Professional Idiot.

I think we should have a second pride month in November for gay people who prefer cold weather

there is nothing straight or platonic about the way Emily says "Jesse" in the Paranatural Manhattan trailer btw

your twenties are not "late" to start hrt. that is a normal time to start hrt. your thirties are also a normal time to start hrt. your seventies are pretty late to start hrt, but not too late. like, statistically, that's at the end of the curve. but if you are not dead, it is not too late for hrt.

one of my biggest gripes with the trans community and the discussion of transandrophobia is that its really fucking hard to explain to, without offending/triggering, someone who cant get pregnant, who has never had the ability to get pregnant, and would REALLY LIKE the ability to get pregnant, how pregnancy can be used as an act of violence, ESPECIALLY against trans men, and that its not the same as being forced to impregnate someone, both dysphoria wise or otherwise. like they have wildly different implications. a trans man who is forcibly impregnated is forced to stop testosterone for the duration of the pregnancy, and are often barred from legal abortion more frequently than cis women. his body is changed permanently from the pregnancy, the pregnancy can out him as trans if he is stealth, pregnant people are often times physically dependent on other people after a certain point of the pregnancy which leaves them vunerable to being trapped with an abuser, and a trans man who is dysphoric about pregnancy is going to have to live with that for the duration of the pregnancy, while watching the pregnancy that he did not want permanently change his body. on top of that, it is SO HARD to rebuild a life/career after pregnancy FOR ANYONE, AND ESPECIALLY trans men. theres a reason that forced marriage/pregnancy is such a common and effective detransition tactic against trans men, both in non-western countries but everywhere else too. theres a reason we worry about it so much. these implications simply do not exist for someone who is forced to impregnate someone. its obviously sexual assault and is horrible and it is permanently life ruining but not to the extent that actually being the pregnant party is, and pretending like theyre the same or even comparable is like. its not even transandrophobia its just ridiculous

also even if it's a wanted pregnancy there's various complications that can arise and threaten the birthing parent's life, especially when they don't have access to proper medical care whether that's due to poverty or doctors ignoring their pain as they tend to do for marginalized patients

The medical misogyny & abuse is a big one. Part of the reason why the "freebirth" movement exists is that way too many people who have given birth or just have been to the gynecologist before have massive medical trauma because they were mistreated, didn't have their pain and concerns taken seriously and things explained to them, had decisions made for them without being consulted first, and often were straight up lied to — and marginalized people tend to have the worst experiences. Mind you, childbirth is a scenario where if your doctors are bigoted against you, your chances of dying will be much higher.