or was it in my head

some kids came on the train and saw someone they knew hopping on yhe train at the next station. one of them goes "yo is that gay sam??" and im like ughhh. okay is that what we're doing. and then sam comes over and theyre like GAY SAM WHATS UPP and gay sam is like NOT MUCH IM GOODDD IM FRIED RIGHT NOWW and they were like classic sam. so. thats on me for assuming honestly

riding the highest horse you’ve ever seen back to my glass house

and to be clear I think "trans women's status as women who cannot get pregnant is used to further their oppression, e. g. it allows for v-coding to happen" is just plain true, and obviously so. but it is still not equivalent to what people with the ability to get pregnant experience. and I would also be miffed if an infertile cis woman was butting into this conversation to enlighten the rest of us about how pregnancy isn't that bad or how people who can get pregnant are oppressing her in some way.

it also helps that I see very little utility in the privilege framework to begin with so these attempts to figure out whether it's trans men or trans women who are privileged when it comes to this are not just asinine but more than a bit ghoulish. like truly I cannot imagine having any reason to tell someone either "well yea you got raped but at least you didn't get pregnant from it" or "well yeah your pregnancy puts you at risk but at least you aren't being raped in prison" other than you are genuinely a deeply self-centered and cruel person. no amount of marginalization you experience changes that.

funnily enough cis men and women say this shit to each other too. and they're equally ghoulish. the inability for a lot of people to talk about men who are victims of rape and abuse is, like, at least in the top 5 failures of the feminist movement. I don't see why we have to keep perpetuating it. other than excusing selfishness and cruelty when it comes from the ingroup.

and to be clear I think "trans women's status as women who cannot get pregnant is used to further their oppression, e. g. it allows for v-coding to happen" is just plain true, and obviously so. but it is still not equivalent to what people with the ability to get pregnant experience. and I would also be miffed if an infertile cis woman was butting into this conversation to enlighten the rest of us about how pregnancy isn't that bad or how people who can get pregnant are oppressing her in some way.

it also helps that I see very little utility in the privilege framework to begin with so these attempts to figure out whether it's trans men or trans women who are privileged when it comes to this are not just asinine but more than a bit ghoulish. like truly I cannot imagine having any reason to tell someone either "well yea you got raped but at least you didn't get pregnant from it" or "well yeah your pregnancy puts you at risk but at least you aren't being raped in prison" other than you are genuinely a deeply self-centered and cruel person. no amount of marginalization you experience changes that.

funnily enough cis men and women say this shit to each other too. and they're equally ghoulish. the inability for a lot of people to talk about men who are victims of rape and abuse is, like, at least in the top 5 failures of the feminist movement. I don't see why we have to keep perpetuating it. other than excusing selfishness and cruelty when it comes from the ingroup.

and to be clear I think "trans women's status as women who cannot get pregnant is used to further their oppression, e. g. it allows for v-coding to happen" is just plain true, and obviously so. but it is still not equivalent to what people with the ability to get pregnant experience. and I would also be miffed if an infertile cis woman was butting into this conversation to enlighten the rest of us about how pregnancy isn't that bad or how people who can get pregnant are oppressing her in some way.

it also helps that I see very little utility in the privilege framework to begin with so these attempts to figure out whether it's trans men or trans women who are privileged when it comes to this are not just asinine but more than a bit ghoulish. like truly I cannot imagine having any reason to tell someone either "well yea you got raped but at least you didn't get pregnant from it" or "well yeah your pregnancy puts you at risk but at least you aren't being raped in prison" other than you are genuinely a deeply self-centered and cruel person. no amount of marginalization you experience changes that.

if i'm being honest it's quite obvious how pregnancy is a unique positionality and process, central as it is to social reproduction. it makes sense that it's so contentious and important. i don't find myself driven to downplay its political weight.

and frankly it's obvious how a lot of Gender Evil is directly downstream of Pregnancy Fascism. and you know if we want to be deterritorializing woman from pregnancy per se more power to us. but i'm not interested in ignoring how the construction of womanhood was historically built in large part around the domination and control of the people with the bodily means to the process of making new people. in a marxist way