Loose Skeletons

Like I so wish outrage about bad treatment in psychiatry was less "how come they could treat someone who wasn't even insane like that?!" and more "it is wrong that this system has the right to treat ANYONE like that, full stop"

I dont like how "reclaim" has turned into "can use against others in the exact same way it always has been and equally offensively"

The thing is, pursuing a diagnosis usually isn't a case of "being fine and just wanting to feel special", it's a case of "struggling a lot and desperately wanting an explanation that results in the needed support".

u people have got to get more normal ab people who don't make sense to u . I mean like people who ramble on and don't know how to have proper conversation . people who are completely incomprehensible . people who talk about delusions and hallucinations . people who can't understand social cues . people with speech impediments or no speech at all . people with vocal tics . not just because it's the decent thing to do but also bc this is most common in the most vulnerable marginalized people . youth , elders , mentally ill , disabled , addicts as well as more generally people with accents & non English speakers .

the bad thing about having unhealthy habits due to mental illness, is when you DO do something healthy style you can't brag about about it because then people will then know you've been doing it yucky style all along. Like you can't brag you changed your sheets or brushed your teeth because then ppl will be like oh did you not brush your teeth regularly before? Thats yucky disgusting! So you just gotta keep it to yourself. And be proud alone, I suppose.

I personally am proud of you as someone who also just changed his sheets and is working on brushing his teeth in the mornings!

it's so maddening that helpful services for my disabilities "exist" yet anytime i try to access one i don't qualify, it's not in my area, it's not accessible, insurance doesn't cover it, there's rules i can't meet, etc. who is this even for

Like you do need to recognise sometimes that a person is not picking up your social cues and adjust your communication style accordingly. If someone isn't understanding you then you need to change up how you're communicating and not just say the same thing over & over.

diversity win! the therapist who is contractually obligated to call the police on you if you’re too suicidal works for a 🌈queer affirming practice🌈

It's inappropriate and has potential to cause harm when you bring up someone else's trauma unprompted. I don't need to get jumpscared and dissociate into reality 4 inches to the left at 10am on a Monday morning because someone decided it was a good time to ask for details of my CSA. If a person doesn't bring it up on their own and hasn't SPECIFICALLY told you that it's ok to bring up, then don't! The nature of trauma is that it's distressing!

This applies to things as simple as asking what caused someone's PTSD / what their trauma is, too. Someone saying "I have PTSD" isn't an invitation to ask for details. If you really want to understand, you can ask if they're ok with talking about it before proceeding. Better yet, let them know you're available to talk about if if they ever want to. Pushing people into conversations about trauma is fucked up, even if you're well-meaning, and it's not the other person's job to satisfy your curiosity or make you feel better about it.

I don't get why this is such an unfamiliar concept to a lot of people and why they feel so entitled to others' personal business. I've had too many people find out I have PTSD and immediately ask me why, and not always in a well-meaning way, so much as treating me like. Idk how to say it exactly but like a Conversation Topic or true crime doc or something. Or even waiting to insert some "gotcha" about how I can't have real trauma or something. And then there's family who feel like I owe them details because we're family and they "should get to know." And none of it even works like that whatsoever.

Anyway it would be nice if people didn't cause me to switch or have flashbacks or have my day ruined because they couldn't bother to think before talking.

Also reminding a person of details about their trauma in an argument is a shitty, abusive move!! Using someone's trauma to try and explain to them why they can't do something, especially when they've said it's fine? ableist and abusive!!

There is no true self. We're all just metaphors.