officially closed.

This isn’t an easy decision at all. We have been contemplating this decision for months. But we decided that this is the best decision for our own mental and physical health. It’s not just this blog either, but the majority of social media we engage in.

We are pretty sure we’re fully done with it this time. We deeply appreciate all of you and your wonderful words, and am so proud of you and the work we did together to uplift each others voices. I will deeply deeply miss you and running this blog. But there has been so many issues, so much infighting, so much bearing on our back that I simply, for my own sake, can’t keep working on this blog.

I have contemplated giving this blog to someone else to run, but we are unsure of who would be up to do that, let alone trust to run this blog. It has a lot of influence in interblr, that is a fact. At almost 2,000 followers, it’s a heavy burden to trust someone with this. So, for now, after the queue runs out, that’s it. The blog wont be posting anymore. Im sorry.

I want you all to know this; the world, it’s so much larger than the internet. There are mountains, and valleys, and oceans, and creatures and people that won’t read a hateful tumblr post or tweet and decide not to embrace you. You are a part of this universe, and the universe wants you here. Don’t give up. You are worthy of everything you want, everything you strive for. I believe in you.

Thank you so much for the, admittedly, short time we had together. Ashé.

This is intersexism.

i went to the comments and saw someone giving the red hair statistic and i was like oh cool the comments are chill

but then i saw someone (presumably perisex) responding to that comment saying "yeah but you have to be careful about statistics because some people count every little thing as being intersex"... like implying that only certain conditions are "real" intersex...

This is intersexism.

I genuinely cannot tell if this post is made as a "sex abolishment" statement or is ignorant towards intersex people. something about the post rubs me the wrong way but i cannot tell if that is reasonable or I'm just confusing myself and reacting poorly because of that. is the post the one being ignorant, or am I?

i am all for abolishing sex and sex assignment, for the record, but I'm intellectually disabled in a way where I sometimes end up getting lost in these conversations.

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I don't see anything wrong with this honestly, not only is the sex binary fake and deeply flawed, but just based on the idea that certain characteristics determine your sex is, you can just say that you are biologically the sex you say you are. Live long and prosper and allat.

I do understand feeling iffy about the "biologically nonbinary" bit because there is a VERY prevalent idea of intersex people being "biologically nonbinary" but again, that's not going to be the case for every perisex nonbinary person, and some intersex people identify their sex as being nonbinary!! Its a very nuanced concept.

there are only two chromosomes. this woman was well into her sixties btw. grown ass woman to a seventeen year old. grown ass woman. grown ass mental health provider. lowkirkuinely i’m at my limit

This is intersexism.

"There are only two chromosomes" yes and all birds fly. Oh wait! Didn't we learn in elementary about penguins? Maybe there's more than just the basic shit we hear when we're five. Idk.

Also, not every intersex variation is a chromosomal variation. Plenty of intersex people have xx and xy and are still intersex. Oh my days.

1. Fundamentally against the game

2. Not interested in knowing what genitals a baby has when born

3. Acutely aware that that child could be trans and/or intersex

Just. Guh. And yeah, she's transphobic and probably intersexist (probably. Never brought it up before but they go hand in hand more often than not) so would not take that well

Oh man while ruminating on this my mom asked me what my real guess was. "Just guess. Play along it won't hurt you" I don't care I have a principle that I want to stick to

This is intersexism.

This is intersexism.

Im so sorry, anon. Your ex is fucking evil and you did not deserve for that to happen to you.

This is intersexism.

This is intersexism.

I cannot agree more. I think of it the same way as any other slur. If a straight man is called a faggot, he still can’t reclaim it. If a nonblack person is called a nigger, they still can’t reclaim it. It’s that simple. Unless you are actually intersex, you cannot call yourself a hermaphrodite, a baeddel or a fu slur (which you also have to be Japanese to reclaim).

This is intersexism.

but for a bit that was intersexist of me to assume that

This is intersexism.

I know it's because this professor has been transphobic and ableist for years so this is not, strictly speaking, just about this. But it's not NOT about this.

This is intersex solidarity.

even worse was that they went sobbing "i just want to do representation :(((" when told how that isnt intersex. someone tried to tell them a whole species cannot be intersex, because then those genitalia would just be the default, but they kept insisting "the whole species is just intersex" (????) and another person also tried to tell them not to use that slur but they just ignored them??? and their friends kept saying stuff about how it was "just a porn phrase"

i dont understand why they felt the need to justify their porn OCs changing genitalia between art, and why they insisted on this being good intersex representation... (but also this person loved to post nazi porn with no trigger warnings so i dont know what i expected -_-)...

this super long time ago and NOT on tumblr, and i think this person rebrand everything and abandon their old internet identity, so i hope they realize this shit was horrible and are better now...

This is intersexism and anti Japanese racism.