllingEmotions (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvZQiFEA-TK/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=8abp2qfumsk7

I just really like cats, ok! • • • Follow --》 @men_n_meows • • • #CrazyCatLady #ModernDating101 #MD101 #ShowMeYourKitties #TattooedDoll #TattooedMama (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvWjU6fgHzI/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1hc17s9lbfhgo

《New article up on the blog 》 ** link in bio ** • • • Blessed be in this special day 🌛🌚🌜 • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #MD101 #FullMoonEquinox #FullMoon #SpringEquinox #SpringIsHere #Ostara #BlessedBe (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvRC1EUgxjS/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=pix7k5z3gp71

《New post up on the blog》 ** link in bio ** We are in an incredibly powerful energy phase right now. #SpringEquinox Full Super{worm}moon #MercuryRetrograde And a near miss asteroid! 😮 • • • How are you celebrating this week? What are you manifesting? I want to hear about your #FullMoon / #Equinox / #Ostara #Rituals 🌛🌚🌜 • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #WitchyWoman #MD101 #ManifestationRituals #ManifestingMagic #Manifesting #Manifestation #RaiseYourFrequency #RaiseYourVibration #MoonMagic #MoonLoverAlchemy #MoonLover #SpiritualGangsta #SpiritJunkie #SpiritualBlogger #SpiritedWomen #SpiritedWoman (at Niagara Falls, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvPhy-nA7Ee/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1vjd0awliixrp

Single & Sober Dating while sober is complicated. Breaking through the stigma of alcoholism and admitting you have a problem is also hard... 《 NEW ARTICLE ON THE BLOG 》 * LINK IN BIO * Ruling out the very limited list of potential bachelors as a single woman. Funny how not drinking completely changes the game of dating altogether. Something that is already so complicated and frustrateing gets a little bit harder as a sober chick 🙄 • • • #ModernDating101 #AdventuresInDating #DatingLife #DatingThroughRecovery #DatingInYour30s #AlcoholFree #SoberLifestyle #SoberDating #AlcoholicsAnnonymous #BadassWomen #Blogger #DatingBlogger #PepTalksByShee #SingleParents #SingleAndSober #DatingInHookupCulture #SoberChick #8Months🤘 #NeverForgetWhoYouAre #NeverApologizeForBeingAPowerfulFuckingWoman #NeverSettle #StopSettling #KeepLooking #OnlineDating #PoF #PowerfulWoman #SelfLoveProject (at Niagara Falls, Ontario) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvKL2fCAyqk/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1e5e807hwv38r

Ladies, when you truly start to love yourself, your taste in men will change. Your taste in who you choose to spend time with will change. Your priorities will shift. You will start to realize your potential. You will stop settling for: - crappy relationships - shitty men - bad sex - a job you hate - fake friends #ByeFelicia #ByeFelipe 👋 You'll start to make decisions based on YOU and YOUR needs. > > Start loving yourself and stop settling for less than you deserve!!! #GirlYouDeserveTheWorld #WhoRunTheWorld • • • What is one small thing that you can do right now to show yourself a little extra love today? 》 Today I did a #boudoir photoshoot. I had the most amazing time and I feel super empowered and sexy as hell. I understand a photoshoot isnt available to everyone, but self love doesn't have to be overly elaborate. Self love can be buying your favourite ice cream, going to a yoga class, getting your nails done, sleeping in, going to bed early, taking a long drive on your own, etc. • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #ModernMama #SelfLoveProject #SelfLoveAwareness #SelfLove #LoveYourself #RaiseYourFrequency #VibeHigher #StopSettling #StayWoke #StayWeird #SpiritualGangsta #BelieveInMagic #BadassWomen #Blogger #MoreThanAPrettyFace (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvHxAM0gT1d/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1distiwytevr9

Without my nails done: I'm the boss bitch. 💁‍♀️ When my nails are done: I'm the boss, bitch. 👸 Slight, but significant difference • • • Anyone else feel just a little more powerful after a nice manicure and self care treatment? What's your favourite way to treat yourself? • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernLife #BossBitch #SelfCare #SelfLove #SelfLoveAwareness #SelfCareEssentials #Manicure #PrettyNails #Moonstone #SimpleYetSignificant #MoonMagicJewelry #TattooedDoll #TattooedMama (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/BvEsujygkee/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=3gaztu40em18

If your partner is not constantly pushing and encouraging you to do more and live your best life possible, helping you uncover the best possible version of yourself, They're not for you. I once dated a guy... well more than one guy like this unfortunately, that stifled me in every possible way. When he saw me succeed, he got angry. When he saw me rise up, he got scared and tried to anchor me to the ground. When he saw me dedicate time and attention to my growth, he got jealous. He was insecure. He was jealous. He was trying to keep me from seeing my potential. He was worried that if I were to finally see how incredible I was that I'd realise that I could do so much better. He was right. The person you choose to spend your life with should be your biggest cheerleader. They should be cheering you on every step of the way, motivating you to do better. When you feel like your falling and you stop believing in yourself, they should be there to catch you, lift you back up, and remind you how fucking amazing you are #Queen If they take it upon themselves to hold you down in those times of weakness, you need to run. • • • Know your worth then add tax. Remember who you are, and find yourself someone who reminds you daily of how incredible you are 👸 • • • Tag someone that needs to hear this ❤ • • • #ModernDating101 #ModernWoman #RiseUpQueen #RaiseYourFrequency #DatingLife #DatingThroughRecovery #DatingInYour30s #BadassWomen #DatingAStrongWoman #Blogger #FarFromOrdinary #EntrepreneurMindset #NeverSettle #NeverApologizeForBeingAPowerfulFuckingWoman #DatingBlogger #DateLife (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bu6wFR6A7xu/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1m3ksb58gjzi9

**New Post on the Blog** Dating in Hookup Culture. 《 LINK IN BIO 》 As a soulful woman in my 30's who is guarded as fuuck, dating in the time of hookup culture is an absolute nightmare 💔 I've learned a lot in the last 6 years of dating off and on. I've taken deliberate breaks from it all a couple times. I've recently broke a 4 month hiatus and opened myself up to trying again. It took mere minutes of my profile being live on #PoF (again) for me to realize I'm just not cut out for this shit 🤦‍♀️ Nevertheless, I will persist because I know love is out there for someone like me... I just have no fucking clue where or how to find it. I'm surrounded by fuckery and non-committal d-bags whose only interest is screwing over as many woman as he possibly can. #BraggingRights 🤷‍♀️ • • • My single fans... how are you managing to get through this nonsense unscathed? Or are you? • • • #ModernDating101 #DatingAdvice #DatingInYour30s #NonCommittal #Dating #DatingLife #Tinder #Tinderella #Bumble #OnlineDating #DatingProfile #HookupCulture #DatingInHookupCulture #DatingNightmare #SingleAF #SingleLife #DatingInRecovery #FindingLove #SingleInTheCity #SingleLife #DatingBlogger (at St. Catharines) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bu1gtbdgkPo/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=dmoi8oezmv6v