Driftwood Dave

I sadly have no directly applicable experience to draw on, but approaching people with respect is always good. Your tag thing is already good. Helping people is hard because while people need and on some level enjoy help, most people resent needing it, and hide doing so from themselves, or they might have good reason to doubt help. Ultimatly a lot of how you can help them comes down to how you can help them. If you worked in a food stall, 'accidentally' making the wrong order when you see them and 'hey, i either have to throw it out, or give it to you' is a cliche but sometimes functional way to help with food. If you have time to talk, talking about just other stuff, finding an interest, talking about math problems, getting help with a crossword can be great. Making calls on how to feel/what to do with authority (police, child protectice services/whatever) is extremely local dependant, but I would hesitate to involve anything. This is just general advice I have picked up though. Hopefully you get someone with more spesific experience or training responding.

Good for you! I wish more people took the "this shit don't matter" thing more to heart. There is behaviour possible on this earth that is exclusive to one gender.

Why do racists of all colours always brag about being racist? You'd think ocationally, one would come around that didn't feel pride over their bigotry spesifically, but no, seems to be pretty much every single bigot bragging about being a dickweed. It's almost fascinating.

if hiphop weren't real its existence would sound like an exceptionally heavy-handed metaphor about racism from a really cringe didactic fantasy novel. yeah the racialized underclass in this society, the one that's constantly derided by the ethnic majority as stupid and anti-intellectual, they have a complex artistic tradition based around improvisational poetry which is sometimes enacted on a competitive basis for dispute resolution. you get judged based on the subtlety of your wordplay and the complexity of your internal rhyme schemes. the dominant group periodically gets mad about how this doesn't count as real art like their own objectively more simplistic music and poetry because sometimes it has swears in it

See I was with you until "objectively more simplistic music and poetry", that's just rasism also. No one is inherantly better or worse for liking or disliking an artform, and while there certainly are more complex or more simple forms of musical art, categorically stating that non-hiphop music is "objectivly simpler" is just... baffling to me. A simple change to "-how this doesn't count as real art, despite the fact many of the art peices they laude are simpler in construction and execution than many of the peices they put down." or some such, and you're no longer drowing the tail end of your point in random rasism, but rather rightly pointing out the unbalanced view. The entire point to being concious of the biases of the world around us, and of the history of opression, and all similar things, is not to keep score, or track who is right or worthy, or to divide the world into us and them, but to do better, to be better, and to make a better world. There are many ways in which we do this, but one thing we cannot allow ourselves to do, is to use the same paterns of elitism we are fighting. We must take pride in ourselves in an intrinsic fashion, not through an extrinsic comparison and belittlement of The Other.

u tell someone yr nonbiny and they go oh trans masc or trans fem and its like. neither i said theres non of the biny that means zero biney

(I can't put this into words correctly, but I do agree with you OP, I don't mean to discredit any part of your experience, I just have Thoughts) At the same time I do get people being confused, so long as they remain respectfull, because a lot of trans/trans adjacent people will use the nonbinary label, and mean "Oh, i'm not cis" and some will use it to mean "oh, i'm 0.8 girl 0.2 boy/demi-girl" or whatever, and that can obscure that some people use it to mean "Oh 'im sqrt(-1)" or "I'm neiter boy nor girl, but a secret third thing". When people only know one or two, or even have no personal experience, but just know some vauge terminology randomly, it can be hard for people to be as kind as they're trying to be.

It looks like it would be so excited to run over when you needed a bowl

I'm sorry how fucken old do u hafta be to be *predynastic EGYPTIAN*

calories are one of those things like mbti where the very minute of the hour of the day that you find out what it actually is, you stop giving any credibility to anyone who uses it as a serious scientific data point for the rest of your life

They explain it well in their follow up reblogg, though it uses mana as a metaphor, but basically: The way we measure callories is imperfect The way the body absorbs callories is imperfect The degrees to which the two are wrong, vary wildly between foodstuff, personal biology, gut flora, and other factors. Basically, the correct statement is: The body needs a certain amount of energy per day. this amount is hard to accuratly measure. We get this energy from food. The eact amount of energy you get from a spesfic food is hard to accuratly measure. But that's complicated, and "You need about 2000 calories per day." Is good enough, most of the time, but its not scientifically rigourous, and trying to be granular with it is futile. Counting callories can be a usefull tool, but only when you're aware of the problems with it. Its a guideline, and helps you catch 'oh, that mid day snack is mre callories than i though, maybe I should cut that', but you could very much build two diets, both with the exact same callorie count, and lose weight on one, gain it on the other.

I need someone to do this to me.

What is it about american culture spesifically that gives such power to individual words? FRX the r-word, gosh, etc. No other culture I know of censores itself like that, or gives that much weight to singular words. In other countries I know, the horrible things you can't say but people do are more like "your father is a dog and your mother a whore", and individual words or even phrases are rarely censored. But the US censores everything. God damn becomes gosh darn, fucking hell becomes frigging heck etc. Why? Gosh Darn and God Damn are identical. There is no differance, gramatically, etymologically, semantically, context, nothing. Its the same phrase. But one is acceptable, the other not. In other cultures you have swears like "You're Satan's Horsecock", and the way they censor it is by… Not saying it, they don't go "You're Daten's Morseblock". Whats going on here?

wellll i'm not entirely sure about your premise here. in russian we say блин (lit. pancake) as a euphimism for блять (yeah that's the vulgar "blyat" one that you hear 12 year olds in video games screaming all the time). i think it's cause they start with the same 2 sounds

Fair points I guess, but I also feel like someone British would go "You can't call someone a wanker on live television, John." not "Don't use the w-word." I'm well aware why someone shouldn't use certain words as insults, whats mystifying to me, is the need to avoid saying that word when comunicating that. I'll respect that that's how people feel, but I find it strange. There's nothing offensive about saying "Hey man, you can't go around calling people wanker, that's a bad word and makes people feel bad." to a kid, that is fixed by going "Hey man, you can't go around calling people the w-word, that's a bad word and makes people feel bad.", and I don't think that really changes no matter what the word is, and I honestly think that holds true even if it was televised.

Herding sheep, looking after kids, and playing healer in videogames: every day you're surprised of the sheer innovative genius of how they'll find the most inconvenient goddamn places just outside your reach to get hurt or put themselves in lethal danger.

Isn’t this sheep in real life?

Children in real life also.

The humble Oxford comma

This isnt even bad reading comprehension anymore, its straight-up illiteracy

Yes, but no. To use a classic example, if you encounter "This book was inspired by my parents, Ayn Rand and God.", sure, gramatically speaking, its valid to interpit that as 'this person is the child of Ayn Rand and God, and is therefore claiming to be the second coming of jesus' is a gramatically correct reading... But you still have poor reading comprehension if that is your genuine truthfull take away, and you do not reflect upon that, or suspect you might have it wrong. Same shit here.

Idk why I'm surprised. Dana terrace goes ahead and works on a very queer show that criticizes corporate entertainment and all y'all can do is call her a transphobe. Like literally go touch some fucking grass. How often do we say on here that we want more butch representation? WELL HERE SHE IS!! Say thank you Dana for this hot, smart, butch and move on with your life. Write some fanfic. Draw some fanart. Have your headcanons and make peace with them.

Stirring the pot with this one again. Every trans person in my life who is aware of this asinine discourse does not think Dana terrace is inherently transmisogynistic for saying that frankie was written to be cis. You can be disappointed, that's fine. But if you harass someone on social media, they will probably block you regardless of your marginalized identity.

I gotta be honest, at times it feels like a few people in the trans comunity never actually leanred to look past the gender binary, they just added trans to it? A butch woman? She must have been AMAB, no other possible explanation. "All butch women are either post transition MTF or pre transition FTM." feels like its implied in certain comunities. It's frustrating, I grew up with a lot of gender non conformity, and there's other factors for why that's changed in my comunities, but it does also feel like there's some people who just have this incredible need to put people into as neat and few categories as possible. The sort of people to shout egg at anyone who deviates in the sligthest ways, or is overly 'helpful' with pronouns for anyone who's not 100% within the mold of society. I know someone who kept being asked by a particular someone about microlabels like 'demi-girl', even though she kept saying she's just a cis woman that likes a lot of 'guy stuff'. I've heard from a couple crossdressers that it's also harder these days to be accepted as that in some places, with people almost pushing them into trans labels for it. It's... It's nbot the biggest of issues, but its frustrating? Liek why are we reinforcing the binary? Got a bit away from me, but yeah, there's almost something conservative gender esentialism-esque things going on in some trans circles, it feel like.

There's also the fact that it can be hard to move your group to a new system, even if you personally wanted to try something else. But yeah, I think this is one of DND's biggest weaknesses, and it seems very reluctant to fix it. Back in 3.5, we did have some material to deal with it, the martial classes in that one suplement book i forget the name of now, had fancy manouvers you could do... But you still usually ended up in a situation where the optimal thing to do each turn, is to do your good move. It's not a design problem unique to dnd, of even ttrpgs, I've played several Jrpgs with the same problems, but dnd does seem uniquely positioned to keep having this one. Spellcasters in dnd are in a much better position, having access to a lot of fun and usefull spels... but even there, you're often ending up in a sitation where you default to a small handfull of spells. Dnd combat can be super fun, but it's usually contingent on special enviroments or alternative win cons, like 'capture the target alive'. It's been over a decade, but I had several great games of 3.5, where fights played out great, with liberal use of bullrushing and spells like rock to mud/mud to rock... But higher levels were still just force cages, orbs and varius variants of 'basic damage attack'. Once the fantasy of 'wow I'm mucch stronger, and hte cool thing I built into my character is online now' wears off, you start longing for the early levels... and then you try to play more low level games, and you start to realise you've done all the easily accessible fun builds. At least that's how it played out for me, and one of big reasons why I haven't played much dnd in latter years. Making a character in 3.5 was more fun than actually playing it. Which took the fun out of making the character too, after a while. I've only played a few games of 5e, but it doesn't seem to have solved the issue.

NOTHING SCARES THE SHIT OUT OF WHITE CANDYASS RACIST ASSHOLES THAN A STRONG WOMAN OF COLOR WOMEN WHO SPEAKS HER MIND AND DEFENDS AMERICA AND IT'S PEOPLE!

Very glad someone is standing up to his bullshit, but why make this about race? What any fascist fears, is a strong person speaking their mind, and defending against their vile rhetoric. All you're doing by adding race... is honestly being racist? All races are victims of fascism. All races can rise up against it. Divide not yourselves, lest ye be conquered. The fascist ideology thrives on sepperating us by race and gender, to fight against it, they fear nothing more than us uniting as humans. Do not fight their battles for them, evne in the smallest of ways.