Ich glaube an nichts außer an dich und mich

me: no live organism can continue to exist sanely under conditions of absolute reality

I'll explain how it often happens that trans women are marginalised and kicked out of groups for really minor infractions (or even for no infraction at all), and he'll often say something like "Thanks for the info, that's worth being on the look out for, if it comes up."

Then I'll bring the conversation back to the example of the specific trans woman in the local area who had a bad thing happen to her at a trans group, and it'll be straight back to "Oh, I don't think that can be right, she must've done something worse."

An average cishet man can avoid pregnancy, but that is not where his power in the sexual relationship comes from. It comes from the structures which privilege him above his woman partner in all economic, political, and social circumstances.

Trans women, meanwhile, do not occupy the same power positionality of man, contrary to this asker’s beliefs. Trans women can’t get pregnant in the same way that other women can’t get pregnant. Women who are born infertile, women who have their uteruses removed, women who can’t have penetrative sex. This is not a boon. Just like other women who can’t get pregnant, this means that the only worth - to patriarchy and capitalism - that trans women’s bodies offer is the violence that can be inflicted upon them to maintain gender’s hegemony and the sex that can be extracted coercively from them. This, again, is the case for all women who can’t get pregnant.

As other commenter’s have added, trans women are actually relegated out of the process of social reproduction almost entirely. Biologically in how transition - one way or another - makes us unable to contribute to the reproductive process. And socially in how the explicit exclusion of trans women from social reproduction is a deliberate act of systemic transmisogyny to maintain by violence the process of coercive sex-gender assignment.

It didn’t register for me until recently that my experiences of being forced to strip naked multiple times at the mental hospital to be ‘checked’ when I was 14 was sexual assault, because the people who did it were nurses/doctors who clearly didn’t find me sexually attractive but instead used it as a form of humiliation and control towards children they deemed as ‘unruly’ and ‘uncooperative’ (ie. children who asked to be treated like people). I thought only people who fit into this idea of a child attracted pedo could be child sexual abusers, so I thought my experience didn’t count.

my stepfather would openly sexually harass me and my siblings at dinner while also loving the fantasy of killing pedophiles. whether he personally found our abuse sexually gratifying was frankly irrelevant to whether it traumatized us. whether he would be considered a pedophile or not doesn't change that he committed sexual abuse of children