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"masculinity" is not glorified when it's the Wrong Kind of Masculine. trans masculinity is not glorified. queer masculinity is not glorified. a woman's masculinity is not glorified. men of colors' masculinities might be fetishized, but they are not glorified.

a space is not "dominated by masculinity", it's dominated by patriarchal ideas of manhood: cis, white, straight, abled men who look and act a certain way.

not just him, but there were many other examples too, like white conservatives who have mexican immigrant friends and family or people in the community important to them who were mexican immigrants, and they voted for trump because they thought trump was just getting rid of “criminals”, and then they regret it when their families and communities get torn apart by deportations of their spouses, their friends, their favourite restaurant owners, etc.

anyways, i hope young queers, trans people esp, understand that when conservatives talk about “pedophiles” and “groomers”, they’re not talking about actual child abusers, they’re talking about all queer people. they’re talking about all trans people. it’s why in florida, they’re categorizing “drag” as a child sex crime, and making sex crimes against children punishable by death. they’re trying to execute every single trans person, and that’s just the rhetoric they’re using

(Afternoon April 13, 2023) The Missouri Attorney General just used an Emergency Rule to ban all gender-affirming care for people of all ages (yes, adults) in the state.

In order to receive any care, transgender minors and adults alike will have to:

have 3 years of documented “severe” dysphoria

18 months of state-mandated conversion therapy

have zero mental health conditions, most specifically anxiety, depression, or autism

require tests for “social contagion” for 15 years after beginning care

Men are violent and not in control of themselves

Men are subhuman and not worth caring about

Men don’t have emotions

Men exist to fuck, fight, and labor until they die

It is good when men die

The only way to combat this is to say that no. Men are loving human beings. They exist to make art and build relationships and have feelings. Men deserve healthy, whole lives. Men should be loved and cared for and treated with affection and gentleness.

You cannot combat toxic masculinity and hate men. Because that’s just regurgitating toxic masculinity and some of the worst offenders for perpetuating it are so-called feminists.

So when people that aren’t men make sweeping generalizations about men, manhood, and how male privilege operates without talking to marginalized men, I often find myself going “No, I know that’s wrong.” In a recent example that I’ve seen many versions of, I saw someone assert that male privilege is immutable and men can present themselves however they want without being declared not men. And, well, no. Off the top of my head, east asian men, indigenous men, intersex men, and short men are considered feminine and have to adopt higher levels of gendered signifiers to maintain privilege. Fat men and disabled men are degendered in much the same way that fat and disabled women are, and for the same reason: that fat and disabled people are not considered “fit” to participate in sex, relationships, and family, which is a huge part of gendered roles and expectations. Men that deliberately adopt feminine presentations being violently ejected from manhood is one of the pillars of homophobia.

I wonder if this lack of examining the perspectives of marginalized men is why fragility in your masculinity is so derided. If you’re only looking at the hyperprivileged men that have never had their place in manhood questioned, then it may seem reasonable to assume that men being unsure of their masculinity and worrying over their presentation and actions are being absurd. But there are many, many men that teeter on the edge of being accepted as men, and the penalties for failing to be accepted are steep.

Have you noticed that even in very progressive circles, one of the first things that asshole men are made fun of for are feminine traits? Shortness, high voices, etc.? That’s because if you can move someone outside the bounds of “acceptable” gender, you can enact extreme cruelty towards them with little to no social consequences. You also see this happen with masculine women, or, women who are interpreted as masculine simply because someone doesn’t like them. If you are failing to gender properly, people feel permitted to hurt you more. This is not a defense of assholes, mind. It’s a notation of the tactics that are used, and how they are rooted in gender policing, which has a host of bigotries attached to it.

I wonder what progressive circles would look like if we uplifted the stories of marginalized men more, encouraging them to talk about their experiences with gender and their marginalizations. I wonder if we would get a fuller picture of marginalization, and if more marginalized men would find unexpected solidarity. I wonder if we would actually get spaces where marginalized men can talk freely about their feelings, and what effect that would have on the mental health of marginalized men, who have, on balance, some of the worst mental health in society.

In the US, there is far, far more violence directed against men for being gender nonconforming… or even totally gc but gc in a way the violent man disapproves of or doesn’t perceive as masculine, like being a “nerd”… than there is against women for being gnc. And yes, there is plenty of violence against gnc women. But violence against men, by men, for being insufficiently toxicly masculine, is utterly normalized in our culture.

Honestly, this kind of comment is… kind of what I’m talking about. All discussions of the problems and difficulties facing men have been so heavily hijacked by the assumption that they’re bad faith that it’s extraordinarily difficult to get across that marginalized men’s marginalization is affected by gender without people making the assumption that you’re simply protecting patriarchy. Shitty misogynistic hyperprivileged men have poisoned the well for marginalized men seeking to talk about our issues and how they intersect with our gender.

Other marginalized people see them when they look at us. Because of this, they ask us to not talk about manhood. It is not recognized that our manhood is often wildly different from the manhood of the men with power, and that the different shape of it often means that the privileges of manhood are withheld because our manhood is too strange to them. Womanhood and other genders are heavily impacted by marginalization, and their gender affects how they are marginalized because many of the forms those genders take under circumstance are considered particularly unacceptable. Gender is filtered through marginalization, and marginalization through gender. We need to recognize that this complex interaction of gender and marginalization holds true for how manhood forms and exists as well. This issue takes on particular complexity for multigender men, whose genders may be impacted in different ways.

Men are already socially encouraged to not seek help, to be strong and silent, to not be emotional or vulnerable. The betrayed promise of progressive spaces to marginalized men is the promise that they would be spaces where men could be free of this enforced stoicism. When you add intense pressure to not talk about how manhood impacts how oppression is enacted on you, and how oppression impacts your manhood, this multiplies. There is little to no space to celebrate or even discuss marginalized manhood in all of its variety, beauty, sorrow, frustration, and complexity. This lack of ability to express our connections between marginalization and manhood only further widens the gap between our realities and the perceptions of marginalized people who aren’t men.

“Not all men” is about denying that people that aren’t men experience fear and anxiety because of living under patriarchy, passing off the problems of patriarchy as “Well, I don’t do that!” or “Well, the men I know don’t do that!”, or even denying that patriarchy as a whole exists as a harmful structure. This is about recognizing that the experiences of marginalized men are not the same as the stories about manhood told in popular culture, and how that can impact how marginalized men are treated and viewed, as well as that a good part of the picture of manhood is missing from the general understanding of manhood and of how patriarchy operates.

There is a difference between denial that patriarchy is a problem and asking for the recognition that within patriarchy, some men are discarded or excluded from manhood, and that manhood is in fact an intersection that affects how marginalization is experienced. Manhood not being a marginalized gender when taken as a whole does not mean that manhood does not affect how marginalization is experienced. The systems are made to cater to men, but they are meant to cater to men that pass the tests of manhood without registering as a threat to be eliminated from society.

Men are much more likely to be perceived as a threat, leading to the killing and mass jailing of men of color and visibly mentally ill men. Men are required to be stoic and silent, leading to underreporting and disbelief of male victims of violence and rape. Disabled men experience a specific kind of disdain and discrimination because men are expected to be the strong ones and because men are expected to become patriarchs. GNC and gay men experience specific and gendered violence because they’re not “gendering” properly, something that cannot be separated from their gender. Men are more likely to be homeless and less likely to have support systems, because of the ways that toxic masculinity places pressure on men to be independent and not accept help. Men are in fact experiencing specific problems influenced by how they are men.

Manhood is not a universal advantage because patriarchy is affected by other systems, such as systemic racism, ableism, homophobia, capitalism, intersexism, and transphobia. These systems cannot effectively be untangled without significant populations falling through the cracks. To get a narrower view of the problems facing people who aren’t men, we can examine patriarchy and sexism in detail. But we must also recognize that when we zoom out, oppression is a massive and tangled system that is heavily interconnected and that actually only unilaterally benefits a small minority of people. If we can get more people to recognize the connections and similarities that exist between oppressions instead of separating based on them, we can form larger and more tightly bound groups to benefit all of us.

This is an opinion I developed by getting my head out of the discourse and working in person with other marginalized men. This is an opinion I developed standing in food bank lines with disabled men, fat men, and men of color. This is an opinion I developed in my work volunteering to assist other poor people, and spending time talking to other mentally ill and trans men. This is an opinion I developed in online support groups for men of marginalized religions. This is an opinion I developed while assisting men and boys from local indigenous nations. This is an opinion I developed seeing how little men are allowed to articulate that their gender does affect how they experience marginalization, and how deeply they expressed how it did when they trusted me. This is an opinion developed due to seeing the real world impacts of the attitude that men are a monolith, and how it affects marginalized men.

In 1934-1936, trans brothers Mark and David Ferrow of Yarmouth, UK, both transitioned at age 13 with full parental support. Mark medically transitioned first in 1939 at 17 and his brother soon followed. “Though we have been girls, we have both felt men at heart,” Mark told a reporter. Their stories show that trans youth can grow up to be happy, celebrated adults.

If you confront them about it, they'll be the first to tell you that they absolutely do not support Rowling's Problematic Views, but they just have to see their favorite middle aged men waving sticks around for two hours. It's not their fault, really.

Well what if I told you that by still appearing in these movies, your favorite middle aged men are being part of the problem and you shouldn't support them either? That includes Eddie Redmayne, Jude Law and especially Mads Mikkelsen, because he signed up to this franchise after Rowling started sharing her transphobic views. Maybe you should consider why that is.

And before you start with any "But the contract...!" nonsense:

Katherine plays Tina, one of the main characters in the Fantastic Beasts franchise. After she took a firm stance against Rowling's bigotry last year, she's rumoured to have been more or less written out of the franchise, she isn't in any of the promo material and leaks indicate that she only has a few scenes in the new movie. Your faves have no excuse, they're more famous and wealthy than Katherine, their careers wouldn't be in danger for doing this, they simply don't want to.

JKR is literally leveraging transphobic outrage is get herself trending on social media to boost her movie trailers.

Twitter is making this into a "stand with survivors or stand with rapists" false dichotomy.

Don't be fooled.

Gendering someone correctly is not a reward for good behaviour nor a courtesy to be rescinded. Misgendering is not part of the punishment.

This new furore follows on the heels of the UK's state broadcaster publishing an article alleging that "some" trans women are trying to force lesbians into sex - a spurious claim supported only by a opinion survey conducted by a transphobic hate group and an interview with Lily Cade, a cis lesbian who has admitted to sexually assaulting multiple women. The article has been defended by the BBC and remains online, although Cade's testimony has been removed.

TL; DR: Rowling is not a friend to survivors of sexual assault and rape; as @fandomsandfeminism said, she is using rape survivors' experiences to drive support for her bigotry and revenue for her franchise. This is JK Rowling profiting off of rape victims.

it was really interesting because he said before the aids epidemic, being gay was almost cool. like, it was really becoming accepted. but aids forced everyone back in the closet. it destroyed friendships, relationships, so many cultural centers closed down over it. it basically obliterated all of the progress that queer people had made in the past 50 years.

and like, it’s weird to me, and what i brought to the conversation (i really couldn’t say much though, i was speechless mostly) was like, it’s so weird to me that there’s no continuity in our history? like, aids literally destroyed an entire generation of queer people and our culture. and when you think about it, we are really the first generation of queer people after the aids epidemic. but like, when does anyone our age (16-28 i guess?) ever really talk about aids in terms of the history of queer people? like it’s almost totally forgotten. but it was so huge. imagine that. like, dozens of your friends just dropping dead around you, and you had no idea why, no idea how, and no idea if you would be the next person to die. and it wasn’t a quick death. you would waste away for months and become emaciated and then, eventually, die. and i know it’s kinda sophomoric to suggest this, but like, imagine that happening today with blogs and the internet? like people would just disappear off your tumblr, facebook, instagram, etc. and eventually you’d find out from someone “oh yeah, they and four of their friends died from aids.”

I’m 36. I came out in 1995, 20 years ago. My girlfriend and I started volunteering at the local AIDS support agency, basically just to meet gay adults and meet people who maybe had it together a little better than our classmates. The antiretrovirals were out by then, but all they were doing yet was slowing things down. AIDS was still a death sentence.

The agency had a bunch of different services, and we did a lot of things helping out there, from bagging up canned goods from a food drive to sorting condoms by expiration date to peer safer sex education. But we both sewed, so… we both ended up helping people with Quilt panels for their beloved dead.

Do the young queers coming up know about the Quilt? If you want history, my darlings, there it is. They started it in 1985. When someone died, his loved ones would get together and make a quilt panel, 3’x6’, the size of a grave. They were works of art, many of them. Even the simplest, just pieces of fabric with messages of loved scrawled in permanent ink, were so beautiful and so sad.

They sewed them together in groups of 8 to form a panel. By the 90s, huge chunks of it were traveling the country all the time. They’d get an exhibition hall or a gym or park or whatever in your area, and lay out the blocks, all over the ground with paths between them, so you could walk around and see them. And at all times, there was someone reading. Reading off the names of the dead. There was this huge long list, of people whose names were in the Quilt, and people would volunteer to just read them aloud in shifts.

HIV- people would come in to work on panels, too, of course, but most of the people we were helping were dying themselves. The first time someone I’d worked closely with died, it was my first semester away at college. I caught the Greyhound home for his funeral in the beautiful, tiny, old church in the old downtown, with the bells. I’d helped him with his partner’s panel. Before I went back to school, I left supplies to be used for his, since I couldn’t be there to sew a stitch. I lost track of a lot of the people I knew there, busy with college and then plunged into my first really serious depressive cycle. I have no idea who, of all the people I knew, lived for how long.

The Quilt, by the way, weighs more than 54 tons, and has over 96,000 names. At that, it represents maybe 20% of the people who died of AIDS in the US alone.

There were many trans women dying, too, btw. Don’t forget them. (Cis queer women did die of AIDS, too, but in far smaller numbers.) Life was and is incredibly hard for trans women, especially TWOC. Pushed out to live on the streets young, or unable to get legal work, they were (and are) often forced into sex work of the most dangerous kinds, a really good way to get HIV at the time. Those for whom life was not quite so bad often found homes in the gay community, if they were attracted to men, and identified as drag queens, often for years before transitioning. In that situation, they were at the same risk for the virus as cis gay men.

Cis queer women, while at a much lower risk on a sexual vector, were there, too. Helping. Most of the case workers at that agency and every agency I later encountered were queer women. Queer woman cooked and cleaned and cared for the dying, and for the survivors. We held hands with those waiting for their test results. Went out on the protests, helped friends who could barely move to lie down on the steps of the hospitals that would not take them in — those were the original Die-Ins, btw, people who were literally lying down to die rather than move, who meant to die right there out in public — marched, carted the Quilt panels from place to place. Whatever our friends and brothers needed. We did what we could.

OK, that’s it, that’s all I can write. I keep crying. Go read some history. Or watch it, there are several good documentaries out there. Don’t watch fictional movies, don’t read or watch anything done by straight people, fuck them anyway, they always made it about the tragedy and noble suffering. Fuck that. Learn about the terror and the anger and the radicalism and the raw, naked grief.

A visual aid: this is the Quilt from the Names Project laid out on the Washington Mall

I was born (in Australia) at the time that the first AIDS cases began to surface in the US. While I was a witness after it finally became mainstream news (mid-85), I was also a child for much of it. For me there was never really a world Before. I’m 35 now and I wanted to know and understand what happened. I have some recommendations for sources from what I’ve been reading lately:

And the Band Played On: Politics, People and the AIDS Epidemic by Randy Shilts is a seminal work on the history of HIV/AIDS. It’s chronological and gives an essential understanding of all the factors that contributed to the specific history of the virus’ spread through the US and the rest of the world, the political landscape into which it landed (almost the worst possible)*. Investigative journalism and eyewitness account. Shilts was himself an AIDS casualty in 1994.

AIDS at 30: A History by Victoria Harden

The Origin of AIDS by Jaques Pepin for the science of it all.

Moving Politics: Emotion and ACT UP’s Fight against AIDS.

The Secret Epidemic: The Story of AIDS and Black America.

Larry Kramer is a pretty polarising figure and he had issues with the sexual politics of gay New York to begin with (see: Faggots) but he’s polarising for a reason: he’s the epidemic’s Cassandra. Reports from the Holocaust collects his writings on AIDS.

I don’t think I can actually bring myself to read memoirs for the same reason I can’t read about the Holocaust or Stalinist Russia any more. But I have a list: 

The AIDS Generation: Stories of Survival and Resilience

The Quilt: Stories from the Names Project

Body Counts: A Memoir of Politics, Sex, AIDS, and Survival by Sean Strub

Borrowed Time: And AIDS Memoir by Paul Monette

Read or watch The Normal Heart. Read or watch Angels in America. Read The Mayor of Castro Street or watch Milk. Dallas Buyers Club has its issues but it’s also heartbreaking because the characters are exactly the politically unsavory people used to justify the lack of spending on research and treatment. It’s also an important look at the exercise of agency by those afflicted and abandoned by their government/s, how they found their own ways to survive. There’s a film of And the Band Played On but JFC it’s a mess. You need to have read the book.

Some documentaries:

Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt (1989) [hard to find]

How to Survive a Plague (2012)

We Were Here (2011)

Everyone should read about the history of the AIDS epidemic. Especially if you are American, especially if you are a gay American man. HIV/AIDS is not now the death sentence it once was but before antiretrovirals it was just that. It was long-incubating and a-symptomatic until, suddenly, it was not.

Read histories. Read them because reality is complex and histories attempt to elucidate that complexity. Read them because past is prologue and the past is always, in some form, present. We can’t understand here and now if we don’t know about then.

That these were all names of over 20 dead people that someone knew, often it was people who’d all been members of a club or threatre group.

Here’s the link to the digitization: http://research.microsoft.com/en-us/um/redmond/projects/aidsquilt/

My parents took care of him as he died, but they go to church 5 times a week to this day and though grandpa died saying he had no regrets my parents still insist that he must have “repented” for his “sin” before he died. The thought comforts them, apparently.

1.) Dean's death. He really didn't have to die. It was so predictable and just downright unnecessary.

2.) Dean believing he will always die on a hunt and then dying on a hunt. The fact that he always had it in his head he would die young and at the end of a gun or knife should be the exact reason he didn't die that way. The real plot twist would have been if he lived to be old and died peacefully. Him dying that way was sooooooo fucking predictable and cliche bro.

3.) Deans entire character being reduced to being a brother and liking pie/cars. There is so much more to Dean than that. He is one of the most beautiful and complex characters to have ever come out of television and the fact that they threw out all his development is just downright disgusting and so fucking disrespectful.

4.) Dean's death coming at the time it did and the message it sent to mentally ill fans. Dean has been shown to be suicidal before. He's also been shown to have PTSD and other mental disorders. So he hasn't necessarily been WANTING to die, but if it did happen he wouldn't be mad. Until the finale. Dean had finally started wanting to live. He finally decided he was going to live the life he wanted and make himself better. To give himself a better life. He started applying for jobs, got a dog, he was excited and ready to live life so Cas' sacrifice wasn't for nothing. And as soon as there is light at the end of the tunnel for Dean, he's brutally murdered and is left scared and in pain for a couple long and excruciating minutes.

5.) Every ounce of character development for the boys was thrown out the window .

6.) Eileen. Where tf is she? Did Jack bring her back? Was she Sam's blurry wife? Like what was the purpose of bringing her back if you were just gonna kill her again? Wtf was the reason for giving us ANY saileen this season if you were just gonna give Sam a blurry wife? It doesn't make sense bro.

7.) Cas was only mentioned 2 times. He has been the Winchester's best friend for 12 years and has provided so many amazing things for the show and its storylines. If it wasn't for him the show would have ended after s7. Hes done so much for the brothers and for the show and only mentioning him 2 times and not even showing him is just so fucking disrespectful to him AND Misha. Misha has put in blood sweat and tears for this show and its fans and they basically spat in his face and told him to fuck off. Misha bby I'm so sorry.

8.) Family definitely ended in blood. They've been giving off this message for 15 years that "family dont end with blood and it doesn't start there either" only for the show to end with blood related family like........?? What about Donna? Or Jody and the girls? Or Garth and his family? Or all the AU people? Or Jack? How bout Cas? Ellen, Jo, and Ash?? Wtf was the point of that message to the fans if you were gonna just throw it out the window.

9.) Everything with Sam. He was not happy. Idc what any writer says. He watched his brother die in a horrible and brutal way and then lived a miserable life without him. He lived an apple pie life, that he originally would have loved, but Dean wasn't there. Cas and Jack weren't there. He was NOT happy. His ideal life definitely would have had his brother, his best friend, his adopted son, and all of his friends and family hes made over the years. He lived the rest of his life settling for things and sad. That is no way to end Sam's storyline either. Sam deserved better.

10.) Jared's Paula Deen wig.......wtf was that.

11.) They brought back a random ass vampire from s1 that absolutely no one remembered only to kill her 2 minutes later. Seriously wtf was the reason? That was so pointless and so fucking unnecessary.

12.) John Winchester being in Dean's heaven........that man emotionally and physically abused Dean for over 2 decades before he finally died in s2. He mentally abused Dean and forced him to grow up too fast. He forced Dean to be Sam's dad, mom, and brother. Dean never was looked after. No one ever cared for him. He never got to be a kid and have a childhood. And all because of John Winchester. That man does not deserve to be in Dean's heaven. Dean didn't love or respect that man.....he was scared of him. And now Dean is up in heaven for eternity with him. So he can forever be tormented by and in fear of his abusive father. Nice job D*bb.

13.) I don't really like how Amara was this powerful female deity and she was absorbed by her brother and then had a 3 year old boy speak on her behalf. I know that was ep19 but it played into the finale. I really wish we had gotten to see her in the finale.

14.) The half assed explanation on what Jack and Cas had been up to. We deserved to see them. Alex and Misha deserved to be in the finale bro. We deserved to see Cas and Jack explaining what they had been doing to heaven, not Bobby. Cas has been an important part to the show for 12 years and Jack for 3. They are the brothers family. And they were mentioned twice and were thrown away and were treated like they didn't matter.

15.) The only disabled/hardofhearing rep we had on the show was killed off and was replaced by a blurry no named woman. It was left up to interpretation if Sam's wife was her or not. Eileen and Shoshanna and every disabled/hoh fan who related to them deserved so much better.

16.) No one came to Dean's funeral. Dean has all these friends and family and the only people at his funeral was his brother and his dog. Donna, Jody, Claire, Kaia, Patience, Alex, Jack, all the AU hunters, Garth, and etc all should have been there. You can't convince me that when they heard Dean had died, they didn't drop EVERYTHING, pack their shit, and go to Dean's funeral. You can't.

17.) They silenced Dean and his sexuality along with Cas'. This doesn't even have to do with destiel or any ship for that matter. This has everything to do with the characters and their individual identities and sexualities. Because newsflash, Dean was bi before Cas and Cas was queer before Dean. Newsflash 2.0, Dean and Cas are more than just half a ship and their sexualities dont revolve around one another. Cas died immediately after coming out and they killed Dean before he could. That is queer censorship at its finest. Thanks D*bb 😐😐. If Dean had never met Cas, he still would be bi. And if Cas had never met Dean, he still would be queer. So no this isn't about destiel. It's about queer censorship and the message they sent to all their queer fans.

18.) Needed more Miracle and Dean. Just saying.

19.) I talked about how Dean's death was unnecessary and cliche but now I'm gonna talk about how fucking dumb it was. Like a rebar??? A fucking rebar??? Not even a knife?? Or like.....a gun?? Or literally anything else? He was impaled on a fucking REBAR?? THAT WAS WHAT D*BB CAME UP WITH?? Fuck you bro.

20.) Sam didn't get to reunite with one of his very good friends or his adopted son. Thats fucked up.

21.) Dean and Sam barely grieved Jack or Cas. Those two have always been torn up about Cas' death every time it happened yet they barely talked about it?? And they did nothing eat pie?? And get killed?? Sorry D*bb that sucks ass. And they never even wondered what their kid was doing? They never prayed to him to ask how he was or what he was doing? Sorry I'm not gonna believe that. The brothers were just so out of character the whole fucking episode. It was embarrassing to watch at some points because I was just like ".....who even is that. They are NOT the Winchesters I know and love."

22.) The dumb ass "covid excuse" they've been using when explaining why they couldn't bring back fan favorites such as Ellen, Jo, Ash, Cas, Jody, Donna, etc. They literally gathered about a hundred cast and crew memebers on a bridge with no masks to film that dumb goodbye thing at the end of the ep. You already weren't taking precautions bro. Yall already weren't socially distancing. So why not add a few more actors? Fuck out of here with your covid excuses.

23.) Our Charlie, the original Charlie, was supposed to be in Dean's heaven, Felicia Day confirmed, and she wasn't. So.......fuck you D*bb.

24.) So many storylines were left unresolved. Like Jack making the empty loud when he exploded?? Cas' failing grace?? Like wtf happened? Why introduce those storylines if you weren't gonna resolve them or didn't have time to resolve them before the show ended?? It doesn't make sense.

25.) Just overall erasure of character development, storylines, queer rep and etc.