has anyone else noticed how often women specifically are mentioned when people get mad about a certain behaviour or habit that is absolutely not at all exclusive or even more common in women. stares into the sunset. I have. I've noticed
I see people calling others terfs (largely associated exclusively with women) for plain and simple transphobia that has nothing to do with terf ideology. I see people seething about female celebrities for shit that DOES suck while not even mentioning male celebrities who have done so much worse. the whole "karen" caricature despite men also frequently being difficult or entitled customers.
sure, all of these things (terfs, terrible celebrity behaviour, entitled customers) suck and it's fine to talk about them. but notice with me just how often people direct their anger at only 50% of a group that are displaying the same behaviour. it's weird! it's weird, right???
and you're not a bad person if you've fallen into this line of thought yourself. I have too!!! it's all around you, it's very easy to think these things because it's so normalised! the first step is Noticing. just a simple "why are women specifically receiving the brunt of the frustration for an issue that is also perpetuated by others?" is a good place to start. just Notice.
before anyone has the chance to misconstrue me. this ABSOLUTELY applies to trans women too. when I say women I am by default talking about All Women. but can we also notice how when a trans woman does something wrong, she gets talked about and shamed so much more than a man who does the same thing? how when trans women as a group are perceived as more likely to do something "wrong", it's suddenly conflated exclusively with them even when in reality they're not any more likely to do said "wrong" thing than any other group?
