Asking the right questions is half the work

TOTK - Eternal (part 1)

All good things take time.

The only things that work without rest are machines; literally everything that lives requires rest.

women can do that too

"no, it's expected of men to financially provide for the family!!"

that is a gender expectation based upon a social construct, which originally stemmed from misogyny in the first place

"no one cares about men's feelings and thinks they should be emotionless!"

gender expectation again. you don't have to do this or be around people who enforce this.

"men are expected to do all the hard shit for the family, to do all the unpleasant work, do all the hard labor!"

women are capable of all that too. and like you don't have to do that and also don't have to be around people that force you to do that.

so, I recently moved to a better part of town. things are a lot more walkable. it's great. as someone without a car, there are places to go to: boba places, libraries with more than one room, bookstores, shuls, parks, things like that. it's great!

it's also more expensive.

if you disallow phones for under a certain age, teens with wealthier parents, who live in places where there's more to do and more resources, will have more things to do that are considered socially acceptable, inasmuch as any activity by teens today that's not sitting silently while also engaging with peers while also studying while also helping out in the community is considered socially acceptable.

if teens who can't afford to live there can't have phones? what are they supposed to do?

(and to be clear, i'm not just talking about poor teens. if you look at the fairly middle-class suburb of cleveland my dad grew up in, he could walk, today, to, it seems, a storage place, a sears, a bar, a carpet and upholstery cleaning place, and a gas station. which is. uh.)

so these teens, they go and hang out in places. the reaction? let's look at van aken district, in cleveland (warning: fox link, i'm sorry, it was the only semi-decent non-paywalled news source covering it)

first of all, note that one of the things was teens...loitering.

loitering.

existing. teens existing in a public space led to the police department coming in.

and people wonder why teens spend time on their phone.

oh, just go somewhere you're not expected to spend money? yeah, they'd love to, i'd imagine, but adults defunded schools so afterschool activities cost money. adults defunded libraries so those are open weird hours that mostly overlap with school.

you can't have it both ways. you want teens off their phones, and you're not willing to give them free public spaces and reliable transport and all that stuff? fine. go ahead. but you don't get to complain about teens loitering. you need to let teens in.

you guys like hollow knight? and silksong also? me too :)

on being yourself