Shame Is Worthless

Koryo-saram are descended from ethnic Koreans enslaved by the USSR, used as slave labor, and then forcibly relocated to Uzbekistan and Kazakhstan, where they were left to die in the cold or survive if they managed to. White Russians, like my doctor, like to say we're inbred. I don't know why. We marry within the community most of the time, but the community is 175k+ strong. That's not really inbreeding. Yet, apparently, this idea we're inbred extends to assuming we must be intersex because of it.

I got my stuff and left. I'm not usually that rude, but I didn't want to deal with this. He got angry with me and I told him - and I know this is rude, too - "I just need a doctor who doesn't know less about medicine and science than ChatGPT's basic mode. And you're not that."

I know that's uncalled for and rude and cruel. But so is what he said. My great-grandparents being slaves isn't why I'm intersex. But also, even if it was, he would still have been mocking a group his people enslaved and murdered and forced into poverty. I don't ask that every white Russian feel guilt about it, but at least do better than this.

this is interracism.

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Hello, Tumblr. I've never posted here, only lurked. But this is one of the most important things in the world to me, and I honestly need to ask you for help. Please reblog if you can.

This will be a long post. It will be summarized with a TLDR at the end, including ways that you can help.

With over 9,200 pages, we are the biggest collection of gender identities on the Internet, especially the biggest source that is readily available. We are a community that has existed since 2009, and has taken off in terms of growth in the last few years.

Today, Fandom decided to close the Gender Wiki. We were given absolutely no warning, and they've only given us a two-week deadline to move the entire wiki to a new host, which we are utterly unprepared to do. The download would also not include any of the 17,000+ images on the Gender Wiki, many of which do not exist anywhere else on the Internet.

Here is a link to the post Fandom staff gave us today, and a paraphrased summary of it below:

https://gender.fandom.com/f/p/4400000000000132176

Fandom staff says that they won't continue to host our wiki because it "spreads harmful misinformation". They believe we have gone too far in "positioning everything as a gender identity", referring to xenogenders. They mention pages with xenogenders referring to suicide/self-harm and violence --- which we, the staff members, were /already/ in the process of deleting before this notice was given to us. They decided that the best solution was not to ask us to delete those pages, or even delete the pages themselves, but instead to remove our entire database.

There are many other wikis on Fandom with much worse references to violence than the Gender Wiki, which Fandom appears to have no problem with whatsoever.

I cannot express enough that this is erasure, and it will absolutely negatively affect the LGBTQ+ community to not have this treasure trove of information readily available.

I am an admin on the Gender Wiki, and I can assure you that our entire staff team is already trying to appeal to Fandom staff. I'll add any updates if they decide to respond to us, but they have no yet given staff any more information than the above

PLEASE help in any way you can. Reblog, spread awareness, or sign this petition if you have a Fandom account. Archive any Gender Wiki pages, especially ones that don't have pages elsewhere, with the Wayback Machine or alternatively archive.is, or even write posts about them here or on other sites. Please help us save this information. It can't possibly be done this quickly without help.

I feel like you can sort of tell how long (or not) someone has existed in fannish spaces by how outraged they get about things like this. Like rings in a tree trunk lol. I've been in so many fandoms. At least one, but often multiple at the same time, since I was a teenager. I've seen just. Everything.

Sex pollen. Mpreg. Incest. Monster fucking. Tentacles. Pairings like Snape/Hermione that would be crazy abusive and illegal if they were real. Wild kinks. The babygirlification of all kinds of villains. So much RPF (the 'I sincerely believe they are secretly a couple' kind and the 'this is fictional but it's fun to imagine they're in love' kind.)

Think about that for a second. Really mull over the implications.

So by that logic, my mom, a pediatric forensic psychologist, must support child abuse and CSA, since she knows it exists. If she knows about how predators operate she's onboard with it. The morally pure way to do her job would be to go in not knowing a single thing about the trauma her patients have been through or how predators operate and to instead be utterly oblivious. Sure it'd make the patients have to be educators, but she would be more anti-abuse by not knowing abuse exists and not knowing about it. It's a bad thing in anon's mind that she knows a lot about how abuse impacts people, how abusers operate and that abuse even exists at all.

This also means criminologists working to understand how to prevent crime are pro-crime. Firefighters are pro-arson. EMTs are pro-medical emergencies.

you need to take them into the woods

I do outdoor education work, and within minutes of any elementary to middle schooler getting free permission to mess around with their friends in a clearing, they’re curious and driven again. they’re asking each other questions and yeeting pinecones at trees (science) and using their bodies. sometimes for evil. as is developmentally right. they want to know the names of birds! they want to teach someone pokemon! they want to build stuff and kick stuff and tackle each other and you into the snow!

they’re basically fucking institutionalized for 90% of their lives but their spirits are alive. you need to take them into the woods you need to treat them like animals with powerful inner lives and they’ll show you they are.

Pick a topic you like, and that's what you're going to read about. Set a minimum word count, and read until you get to it. Start small. Smart easy. First try, it might actually be agonizing.

That's it for the day. Just hit the word count.

Next day, read to the word count again. Read something new! It will be easier today.

And easier the next.

When I say I want you to learn skills to avoid being the victim of financial, medical, legal and written abuse, that is not me judging you. When I say I don't want you to be scammed, used, abused, wake up one day to find something you signed ended up with you relinquishing all your money, be an easy mark for identity fraud, be unable to prove you did/did not do something in a court of law, be unable to provide written statements, be unable to read contracts/bank documents/medical information regarding your own disabilities, that is not being judgy.

My wanting you to not die broke and alone in a system that has demonstrated it doesn't care about disabled people is not ableism. It is not judgment.

Your take that any disability = you cannot do anything, cannot read, cannot write, however, is ableist. It's also disproven by you being able to read this post and type a response.

Disability does not mean you cannot do anything, ever, under any circumstances. Disabled does not mean you cannot even try. And if you think it's "ableist" for me to say "I do not want you to be abused and die", real quick - do you honestly believe the government is going to take care of you if you're abused in one of these ways? Do you genuinely believe so much in, idk, a spouse or friend or family member to take care of you and never die or go away that you're willing to risk your entire life on it?

Pick a topic you like, and that's what you're going to read about. Set a minimum word count, and read until you get to it. Start small. Smart easy. First try, it might actually be agonizing.

That's it for the day. Just hit the word count.

Next day, read to the word count again. Read something new! It will be easier today.

And easier the next.

i literally have learning disabilities that are the reason why i feel this way. it’s hilarious that you have the audacity to turn this into something that it’s not. no this isn’t me being ableist, it’s me raising an alarm bell about what teachers are saying with regards to how recent classes of students have been terrifyingly illiterate.

the fact that you’re reading “what’s going to happen to these kids who aren’t even trying to read and write” and responding with “how dare you shame disabled kids” is actually an example of this very issue of reading comprehension.

I still tested as having the reading speed and comprehension of a college sophomore at the age of 11.

I did that via reading, constantly. I read books. I specifically read books I was told were too hard for me, I read library books, my parents' books, books below my level, everything. I wanted to know the stories. I wanted to learn what the books on gemstones or the past or other cultures said. I wanted especially badly to know what was in the books that were pulled from the library or banned at school, and often had interesting discussions with my mom about them later.

This person's take is that if you're disabled, you cannot ever improve at anything and cannot do anything for yourself. You're disabled so you're shit, so give up and let AI do it all for you. Doing things is obviously impossible, right?

Then why is my dad, a man with autism, ADHD, dyslexia and Bipolar Disorder, who grew up dirt poor, an aviation engineer with 40 years of experience who never messed up once? How was he able to read the books needed to learn that?

Then why is my mom, a woman with autism, ADHD, and Auditory Processing Disorder, someone with a master's degree in psychology who has worked in Social Services, victim advocacy groups and as a psychologist for 30 years?

This "you're disabled so you're incapable so give up" attitude is internalized ableism. You think you can't do anything because you're disabled, so when facts come along that contradict that, you decide they're evil lies.

TL;DR Reading is a skill that improves with practice even in people with autism, ADHD, dyslexia, Auditory Processing Disorder, and mood disorders, just to pull examples from my family.

You are not less capable of practicing just because you're disabled. The results are going to take longer and take more practice, yes. What takes a month for someone else may take two or three for you. Doesn't matter. You'll get it eventually. You just need to try and not to expect yourself to instantly get it.

Disabled people deserve better than to be told they should give up and use Gen AI, which is full of lies and errors, and to be told to resign themselves to being scammed because they're disabled.

Sans from Undertale is an intersex coffee bean transmasc (link), and his variation is Aromatase Excess Syndrome (AEXS) with hypoandrogenism!

Intersex flag-only edits under the cut!

Some of these are so bad that if I qasnt tols they were Jasmine, I wouldnt have known