One advantage of not really having a strong sense of gender identity is that youāre very [shrug emoji] about how people gender you. Sometimes people call me by she/her pronouns and sometimes they go with he/him pronouns and on the internet people often default to they/them, and neither option is entirely right but also, fuck if I know what would be right, and I donāt particularly care. Therefore Iām perfectly happy to outsource my gender identity to the people around me who actually need to figure out which box to put me in. I donāt need to talk about myself in third person, so really my pronouns sound like a you problem.
My pronouns are I/me and the rest is for someone else to deal with because I have better things to do.
Very fond of macrolabels, like āqueerā, that provide zero extra information. Is it genderqueer? Is it romantic/sexual orientation queer? Is it queer as in ānone of your fucking business whatās in my pants and what I do with it and with whomā?
This is actually probably the first time Iāve ever read something that accurately describes my relationship with gender--ie,Ā āmy gender is me and my pronouns are a you problemā--so thank you for that!
#you cannot gender me in a way that matters
