OutofOz

you have to be kinder to people who are slow processors.

you have to be kinder to people who don't understand your jokes.

you have to be kinder to people who forget important dates.

you have to be kinder to people with cognitive decline.

you have to be kinder to people who were always this way, too.

You know what increases climate change but most importantly increases local temperatures in cities immediately when you start using them ? ACs. Using ACs also makes it worse for your neighbours who don't have any.

This is not being angry at people who have ACs. If you have to you have to, and if I don't have one it's because I'm a lucky bastard with an old house with thick walls in the middle of the countryside, AND that I've been raised in the south so managing house temperatures is something ingrained in my culture.

But the thing is.

The problem is not wether you use ACs or not. The problem is that people in countries where the weather used to not warrant them using ACs needing them. And I'm not talking needing them to chill, I'm talking needing them so they don't die en masse.

On Wednesday, the state counted 7 deaths related to the heatwave in France. And it's just started ! And it's """""only""""" 37C when we already had heatwaves get to 45-48C before ! It's going to get worse !

And before you whine, yes I know these deaths are mostly drownings and people exercising too much while it's too hot outside. But thing is : this will increase. And you'll have overheating deaths on top. Even I who's very wary of it, had to go out on Monday afternoon and nearly passed out !

We are complaining because this is NOT NORMAL, and it shouldn't be normalized and we shouldn't have to listen to advices from people who live in the fucking Death Valley to survive in our countries that are NOT supposed to have this climate !

I'm trained as an ecologist. I knew this was coming, and I'm still baffled. I've been fighting with climate denialists for a while now.

Also, good advisors, where were you during the Indian heat wave ? That is still ongoing ? Are you going to Indian bloggers and telling them to stop whining when it gets to 50C and to just buy ACs ? Why not ?

Can we stop trying to see who pisses the furthest, and understand that our problem is not thee lack of AC or even the temperatures at a punctual time, but the GLOBAL WARMING of the whole planet that not only creates these heat waves but also increase the number of meteorological catastrophes, disturb oceanic currents that govern most of the global climate one way or another, and will. Kill. Us. All. If we don't do anything (and miss me with the paper straws) ?

But if you guys from the USA are going to keep annoying us about ACs and how poorly we react to heat, allow me one fucking low blow : whose country is the one who produces the highest amount of greenhouse gases AND has withdrawn from all climate protection programs AND has decided to stop the development of renewable energies AND relies so heavily on cars that they have no rail infrastructure?

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.

The “get stuff done while you wait” method.

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.

The “break the task into smaller steps” method.

The “treat yourself like a pet” method.

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.

The “put on a persona” method.

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.

The “wait for a trigger” method.

The “do it for your future self” method.

The “might as well” method.

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.

The “make it easy” method.

The “junebugging” method.

The “just show up” method.

The “accept when you need help” method.

The “make it into a game” method.

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.

The “trick yourself” method.

The “break it into even smaller steps” method.

The “let go of should” method.

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.

The “fork theory” method.

The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method

The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method

The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method

The “get stuff done while you wait” method

The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method

The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method

The “break the task into smaller steps” method

The “treat yourself like a pet” method

The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method

The “put on a persona” method

The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method

The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method

The “wait for a trigger” method

The “do it for your future self” method

The “might as well” method

The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method

The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method

The “make it easy” method

The “junebugging” method

The “just show up” method

The “accept when you need help” method

The “make it into a game” method

The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method

The “trick yourself” method

The “break it into even smaller steps” method

The “let go of should” method

The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method

The “fork theory” method

Every single dad packed into the car:

Your husband and all his coworkers:

“You know, I was worried that zombie-ing out was going to be it for us. Bye bye Zeddison, bye bye happiness, hello brains.” Zed muttered into Addison’ hair, face masked by the darkness of the cabin.

Turning in his arms, Addison brought her hand up to lightly stroke his cheek. “Zed, surely by now you know that this is something real. I’m not leaving you for things outside of your control. Besides, you’ve stuck by me as i’ve gone through several existential crises and haven’t gone running.”

Pulling her closer, the two sank back into silence. Both grateful that Willa and Eliza had insisted on giving them some space following the stress of the day.

Breaking the now comfortable silence, Zed stated I love you. I know we’re still way too young to really start making plans, but I hope you know I fully plan on marrying you someday.”

“Someday, huh? Someday sounds good. let’s maybe get through college first, but I fully intend on being Mrs. Necrodopolis a few years from now.”

Pressing a kiss to her boyfriend’s lips, Addison let herself imagine their future together. Three more year of college, a wedding, a house, maybe a couple of childen— and hadn’t this past week proven to be good practice for that, with Nova and Victor proving to be mini versions of them?

Pulling herself from her thoughts, she said “You know? I’m glad we ended up here. Like, this has been crazy, but somehow this chaos has actually made me feel so much more secure about just, like, life in general?”

Zed suddenly snorted. cracking a grin, he responded. “Totally. We’ve figured out how to prioritize the things that really matter, and got the answer to one of the biggest questions in any relationship.”

Laughing as the absurdity of their camping trip turned pseudo parenting unpaid counselor job hit fully hit him, he choked out, “Hey Addy, would you still love me if I was a worm?”

life is fraught-less

~~

“Who was that?” Sam asked.

“My boss.”

“You have your boss on speed dial?”

“I get in trouble a lot.”

“So nothing has changed?” Mulder grunted in assent. “What about the other two numbers you tried?”

“The first one is Scully’s cell phone and the second is her home phone."

“You really like your partner.” It wasn’t a question, but Mulder confirmed it anyway.

“I do. She tries her best to keep me out of trouble.”

If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess

If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you

If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you

People are allowed to be wrong about you

If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect

Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it

The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something

You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it

Most things are better after you sleep on them

Most things are better after you have a meal

Most things are better after you shower

Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"

If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction

If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction

"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier

If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two

You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction

When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery

People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves

If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it

If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable

If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it

If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it

Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step

Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary

If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike

Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP

No one cares what you look like

If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"

People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company

You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you

If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly

You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will

Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable

Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it

Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier

Type "I am not a" And click the middle button 3-5 times

mine: I am not a good person

true tbh

@ethereal-bumble-bee

@eponine-thenadier

@lincoln-rosario

NO FUCKING WAY

What is this???

Umm yes I am. Let’s try it without the “a”

I am not que j’ai envie d’aller

What. does that even mean hold on

It means “that I want to go”

How is that even grammatically correct

Translate: I am not a pizza with the dog

???

Anyway

I may not be a bad day to get, but I often may be a bad mood to get. And yes it is possible 😔✌️

I am not a good man and no more

Well, I am not a good man as I am not a man so accurate 😂🤣

Flood warnings today. The red warnings mean 'act now'

Britain is becoming wet & wild as predicted by climate experts. And the gov tell us there isn't enough money to build or maintain flood defences, to restore eco systems, to dredge ditches and unblock drains.

Simple, piss cheap, just need a couple of lads with a digger and they made the road safe.

Never go upstairs, into your attic, or on your roof if your house is flooding because you WILL end up trapped and possibly stuck right on top of a collapsing building.

Stay out of flood water unless it is a choice between entering the water and sure death. Flood water can contain dangerous pathogens, corpses of both animals and people, live and agressive animals, heavy objects like tree branches and furniture, dangerous debris like broken glass and sharp metal, and live wires.

Flood water is a lot deeper, faster, and stronger than you think it is. It's not just ppwerful enough to knock you off your feet, it can also carry things like cars. You will not win against the flood water. It also rises much faster than you think it will and water that seemed manageable to walk through can very quickly become overwhelming.