The number of people I have known who have pretended to be more ill/disabled than they really are: almost none.
The number of people I have known who have pretended to be less ill/disabled than they really are: almost everyone.
When people tell you they have a chronic illness/disability, believe them. Otherwise you are an Ableist asshole.
This messed with me for so long and it still does because I’m like,,,, am I faking it??? Is it actually that bad??? And then I have a good day and I’m like well I imagined the pain I’m the first place I’m a fraud,,, then I get a bad day and suddenly I’m dying
i was gonna say “the only times ive pretended to be more disabled than i am was to get accomodations i really needed but wouldn’t have gotten otherwise” and then i was like wait.
That’s just being honest about how disabled i am.
ok wait that last reblog messed with me so much thats so true
I’ve been genuinely dishonest about my symptoms in order to get what I needed, but only in situations where my actual symptoms were not being respected as “real problems”. Mostly, this was pretending to vomit so I could get out of school, because my parents’ policy was that only a fever or vomit were legitimate reasons to miss school. I had times where I legitimately had an infectious illness of some kind that “didn’t qualify” also, so it wasn’t even just my actual disability being disregarded. Same thing for going to the nurse’s office to lie down for a while when I had sensory overload, aka “not a real problem”.
Any other time I’ve “misled” someone about symptoms has mostly been them failing to understand what I was talking about in the first place.
Otherwise, yeah. Mostly I have to work hard to actually express just how bad it legitimately, honestly is, because it feels like lying, but it’s not.





























