friendly reminder to everyone, me included:
having plans or being excited for sex with your partner(s) is amazing and fun, but don't let it get you down if the plans change for whatever reason.
we've been conditioned by all kinds of media to interpret "I have a headache" etc. as an excuse, a sign for a failing relationship, for a lack of communication, but that's usually not the case.
you can have bad health days, can be tired or sad or whatever! or? just not be in the mood for the scene you were talking about for days.
all of that is okay. it's fine. there will be other opportunities, there will be days you feel better, and it might be disappointing for all involved parties because you were so excited for it, but not letting yourself get pressured (or pressuring yourself) into uncomfortable situations is more important than a fleeting sense of disappointment.
I know I struggle with this often- and my partner is the most compassionate, kind, patient and loving person I've ever known! there's never any pressure from him. it's internal and I'm trying to actively unlearn these thought patterns so I thought other people might need to hear this as well 🖤
