Some of this, Some of that.

But Jaskier also has to learn a new love language for Geralt. Words, his bread and butter, are suddenly not enough. He tries gifts, but Geralt isn't used to kindness and struggles to accept them. Physical touch works, but only in moderation... again, Geralt struggles. He's touch starved, and too much in one go is overwhelming. So Jaskier learns to provide for his witcher, the way Geralt always tries to provide for them. He won't touch Geralt's armour, but if Geralt's shirts are damaged then Jaskier fixes them. When the witcher is injured or tired, Jaskier grooms Roach, even braiding her mane if he has time. He learns to scribble in his notebook rather than pluck at his lute when Geralt is still coming down from the potions.

There are only a few things about a personality that an individual has control over. Like, I'm working on the scrupulocity, the anxiety, the people-pleasing that makes things unpleasant for myself.

But I don't have much control over how other people perceive me.

A certain kind of person will say things like 'i don't care if you're gay, just don't shove it in my face.' But the bar for what counts as 'shoving it in their face' varies.

I have a little flag in my front yard. That's too much for my neighbor. I have a sticker on my water bottle- thats too much for some of my colleagues. I mentioned my girlfriend once to a colleague and he told everyone at the office that I wouldn't shut up about being gay.

Before I started putting stickers and the like on my stuff, I was fired once for coming out to the wrong person.

To the kind of person who complains about sexuality being an entire personality, nothing short of being so completely in the closet will be acceptable. And even so- even if you are so so careful, and hide your personal life from everyone- the kind of person that wants to be a jerk will speculate and make that decision for you and decide that you're being too flamboyant.

So yeah. It's my entire personality whether I want it to be or not so i might as well fly my 20 ft rainbow flag.

I am not uptight about privacy because I'm hiding something. I'm uptight about it because the people who dismiss my right to privacy are dangerous to you and me and our families, personally, all the time.

#hello again martin and bosco!! sending you boys round for another go :)

no, unless he's a young father, that's not a dilf, that's a hunk. If you want to call a childless man a dilf, at least make him middle aged

no, that's not a bear, that's a hunk. Bears must be fat and hairy

no, that's not a himbo, that's a hunk. Himbos must be dumb, beefy and kind simultaneously, if he's just dumb and beefy that's a hunk