Just Abused Kid Things

(getting a taste of my own medicine) actually this is okay. Is this what you guys have bene whining about? Jesus christ

I hate that you can be like “this experience was not traumatic for me, that’s stupid” but then you start shaking like a chihuahua while talking about it

learning that addiction is a progressive narrowing of the range of things that make one happy was kinda life changing for me. i apply it to everything not even just addiction i am always checking to ask if i am narrowing my range of happiness or widening it

always good to check whether your coping strategy has become something that needs its own coping strategies

surprisingly difficult pill to swallow: most people are not playing 8 dimensional mind chess and can be taken at face value

I think it’s normal for people to be mad at each other sometimes even if they’re close friends or family or intimate with each other. Like I think that’s a normal and healthy part of relationships that can happen sometimes

“Why were you on Mad At Me island” because at the time I was mad at you and yet our friendship has weathered that without trouble

I went to Mad At You island because my feelings are my problem. I needed to stomp down the beach until I could sit and watch the sunrise. I built a sandcastle and did some thinking. Then I boarded the good ship You Matter To Me and sailed it all the way to meet you on the Let’s Talk Shore of I Love You Island.

honestly it seems really unfair that if you have a shitty childhood you have to deal with all these extra problems once you’re older. i think that you should get to have some kind of beam attack and a double jump instead

abusive parents will give you mental illness they've never even heard of, put you in a state of hopelesness where you don't expect to survive or be worth anyone's attention and yet they have the absolute gall to resent you for 'having it better than they did'

can not recommend letting your child do a big scream when they are frustrated enough. Just straight up ask them like "hey do you need to do a big scream?" And if they say yes let cover your ears and say okay GO and let them scream because you know what eventually when you're really frustrated your little person with your face is gonna look at you with their ears covered and yell "HEY DO YOU NEED TA DO A BIG SCHREAM?!" and you can just... do a big scream and it won't scare them and you will feel better too

Hey this is literally great advice for anyone just warn the people around you that you need to do a big schream and do it, so they will do it back and it is very cathartic

guys i have a confession to make i literally betrayed the noble unicorn

I’m not finding any other good words for this so I’m calling it “The FreakyWeirds” and it’s when something is only Freaky because u are Weird

Oh wicked, thanks!

People who are impossible to please fucking hate it when you give up trying. If nothing's ever good enough anyway, literally why bother. If you're going to bitch just as hard about how uncomfortable your bed is no matter how nice it is, you're sleeping on the floor. If you're going to bitch just as hard about how the nice outing specifically tailored to accommodate you doesn't please you enough no matter how much anyone tries to appease you, you're not coming. If no homecooked gourmet meal made exactly how you said you like it is sufficiently to your liking, you're getting the cheapest shitty frozen TV dinner. Maybe seething at it harder will make it thaw faster.

maybe people who are impossible to please are in fact impossible to please because they don't know how to express gratitude, they actually really appreciate it, just no one ever taught them to say thank you

Well, if being nice to them could teach them that, it would have worked by now.

You've got a lot more grit and dedication than I do, and there's no way to say this without sounding unintentionally sarcastic but I admire your willingness to reparent your friends. I could not.

[image: tweet by overlyxclusive: "when people love you they find joy in making life easier for you"]