I go by Lorynna, it's not my real name.

Basic data:

🌍 europe

🎂 early 20s

♀️ radfem since 2023

🔆 bisexual

Values:

🚫 anti porn

🚫 anti prostitution

🚫 anti religion

🚫 anti surrogacy

🚫 anti bdsm/kink

🚫 anti blackpill ideology

✅ critical of beauty industry

✅ gender abolitionist

✅ pro choice

✅ female liberation

✅ supportive of female separatism

Personal:

🧶 knitting

🎨 painting

📚 reading / writing

🌻 plants

🐶🐁 animals / pets

📷 photography

🎮 games

🥘 cooking

🧠 psychology

💬 conversations

We have a small, friendly groupchat for radfems & rad aligned women on Telegram. If you're interested in mutual support, friends & discussing feminism, send me a DM! Being 20+ and female is a requirement. 🥂

radblr can be pretty toxic / draining so I might log off for a while sometimes ❤️

my inbox is open for anyone that wants to talk 🔆

this post will be edited and expanded at times :)

Links to different topics based on my personal opinions:

"Being hetero you don't have women as a dating option and if you're bisexual you will still suffer from the lack of lesbian representation that makes it hard for you to imagine a relationship with a female partner - additionally the dating pool of potential male partner is much bigger + more socially acceptable and the easier option if you family was for example homophobic."

I am quoting you. You said :"if you're bisexual you will still suffer from the lack of lesbian representation that makes it hard for you to imagine a relationship with a female partner", I am asking how would seeing two women together make bisexual women find women more appealing over the men she wants?

Thanks for providing the link. I of course don't remember every post I've ever written. That particular one is from February 2025, about 1½ yrs ago and I don't stand behind the message and the wording I have used in this post anymore.

For one, as I have explained in my previous response to your ask; Bisexuals need bisexual representation and not every female x female relationship is a lesbian one and it is important to underline that by not simply labeling every relationship between two women as a lesbian relationship.

Secondly, me writing that it is "hard" for women to imagine having a relationship with a female partner without proper representation was worded poorly. What is certainly true, is that said representation shows us what is an option for us and might make us realize that we are same sex attracted sooner. We are living in a heteronormative society after all, where you are assumed and treated as straight unless proven or visible otherwise and that might make it hard for bisexual women who might already be aware of their opposite sex attraction to identify their feelings towards other women as being romantic ones. I hope I managed to get my point across better this time.

How would the representation of women dating make bisexual women find dating another woman more appealing?

oh noo SUCH CRIME

Sure, money can provide a certain kind of freedom and independence, and a romantic partner can technically offer emotional safety and romantic fulfillment. However, the way many of these women approach those topics online can become harmful, both to themselves and to their audiences. I often get the impression that while they preach a form of "girlboss feminism" centered around independence and self-prioritization and - optimization, they are simultaneously waiting for a knight in shining armor, someone who will rescue them and prove them wrong in their belief that the world is as cold and harsh as they experienced it to be growing up.

Many of these women seem to have experienced neglect, instability, violence, or emotional deprivation at some point in their lives. Because of this, they may become especially vulnerable to charm, love bombing, or validation from a potential romantic interest, particularly from men who present themselves as protectors or providers. When someone has spent years feeling emotionally unsafe or unloved, even temporary affection can feel incredibly intoxicating.

That must be why their online personas to me often come across much less as any genuine empowerment and much more as protective armor, carefully constructed identities built around control, desirability, and success. The advice and mantras they constantly repeat can sometimes feel more like coping mechanisms than values they truly, happily live by. As soon as a man enters their lives, many of the strict rules and standards they publicly claim to follow suddenly disappear, revealing the emotional conflict underneath the image they worked so hard to maintain.

In the end, I think this phenomenon says less about hypocrisy and more about unresolved emotional wounds. A lot of these creators are trying to teach confidence, independence and self-worth while struggling to fully embody those things themselves at the same time. Which is not a wrong thing per se - they are trying to do the right thing but as human nature wants it, still crave and go after the things they tell their audience not to. Their content can therefore become a mix of genuine advice, escapism, aspiration and emotional projection which is exactly why so many viewers both admire them and why some eventually become disillusioned by them.

The lifestyle influencers like the wizard liz are propagating is characterized by the patriarchy, even when it is presented as "empowerment" or "high value femininity". A lot of this content appears empowering on the surface only, because it encourages women to prioritize themselves in their friendships and relationships, demand better treatment, set their standards high and seek financial success. However, underneath that language, many of these ideals when closer observed, still center men, male approval, and a woman's desirability within a patriarchal framework.

This talk about the "divine feminine" or "being in your feminine energy" disguises highly traditional, patriarchal expectations in the language of spirituality, healing and empowerment. It's not a new concept - just differently framed.

Another really interesting point of criticism I have come across is that the trend of "divine feminine" generally often overlaps with manifestation culture. This is because women are told that if they embody the correct energy, they will naturally attract wealth, abundance, commitment, luxury and the right men. Structural issues like sexism, class inequality, exploitation, abuse, labor expectations or economic instability are brushed aside entirely, not considered or even become individualized into mindset problems. If a woman is struggling, the implication is often that she is energetically blocked, too "masculine", not healed enough or not embodying femininity correctly.

There is also something deeply narcissistic and psychologically dangerous within certain forms of manifestation culture and spiritual ideology, especially the belief that everything a person attracts is somehow "meant" for them ("it is either a blessing or a lesson", "the universe knows what is meant for me"), aligned with them, or a reflection of their inner world. On the surface, these beliefs are often presented as empowering because they give people a sense of control, purpose, and emotional comfort. But taken to the extreme, they can quickly turn into a form of spiritual delusion that distorts reality and weakens a person's ability to critically assess situations, relationships and even themselves and their choices.

Manifestation culture encourages an intensely self-centered worldview where each event is interpreted through the lens of personal destiny, energetic alignment or divine meaning. If something good happens, it is proof that the universe is rewarding you. If something bad happens, it is reframed as a lesson, a karmic test, or something you subconsciously "attracted."

why should being 4b come more natural to lesbians than to bisexual women. bi women can still choose who they date also, same with osa women, they can still choose to date, just like people can choose who they want to be with when they do. I'm not even saying not to date men, im saying to raise your standards to not include sexists a standard which no man would ever match tho lol