Your six-word text post activated my special interest and now like a sleeper agent Iâm going to share some historical context that nobody asked for on the homoeroticization of the word âbuddyâ...
An excerpt from Chapter 7 (âComrades in Armsâ) of Allan BĂŠrubĂŠâs Coming Out Under Fire: The History of Gay Men and Women in World War II (1990):
By encouraging men [in the military] to pair up, the buddy systems gave a respectability to devoted male couples, whether or not they included gay men, that was unusual in civilian life. Even constant companions were protected from harassment by temporarily narrow definitions of deviant relationships. âThe choice of a buddy,â explained Stewart Stern, who after the war was screenwriter for the film Rebel Without a Cause, âwas as or more critical than that of a bride. You'd be living in a kind of physical intimacy which was unlike any other. The classic David Duncan photos of buddies consoling each other, those who had lost their buddies, was very expressive of this. And what greater love song in those days than âMy Buddyâ? Men were having the experience of never having been so close to other men.â Buddies watched out for each other, prayed for each other, did their best not to let each other down.
To outsiders the open affection that buddies expressed toward one another, which was captured in wartime photographs, can appear to be surprisingly âgay.â Gay civilians at the time clipped buddy photographs from magazines, such as one from Life of two GIs sleeping with their bodies intertwined on a park bench, as rare keepsake images of male intimacy. In the 1980s the popular wartime song âMy Buddyâ became a signature piece for many gay men's choruses, who recognized in its lyrics an open expression of male love that was rare in American society outside of gay life.
The photograph in Life magazine referenced above:
Source: Life Magazine, September 13, 1943, pg. 30. Accessed via Google Books.
The excerpt also references the 1922 song âMy Buddy,â which is so worth a listen if youâre not familiar:
This is one of the earliest recordings by Henry Burr, and it has been covered many times since. My favorite version is Frank Sinatraâs 1939 cover with Harry James and his orchestra. Iâm also very fond of Chet Bakerâs 1954 version with his signature soft vocals, but I digressâŚ
The point is, check out these lyrics:
Nights areâ
long since you went away
I think about you all through the day
My buddy, my buddy
Nobody quite so true
Miss your voice, the touch of your hand
Just long to know that you understand
My buddy, my buddy
Your buddy misses you
Buddies through all of the gay days
Buddies when something went wrong
I wait alone through the gray days
Missing your smile and your songâŚ
Source: âMy Buddyâ sheet music, 1922. Accessed via University of Maine Digital Commons.
The first time I heard this song I actually looked up the history and etymology of the word âbuddyâ to see if it had a (heterosexual) romantic connotation in the early 20th century, and could find no evidence that it did. As far as I can tell, this is a song about friendship expressed with a passion that by modern sensibilities comes off as intensely romantic. And, as BĂŠrubĂŠ suggests, was adopted by the queer community as early as the 1940âs (and likely before) as an expression of gay love--
(the homoeroticization of the word âbuddy,â as it were).