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shoutout to the woman from my high school martial arts class who liked to get me in joint locks and then joke about how I was easy to catch. you cannot comprehend how psychosexually formative that was for me

imagine, if you will, having an adolescent half-crush on someone way older than you, which is also confusingly blurred up with admiration of them as a role model. now imagine that you and that person are in a social environment where it is acceptable to (platonically, consensually) choke someone. I think I was very normal about it considering the circumstances

she would demonstrate takedowns on her husband (also in the class, and who was not a small man) before we got to try them and the first time I saw her twist him around and down onto the floor like it was easy my entire abdomen clenched

I cannot stress enough how eager this guy was to be manhandled (womanhandled?) and flipped around by his wife. he was her de facto guinea pig whenever she got to teach and I never saw him unenthusiastic about it. he'd set himself up for a joint lock fully smiling. the other adults in the class occasionally teased him about it (being so quick to let your wife put you in a submission hold tends to raise a few eyebrows), and I always kind of wanted to defend him but what would I have said? like, don't worry. I won't judge you. I also like being pinned down by your wife

That last sentance really hits ya like a psychosexually formative takedown

[Image ID: Reddit comment from somethingObscur edited to read: I also choose this guy's wife. /End ID]

both of them are me

thank you caleb widogast for being polyamorous and also possibly demonstrating having a complicated and dubiously indifferent personal relationship to marriage. thank you essek thelyss for being on either (or both) aromantic/asexual spectrum(s) and falling in love with a polyamorous man and having an unconventional approach to romantic/sexual relationships because of it. thank you to both of them for having ire with government authority and also their respective indifferent feelings to religion generally that most likely influences their individual opinions on marriage. i love that they can spend the rest of caleb's life together in a non-traditional way and that's the happiest ending their characters could achieve with the other in their life. i love that it absolutely does not discredit or undervalue how important they are to each other. it's so beautiful. i love that it introduces conversations of the nuance of marriage and maybe help people understand why marriage isn't the ideal result or even a particular interest for some people. i love being polyamorous and aromantic and unconventional in a world that so desperately wants other people to fit into some predetermined idea of what relationships are supposed to look like and telling them NO! THAT WON'T MAKE ME HAPPY! I'M ALREADY HAPPY WITH THIS! I WANT ANYONE WHO WANTS TO BE TO BE HAPPY LIKE THIS TOO!!! YOU CAN CHOOSE ANYTHING YOU WANT IN LIFE! NOBODY GETS TO FORCE YOU INTO A BOX YOU DON'T WANT TO BE IN!!!

the thing about phone in bed is that it's so awesome. almost makes you feel like betraying & destroying yourself for nothing isn't all so bad

This is transfeminism!

dudes will be like "if you don't Contribute To Society you don't get to live, that's the simple facts" meanwhile their job is like Marketing and Brand Development Specialist