Elf

Oh my god I’m over here thinking its this big hard to explain thing but here you are explaining it perfectly in nine words wtf

Ooooh look at the shimmer and coloration on the wings!!

while you were attending therapy i was studying the blade

what do you mean i need better coping mechanisms

>a wild therapist has entered the chat you need an additional coping mechanism studying the blade is a DBT principle called Building Mastery - wherein you engage in anything that is practical during which you gain skill and can actively see yourself progress - which is resilience building technique by which you shore yourself against vulnerability factors that make it harder to regulate emotions and manage activities of daily life and interpersonal interactions effectively. if you continue to study the blade while engaging in therapy, it will in fact make your therapeutic session more effective because having a skill that you pursue builds self-esteem and is a foundation upon which other coping skills can be built. so not better coping skills, blademaster, additional ones. you are already heading in the right direction and you have proven you have the tenacity to apply yourself to one discipline. now show us what you can do when applying yourself to your healing.

So while doing some pirate research for the play I’m writing I stumbled upon one of the most amazing things I’ve ever read. In the 5th century A.D. there was a Scandinavian princess called Alwilda who’s father tried to set her up to marry Alf, the Prince of Denmark. Alwilda wasn’t cool with this so she and some female companions dressed as men, stole a ship, and sailed away. Eventually they met a company of pirates who were in need of a new captain and they were so captivated by her that they elected her as their new leader. Her crew became so infamous that Prince Alf was sent out to stop them. When their ships met he took Alwilda prisoner and she was so impressed by Alf’s skill that she agreed to marry him after all and eventually became the Queen of Denmark.

I stopped caring whether this was factually accurate about halfway through because it’s completely AWESOME.

Reblogging my old post for this A+ addition to it

My knowledge about child development versus the social pressure to not interfere with other people’s parenting fight daily

Oh and ESPECIALLY if you’re not a parent yourself. No matter how much time you’ve spent working with children or the amount of research you’ve done, if it’s not YOUR kid you couldn’t understand anything

It’s not even “just” bad and abusive parents. It’s people who were raised that way and don’t know another way. Or they’ve been doing it so long they think it’s too late to change. Or they want to do better but have barriers to education and implementation. Or they’re trying traditional methods with a neurodivergent child. Or like a hundred other reasons.

I love this addition! It takes a village, and I might not be your kids' parent but I'm part of their/your village (relative, teacher, director, etc.) and there are problems we can solve together! <3

I have many clever mutuals and I'm a bit intimidated by how much you all seem to have thought it through!!! How do people find the time????

I fired my last therapist because he was a little too immediately supportive when I floated the idea of getting myself made secretary of energy.

the aroace experience of happily reaching the end of a story, looking up what other people have said about the story, and getting hit on the head with the reminder that people read romance into relationships that aren't necessarily romantic

all the “peer pressure is bad” education we give kids is practically useless because all it cares about is telling them that Drugs Are Evil rather than the much more useful lesson of ‘the person who responds to you saying you don’t drink by telling you they’ll find a way to get you to is also going to be shitty about all your other boundaries’.

god forbid you teach kids that their consent should be respected rather than about the inherent immorality of all the sinful actions of their peers

Oh Hecc I missed one. If you want more 'as sweet as blood in wine' (vampire AU) hit the last option and add a tag or a reply or something.

Look, I get what you're saying, but sometimes you've gotta reach for the low-hanging fruit. Let's get you a proper meal, refill your meds, and unfuck your living space as best we're able; if after that you still want cute girls to kill you with axes, you'll be in a much better physical and mental place to pursue that goal.