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FRIENDSHIP

part 2

[Losing Friends-I]

Goodbyes are always hard, so is losing friends.

Saying goodbye to your ‘Go-To’ person, to the one with whom you’ve walked together through the different aspects of your life, to the one who you trusted the most, is always very hard. May the reasons for goodbyes be different, but it hurts the same to everyone.

Losing a good friend due to betrayal is like the bad kind. And them not regretting it and acting like it never happened is like adding salt to the wound. PLUS, if you met them again somewhere out in public, then there are 2 (or more) possibilities. The first one, they will completely ignore you, maybe completely cutting you out from their life. And the second one, they will come to you purposely, try to make you feel down and play the victim card and will blabber around saying it was all your fault and blah blah blah. Yeah, the first one sounds better, ikr. Well, whatever the situation may it be, but even after their fault, them not realizing it nor accepting it, hurts us. But if they acknowledge their mistake and are ready to rectify it, I think they deserve a second chance.

Everybody deserves a second chance in their life.

Now its upon them to paint that chance as golden or turn it into a more dark void.

We too have a responsibility, actually not 'A' but a lot. Being a good friend, we should try to make them realize their mistake and help them out of it, show them the good way, the righteous. Not once, but twice and thrice. Don’t give up on them early. Try your best otherwise you aren’t any good of a friend [Hehehe, idk :)].

But if your friend is doing some negative things even though knowing it’s bad and you tried your best to stop them but still it didn’t worked, then I think it’s best for you to stay away from them and keep your distances. It’s better for you to not get influenced by them, cuz unknowingly, we can.

I hope you won’t hurt yourself anymore if you went through something similar to this. Ik it’s hard, but hurting our own soul by being sad on someone who never even cared for you, for someone selfish, doesn’t sounds right.

Sorry for updating a day later. Take care. Eat good. Be healthy and safe. Stay tuned for Part 2 of Losing Friends of Friendship Part 2.

Lol ik that sounds a little confusing at first but I'll try not to procrastinate and give an update asap.

Hope you like the Friendship Series :).

FRIENDSHIP

part 1

.HOW IT SHAPES YOU AS A PERSON.

A man is known by the company he keeps.

Likewise, that company influences us, our behaviour, our mentality, our manners. Having a type of company shapes us accordingly. A good friend will lead you to your greatest creations, while a bad company, a bad friend will lead you to your greatest destruction, in short, will lead you to your doom.

It’s not only about the company you keep, but also about the type of company you give, about how you influence others, your friends. We do help them in their positive doings but we should also help them in their negative doings. Wait, don’t get me wrong. You, must be thinking that what in the world am I writing. Well, I think i skipped some words from that sentence. Let me correct it. So yeah…What was it..?? Okay, here we go, AGAIN, with the corrected sentence…..

We should help them OUT FROM their negative doings

*:)*

We should stop them from their bad doings & let them know where they are wrong. We should support them in their good work & encourage them to keep it up in future.

We should help them to be the greatest version of themselves, to be the bestest versions of themselves.

We should be their safe escape in their toughest times.

Making crazy fun memories with them, going through second-hand embarrassment because of them, caring for them, scolding them, having arguements but at the end of the day going back to them, but most importantly having a friend by your side in your worsts, is a true friend. The one who doesn’t run away showing their back when we need them the most, is the true one.

We should not only expect this from our friends, but we should too, be that kind of friend, the way you want your friends to be.

To clap, we need both hands. Similarly, this doesn’t go one way. Neither this nor that, but both. A good company will keep you great, a great company will keep you good. Be a good person to receive the same.

It's GIVE AND TAKE

To receive something, you gotta give something, maybe the same thing that you want to receive.

Give the same amount of love, care, attention, trust, loyalty, faith & more that you wanna receive.

Be a good person without expecting anything in return. One positive deed helps the other, other positive deeds helps many.

One good turn deserves another.

Remember, “If you wanna make the world a better place, take a look at yourself then make a Change” – MICHAEL JACKSON.

Stay tuned for Part 2, coming this Sunday.

Check out other posts from 'The Friendship Series' if you liked this one or wanna read more about it.

"Yeah I'm different from y'all" "We ain't the same bro" or "I'm this, I'm that" and blah blah blah... We all, at some point of our life or still now, were/are some impersonators. Like we pretend to be someone who isn't us. People tend to overestimate or underestimate themselves.

Pretendence.

We make a persona which is different that who we actually are, and stick with it. The cause for the emergence of this persona obviously is subjective. Peer pressure, the urge to FIT IN, superiority complex, sense of inferiority, to impress your crush or whatever it might be. Ok all this thing which i call as pretendence is fine but only with externality. So what about the internal thing?? Are we so lost in our 'Made' persona that we forgot to differentiate between our Persona and Real Self? Has the wall between it became so weak and shattered?? Is the line drawn so thin that it can't even be seen?? Are we lost in it?? Who are we?? Internally im talking about. What is your true self? Are we even true to our true self?? Can we see it?? Can we still see it??

Like think about it. The joke you think is funny, is actually funny or someone else made you think that it is funny? The dressing style you like to get dressed and styled in, is your choice or someone else manipulated you, knowingly or unknowingly, into liking it? We all know it but sometimes we need someone to tell us this, to make us realise, that it's not necessary to fit in. It's fine to have opinions different than others, to like music different than others or listening to just mainstream, to have unpopular/underated opinions, to be and do weird and crazy shit, to call yourself a fan of something or someone that you don't know much about but still like, admire and respect a lot, it's fine. If it ain't fine for you, then you'll feel kind of like an outsider resulting to feel inferior. This leads to some anxiety and then you become sad. Then a revolutionary phase takes birth in you and suddenly you start to like things that you don't. You slowly become one of them and in the midst of this, you somewhat lose your real self in it. Deep down, it's still there but suppressed. Reading it won't sound like a big deal, but it is. IRL it is.

Remember, the moment you start to be unfaithful and unloyal to yourself, you'll never be confident and comfortable in yourself. 'And remember, the place where you feel like you have to fit in, you are never meant to be there, with those people. It's just not your room, not your space. Never try hard to get in because once you start to try hard, you'll always have to try hard, it'll just never stop.'

Be true to you, you'll get all your answers. It should be about YOU. Don't lose yourself for anyone else. You are a different breed. A different YOU. Because you are you. You are irreplaceable. Everything lies within you. And believe my words when I'm saying, EVERYTHING LIES WITHIN YOU. All the absurd questions that lies in your head has its answers within yourself. You find it, find it in you. You have it all. You are enough. Maybe you don't know yourself enough and that's the only thing you need to focus on.

It's not about being sorted. It's fine if you are still sorting yourself out, figuring out about yourself. It's about being just you.

The blessing of being just you.