hazen makes things

You wanna ship canonically aspec characters because “aro/ace people can still date/have sex”? Okay, then. LET’S DO IT.  I wanna see an aromantic character with an alloromantic love interest. I wanna see that confession of undying love and the moment when the aro character says they will never feel the same way—not romantically.

I wanna see the asexual character with their allosexual partner. I wanna see that moment when the ace characters tries sex with their partner for the first time because they want to make them happy only to realize that they are 100% sex repulsed.

I wanna see the two demiromantics who don’t even know if what they feel is romantic attraction, but they adore each other and just want to make healthy snacks together and destroy each other at Mario Kart.

I wanna see the two aces who love sensual affection and are figuring out what they define as sexual or not.

I wanna see the romance + sex neutral aroace who happily and consensually does whatever makes their partner happy…but their partner still struggles with feeling undesired. 

On one side, Fandom has never once respected canon sexual orientation of the characters (with a strong tendancy to make all the men gays, rip F/F and Aroace headcanons). So ig people can do whatever they want (including ignoring the canonical aroaceness of a character if they wish to - even if that hurt a bit since they're rare).

On another side, yes. If you decide to make the character aroace (independantly on wether it's canon or not), then everything that op said goes. I know the spectrum is large and people conveniently tend to wrap them under the demi-ace or demi-aro part of the umbrella to conveniently ship them in peace, but that deserve to be properly explored too.

Me, hanging on by a thread:

Noticing his distress and admiring his dedication, the other crows began helping him with his tasks and started appearing around the water estate. It didn't take long for them to realize that Giyuu Tomioka was a godsend.

He gave them top tier snacks for even the most basic of tasks, groomed them to perfection without even being asked, made an enclosure full of comfy nests for them to roost in inside the home, and even had a little hand made bird sauna (to help Kanzaburo with his old joints)

Needless to say, his estate became bird central.

Next were the muscle mice. Tengen treated them well, all things considered, but a few of them got stuck in some sticky sap in a tree hollow and were missing for days. Giyuu found them and rescued them. He took them home, bathed them with such gentleness, and fed them a hot meal as they warmed themselves by the hearth. As they huddled together under the edge of a blanket, they decided they liked this guy, and they had to tell the others about him.

Slowly, Giyuu befriended all of the animals in the demon slayer core without even realizing it but had no human friends.

They decided they needed to change that, so Disney Princess Giyuu kept getting placed into weird shenanigans as his animal friends tried to sneakily set him up on friend dates.

I’ve had people (non-pornbots) try to strike conversation out of nowhere in my DMs recently, and now I’m wondering if they were doing that because they wanted to follow me and thought they needed to interact first. I feel compelled to say, just in case, that it’s totally okay to follow this blog (or my side blog, for that matter) even if we’ve never talked before.

Omegas will begin to try and find and/or create a safe space even before the first symptoms of the heat hit. That behavior is known as nesting. Said nest is usually built in a comfortably small place, with dim lighting. Single Omegas tend to collect items that belong to their family or/and friends (in other words, someone who they recognize as a pack) for comfort. Sometimes even a trusted friend or family member can be brought into the nest to help the Omega take care of themselves. The practice however is purely platonic. Neither of those two practices does occur in Omegas who want to spend a heat with a partner. Omegas with a partner (or rare multiple partners) spend their heat with only them and rely only on their help in meeting their basic needs. If a relationship is sexual, an Omega will build the nest with only their partners’ items (and/or courting gifts given to them) as it’s considered alluring in nature.

While an Omega in heat may be feverish and appear drugged or not all-there, they are not at all defenseless. In fact, it’s their most animalistic and primal state. If an Omega deems you incompatible for whatever reason, they will not let you get close. Even Alphas (as in, the most affected dynamic) are respectful of such decision (side note, some incompatibility works both ways, some only one. The outcome tends to be the same in that situation - no compatibility no mating). However, if one tries to force an unwilling Omega in heat, it’s not unusual for that person to be severely hurt - as if bitten, scratched, etc. As mentioned before, an Omega in heat is very feral and will not hold back. Such disrespectful individuals in old times were usually spotted missing eyes or chunks of their body - then they were promptly exiled from the pack, as such violation was never tolerated.  Even in modern times, the law states that threatened Omegas in heat can in fact use every defense that they deem necessary without legal repercussions.

Heats are not really painful per se. Omegas don’t really experience our cramps during the heat, even if not mated - though it’s very uncomfortable and stressful for them still. 

Alphas are naturally the dynamics that is the most attracted to an Omegas scent - Betas and Omegas tend to be less affected but it still works on them. It’s just that heat is a thing that is very much fertility based and chances falling pregnant with a dynamic goes Alpha->Beta->Omega.

Heat smell can be in fact so powerful that even dynamics normally not attracted to Omegas at all can feel the need to breed with them. It is though much less prominent and they do come back to being themselves after the fact. Let’s put it that way - the act at the time is more important than the person the act is performed with. Even so, mating between an Omega in heat and someone who is not attracted to them normally is very uncommon.

Important: Family members (Alphas included) do not get affected by an Omegas heat scent. In fact, the scent may be slightly unpleasant for them. Incest is still very much incest in my ABO - it’s still unnatural and taboo to see family members that are attracted to each other’s scent - related by blood or not.  Hell, it is not uncommon at all that people who were only raised together (as in, childhood friends for example) are not attracted to each other scents. That’s why in old times kids usually left their parents packs to start their own.

First heat, or even few first heats tend to be more uncomfortable than sexual in nature. Such heat may be weaker (as if, the Omega being fully conscious but still very uncomfortable), or stronger (as if, making Omega barely-there and having them require being taken care of) than “full-grown” heat. It’s just a very different experience, body first getting used to being an “adult”.

Now, ruts are not really sexual in nature. Alphas in ruts tend to be restless and more aggressive - marking their perceived territory and challenging other Alphas that they feel are a “threat” to them. It’s mostly a way of ensuring and securing their own place in the pack. Unmated Alphas tend to look for a challenge in other single alphas, meanwhile mated ones are in a hard “protect and take care of my family” mode.

Alphas in rut are usually seen as a threat by other dynamics, though some compatible with Alpha in rut may in fact find their scent both threatening and arousing. Alphas in a rut are indeed more sexually active, though it tends to be more of a… Side effect.

Alphas love spending their ruts in safe spaces - like nests belonging to a loving Omega. While they naturally spend their whole rut agitated and ready to fight, such a state of being is tiring to them, and so an Omega creating/opening their safe space for them tends to be big energy and comfort boost for them.

While young Alphas don’t typically recognize their Alpha parents as a threat (an Alpha parent is mostly recognized as a “top Alpha” in the household so out of the respect for them, they won’t attack even if felt challenged), it is ill-advised for the Alpha parent to visit a young Alpha’s safe space without permission. This may lead to unwanted aggression or long term distrust.

It is common for Alpha siblings to fight with each other during ruts. Fights are not usually serious and are more strength-testing in spirit, it’s still best for growing Alphas to have a room for themselves.

Alphas in rut are rarely really aggressive towards Betas or Omegas since, in Alpha’s mind, they are not really recognized as a threat. Betas/Omegas that are strangers and invading an Alphas territory however are an entirely different matter.

A non-typical rut appears when an Alphas partner is not around in the long term. Their hormones basically go into crisis mode since everything in an Alpha screams that their mate is missing or dead. Their instinct believes that there should be their mate’s scent all over the apartment but there’s nothing there so they slowly go deeper and deeper into freak-out mode. 

It’s called a non-typical rut because it looks the same as a rut for the most part - the Alpha appearing agitated, behaving aggressively,  obsessively scent marking their territory, probably also scenting their friends and surroundings a lot. It’s an instinct thing so even if an Alpha objectively knows that their mate is okay, the non-typical rut may still hit them like a train. Alphas are more of a pack creatures than Omegas and Betas since it’s in their instincts to lead and take care of people; so it’s recommended for them to not live alone and/or to have some Beta/Omega scent around the house. Living with their own scent alone for years may cause something that appears very similar to anxiety in an Alpha - being extra vigilant, on edge, and subconsciously stressed out.

a close up to just... light shining through those waves, makes me feel faint with exhilaration every time