A Blog About Cats (and Some Other Stuff)

he spends his days off languidly lounging on his couch that was still almost new from its lack of use, only now covered in the occasional tuft of fur.

when he finds the energy to clean up the dishes that had piled in the sink, he finds company watching him from atop his fancy yet empty fridge.

the always too quiet home is now filled with occasional mews and chirps and sounds of the cat scratching something she probably shouldn’t be, not that he minded anyways.

his once cold and empty bed now had a small critter tucked against his pillow every night, purring as she curls against his shoulder.

he grins when she runs circles around him when he goes to feed her, her excitement shown in her skittering towards the empty bowl beside the dining table.

I want to boost everything this person has said and add on.

The reason I call myself a tomboy now, despite it being seen as a childish word and having had someone swear at me over it because ‘tHeRe’S nO suCh thInG as BoY thInGs anD giRL thIngS sHut uP’ is because I couldn’t call myself that or be like that when I was a kid. It was seen as a negative thing and I was already bullied enough. “Looking like a boy” was the worst thing that could happen to a girl.

And I’m not even 26 yet. We aren’t talking 30+ years ago, we are talking 2000s and even 2010s. It’s only since trans people have become more accepted in the past few years that gender nonconformity has too.

And the people who helped me accept my gender nonconformity more than anyone else? Were trans people. They taught me, “there’s nothing wrong with how you feel. You’re still a valid woman no matter what you wear, how you have your hair or what you’re into ❤️”

And don’t even get me started on how people treat gender nonconforming men. JK Rowling has a lot of nerve to be like “uwu boys can wear dresses and only us gendercrits accept that!” when she has, even in recent works, made femininity in men a negative trait, as well as making masculinity in women a negative trait also.

A lot of people still don’t accept gnc people even now. Just last year I had someone tell me they’d never let their daughter “dress like a boy”, and I’m always terrified to walk into a bathroom in case the next JK Rowling is in there, sees my gender expression and pepper sprays me or worse.