Just Abused Kid Things

james baldwin was so right when he said “the children are always ours, every single one of them, all over the globe; and I am beginning to suspect that whoever is incapable of recognizing this may be incapable of morality.”

If your system doesn't account for the fact that Parents Are Going To Be Abusive/Neglectful/Insufficient then it objectively sucks I'm sorry I don't make the rules

Monitored bank accounts for those under 18. Requiring parental consent for medical procedures. Parental controls on personal devices. "We won't teach this at school because parents are supposed to address it at home." Anything that puts all of the child's power onto the parents' hand, anything that assumes parents are going to inherently do enough of a good job no one else needs to interfer, every single one of these IS going to be used by controlling, neglectful or unprepared parents and already are, and if the system did not account for that very real, tangible, dangerous tendency, then it's not worth fucking anything. You shouldn't make things "for the youth"/with children in mind if you are going to overlook this painfully common aspect of their lives u_u

(getting a taste of my own medicine) actually this is okay. Is this what you guys have bene whining about? Jesus christ

I hate that you can be like “this experience was not traumatic for me, that’s stupid” but then you start shaking like a chihuahua while talking about it

learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it

always good to check whether your coping strategy has become something that needs its own coping strategies

surprisingly difficult pill to swallow: most people are not playing 8 dimensional mind chess and can be taken at face value

I think it’s normal for people to be mad at each other sometimes even if they’re close friends or family or intimate with each other. Like I think that’s a normal and healthy part of relationships that can happen sometimes

“Why were you on Mad At Me island” because at the time I was mad at you and yet our friendship has weathered that without trouble

I went to Mad At You island because my feelings are my problem. I needed to stomp down the beach until I could sit and watch the sunrise. I built a sandcastle and did some thinking. Then I boarded the good ship You Matter To Me and sailed it all the way to meet you on the Let’s Talk Shore of I Love You Island.

honestly it seems really unfair that if you have a shitty childhood you have to deal with all these extra problems once you’re older. i think that you should get to have some kind of beam attack and a double jump instead

abusive parents will give you mental illness they've never even heard of, put you in a state of hopelesness where you don't expect to survive or be worth anyone's attention and yet they have the absolute gall to resent you for 'having it better than they did'

can not recommend letting your child do a big scream when they are frustrated enough. Just straight up ask them like "hey do you need to do a big scream?" And if they say yes let cover your ears and say okay GO and let them scream because you know what eventually when you're really frustrated your little person with your face is gonna look at you with their ears covered and yell "HEY DO YOU NEED TA DO A BIG SCHREAM?!" and you can just... do a big scream and it won't scare them and you will feel better too

Hey this is literally great advice for anyone just warn the people around you that you need to do a big schream and do it, so they will do it back and it is very cathartic

guys i have a confession to make i literally betrayed the noble unicorn

I’m not finding any other good words for this so I’m calling it “The FreakyWeirds” and it’s when something is only Freaky because u are Weird

Oh wicked, thanks!