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In February 2021 and enabled by my dear @purplenadgersâ through several sessions of CQL fanvids watching and my passion for lists, I started writing a document with detailed recs for all of the CQL fanvids that I had thought were good/interesting/funny/insert relevant adjective here enough to add to my CQL fanvid playlist on YouTube. When I am writing these lines (June 2021), it has close to 200 videos and I have watched 500+ fanvids for the show. The document is nearly 16,000 words and is a beast so I will be sharing the recs through a series of posts.
I have loved fanvids for many years. For a long time, watching and commenting on fanvids was my main fandom creative output, sadly among the different types of fan creations, they are the ones that receive a lesser amount of love which is a shame because the creativity among vidders helps them produce some truly great pieces of art, some of which I find myself coming back to watch again and again.
So I have decided to prepare this list which I will share over the next few months in a series of posts divided by characters/pairings for my fellow fanvid lovers and for those of you who are curious about well-produced fanvids and need more CQL content in your lives.
Each of the fanvids will be presented following a similar format:
Name of the fanvid with a link by name of the vidder with a link to the channel (I might include a link to viddersâ tumblr if they have one)
Music: Title - Artist
Mood: to give you an idea of the vibe of the viddeo
Strength(s): what i think is good about the video and makes it worthwhile to watch whether it be about the colouring, the pace, the use of the lyrics, the parallels, the story it tells, etc.
Notes: some extra notes about the video, the pairing, the vidder, etc. I do try to include tw in terms of flashing lights and the likes, if you see one which doesnât have a tw that you think should be included, please tell me and iâll add it.
In terms of the strength(s) of the fanvids, I donât go in as much length for each fanvid because I donât like all of the vids as much, because i wrote these over the course of a few months, sometimes early during the day, sometimes late at night and tired, but each of the fanvids I link, I think are worth watching or I wouldnât link them, as I said, I watched close to triple the number of fanvids that are included in these posts. Some are better technically, some are not as good, but the story they are trying to tell is worth it regardless, some are neither, but they are hilarious. I have not taken into account the number of views on the fanvids, some have a few hundred thousands and some barely a couple of hundreds. I have just taken those that I thought were cool.
An explicit disclaimer here, but this is a purely personal and subjective opinion and it is not because i donât include a fanvid that it is bad, simply that i did not like it enough to include it in this list (tastes and colours and all that). I am also not including fanvids i disliked because this is about sharing the love, not putting down others.
I hope you will enjoy these posts and that it will help you discover new fanvids and new vidders to follow! Feel free to message me some fanvids you think are good, chances are I have already watched it, but if not, maybe they will make it on the list.
Every post will be tagged âtiaâs cql fanvid recsâ and you can find all of them by going through the tag or by going to the recap post which has links to all of the posts divided by character/pairing.
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Welcome to another round of W2 Tells You What You Should See, where W2 (me) tries to sell you (you) on something you should be watching. Today's choice: ä¸äşşĺ¤ŤĺŠŚ / Two Husbands One Wife.
Two Husbands One Wife is a bitty little 2025 Japanese series about an anxious man, a high-strung woman, and a carefree prettyboy who together decide that the only way any of them will ever make a marriage work is if they're all in it together.
I'm saying this up top: If you liked What Did You Eat Yesterday?, you should absolutely put this on your list. Two Husbands One Wife doesn't have the food focus, but it does have the same funny, gentle, optimistic, and weirdly PG-13 picture of the world. There are of course misunderstandings and drama, but at the end of the day, it's all about finding happiness in unconventional places.
This show consists of eleven twenty-minute episodes, which means it's probably going to take me longer to write this rec post than it took me to watch the show. For your sake and mine, I'll try to keep this brief as I give you the five reasons I think you should watch it.
1. FUCK YOU, CISHETERONORMATIVITY đđđ
Sometimes I start writing these recs when I'm partway through a show, because I know that no matter where it's going, it's going to be good. This one, I didn't even open a new post until it was all over, because I was so afraid it was going to punk out. I just knew it was going to find some reason to split up the threesome, get everybody settled down in nice straight couples, and conclude that while ideas like a throuple marriage are fun for a while, it's better at the end of the day for everyone to just be normal.
Absolutely not. I will not spoil for you how it ends, but I will -- so you don't have the same anxious viewing experience I did -- let you know that it never once loses the courage of its convictions. This show absolutely believes that this three-spouse relationship is not only a valid choice, but a positive one for these three characters in particular.
Now, this does not mean it is dishonest or naive about how difficult a three-person marriage is. Part of the reason I recommend this for What Did You Eat Yesterday? fans is that Two Husbands One Wife is equally honest about how Japanese society is emphatically not set up for anything outside very strictly bounded ideas about relationships and families. Even the more socially acceptable alternative forms of marriage that it presents are only acceptable because they mimic either extremely traditional marriage setups or two-entity business contracts.
The show is clear: There is no reason for it to be this way! Everyone in Japan would be so much better off if they could, without harassment, enter or not enter into any kind of relationship they want! If their families didn't freak out or disown them because they might be seen as slightly abnormal! If people didn't have to construct arcane legal contracts to mimic extant protections for spouses and parents! If your damn job didn't get up in your business about your private life!
As with Kenji and Shiro's relationship, everything is difficult for these three because they are three difficult people and because the cultural deck is stacked so hard against them. Backing down and being normal would be the easier choice. So kudos to both shows for never, not for a second, believing that it would be the right choice. Miserable normies or happy freaks? You know which side we're on here.
2. Pakkun!!!
The first episode starts off a little strangely, because you're being introduced to all three of the characters, but in the voice of an omniscient child narrator, which seems a very weird choice in general, and a super-weird choice for a story about three adults who, we are told, will eventually be entering into a bisexual plural marriage.
It's not weird. It's wonderful. Pakkun is my hero. It's the sweetest possible conceit for a narrator, and I love it so much. I literally clutched my heart when I realized what was happening. Thank you, Pakkun, for making all of this possible.
3. They deserve one another (derogatory)
All three of the people in this marriage are absolutely exhausting. Fortunately -- and hilariously -- they are now each other's problems.
Mia is a neurotic wreck. She's a prime example of those unmarried women who hit thirty and kind of go insane about it. She wants to be married mostly because everyone around her is getting married and that's what you're supposed to do. She tries to provoke her partners into jealousy because it makes her feel desirable. And she's going to have to learn to get over a bunch of deep insecurities if she's ever going to have a functioning relationship with another human being.
Takuzo is a neurotic wreck, but along a completely different series of neuroses. He is extremely fastidious about his space and everything in it, which predictably does not go well when he has to share it with two human tornadoes. He cannot tell the difference between caring and smothering. His spine is so soft that you can basically steamroll him into anything. He not only has to learn how to stand up for what he wants, he has to learn to want things in the first place.
Shinpei is God's perfect idiot. Having been babied all his life by everyone in his life, he is an extremely useless hot boy who dreams of being a famous street dancer. The show makes him take his shirt off about as often as it thinks it can get away with it, and for good reason. He is one of those well-meaning types who is so sure that his good intentions make his decisions correct that he doesn't bother to double-check with the other people those decisions will affect. Everything will probably work out just fine! Won't it?
They bully one another in a way that might be mean or upsetting if they weren't all giving exactly as good as they get. Tazuko nags his messy partners, Mia browbeats her wishy-washy boys, and Shinpei just plows adorably full speed ahead at all times, unable to hear it when someone he loves tells him 'no'. I would not for a million dollars want to be in a relationship with any of these losers. However, since their flaws are not being inflicted upon me but upon each other, I'm here for it.
4. Tenma-san
Oh, I was so cautious about her when she showed up, because she looked at first like the show's heterosexual escape hatch. But nope! It's way more complicated than that!
Tenma Sayo is Takuzo's best friend and coworker, his Lego-building buddy who is equally ill-fit for polite society. The two of them are equally fastidious and intense. You can see why they're buddies, and you can also see that there's a weird potential for them to be more than buddies. Two people with slightly better interpersonal skills might be able to negotiate this without a problem. This ain't them.
Tiny spoiler for her character in these next couple paragraphs, so skip down past the next picture if you don't want it:
I absolutely love her as a contrasting kind of misfit to the main trio. She presents herself as a cool weird girl who doesn't believe in conventional relationship models, when in fact she does clearly want love and companionship, but preemptively rejects those things because she feels she is incapable of them. It's a bit of a sour-grapes approach to romance, and I love that so much, because it's a very real thing! I've known so many people who have concluded, like her, that society can't reject them if they reject society first.
This isn't to say that she's secretly longing to be an obedient housewife in a cookie-cutter nuclear family! That's not it either. Conforming to social norms wouldn't make her happy, but completely rejecting them isn't making her happy either. At the end of the day, she's going to have to learn how to find the secret third thing that works for her.
So yeah, I started off being real skeptical of what the show was keeping her around for, and I wound up being a fan. We're here for the weird girls who aren't effortlessly cool and perfect, who don't slip breezily into the prefabricated happy ending, who still have some growing up left to do even as the credits roll. She's not like other girls. She's worse.
5. An equilateral triangle
Real OT3s are hard to come by! Of course you can always make them yourself (see: the Guest), but when it comes to actual, textual romantic throuples, way more often than not they either turn into love triangles (see: a lot of things I haven't written rec posts for because I hate it when things do that) or pair/kill off one of the partners until you're left with normal couples again (see: 3 Will Be Free).
Cross my heart, those terrible betrayals will not happen to you here. Strap in for a three-way love story that means all three ways.
From the title, I was inclined to believe that this would be a show about a hinge: a woman who has two husbands, both of whom are married to her but not romantically or sexually connected to one another. And that's what it starts out being! At the start of the show, Mia and Shinpei are dating, and Takuzo and Mia are exes, so she is absolutely the common link. Shinpei even frames it like this when he suggests it to her in the first place: I need someone else in this marriage because I don't think I'm capable of being everything you need me to me.
This does mean that the relationship leg that has to be built is Shinpei and Takuzo's, and I think the show pulls it off well. It also zips right past any internalized homophobia or great sexuality revelations. You get the sense that Shinpei knew (or at least suspected) he was bisexual already, but Takuzo had no clue. Never of them ever has an am I gay??? moment of worry, though. They're not into men; they're into one another. And they're already married, so that's fine!
The dramatic wrinkle here, of course, is that Mia had no clue either. The idea that her two men might also be interested in one another never once crossed her mind. She flips out a little about it when she finds out, but of course she does, she's Mia, she flips out about everything. It's all fine once she settles back down.
And once she settles back down, there's never any sense that any leg of the triangle is stronger than any other. Every member of the trio loves each of their spouses differently, but not more or less. The relationship may be unconventional and at times challenging, but it's honestly pretty healthy for everyone involved.
Now of course when I say "healthy" I don't mean "frictionless". This is a comedy! You know people are going to be doing some dumb things! So yeah, sometimes there are misunderstandings, and sometimes there are outright refusals to communicate, and sometimes one of them will try to politely excuse themselves because they believe the other two love one another more. But those are just your insecurities talking, babies, and your spouses both want you to come home.
And it's very clear: They all fuck. You don't get to see it -- you barely even get to see any smooching -- but the fact that all three of them have sex, in pairs and all together, is textual. How does this sex work? We don't know! We're not privy to any but the most basic of the negotiations. We don't get to know who's doing what to whom and with what objects, in part because they're still figuring it out themselves.
That's okay. They have time. They'll get there.
Want to get in on this marriage?
Netflix is where I found it, so baby, it's there or the high seas.
It totally took me longer to write this post than it did to watch the show. I'm not even sorry. I'm happy if this gets more people watching it. It's a sweet little series with some colorful characters that has a really good message about how maybe we all should just chill out and let people lead the lives that are best for them -- and while we're at it, maybe we should also question why all the systems are stacked against "deviants" like them in the first place. (The answer is biopower, the reading is Michel Foucault's History of Sexuality vol. 1: The Will to Knowledge, and I'll see you all in Intro to Queer Theory in the Fall.)
If AI was magically able to build and maintain software, weâd have small companies that could build and deploy at the scale of a hyperscaler, and hyperscalers would, in theory, be expanding their margins so aggressively that it would create a new golden age of software revenuesâŚor theyâd become entirely infrastructure providers, as anybody else could compete on software.
But on a far-simpler level, it would be extremely obvious.
Anybody can access ChatGPT, Claude or Gemini, effectively anywhere in the world. The theoretical âpowerâ of AI is that it âjust does stuff,â and the proliferation of LLMs would mean that somebody wouldâve âdoneâ some âstuffâ that we could point at with exceptional ease. Random guys in the midwest would be pumping out profitable, functional, and feature-rich software. Lawsuits would be won by pro se plaintiffs with incredible counsel from a theoretical âcountry of geniuses in a data center.â
Four years in, weâd have one major AI-powered company demolishing the competition in any industry, or every industry would become so prevalent with (powerful) AI that it would effectively reduce the cost of the service to nothing.Â
Weâd be able to point to companies that adopted AI and then completely fucking exploded. Weâd be able to point to useless coworkers who were now doing impressive, meaningful work.
There would be widespread economic upheaval, as the concept of a âlarge companyâ would lose meaning, because those theoretical âgeniuses in the data centerâ would be automating all the work.â
There also wouldnât be so many pieces insisting that AI is super powerful and so many quotes from Business Idiots saying itâs âreal.â We wouldnât talk about what AI could do at all. We wouldnât need Anthropic to lie that Mythos was too powerful to release only to release it several months later.Â
We wouldnât have to talk about the fucking potential at all because weâd be able to point to what was going on because it would be obvious!
-Ed Zitron, "AI Doesn't Have ROI."
like. i do appreciate being able to occasionally stick my head into Where's Your Ed At and see Ed Zitron also losing his mind over noise from the AI hype machine, but with sources and logic.
okay so spock (the alien in blue) essentially goes into heat. like literal heat like an animal. Anyway, spockâs in bloodlust in this episode and must go back to vulcan to have sex with his finace (or someone. but its supposed to be his fiance) or heâll literally die. this is called pon farr and some backstory spock is half human and thought he wouldnt go through pon farr so he abandoned his HOT fiance to fuck around in space except oops pon farr happens so. he and kirk (in yellow getting his tits cut open, heâs also spocks captain and best friend) and their other friend mccoy go to vulcan so he can have sex with his fiance or get married or whatever so he doesnât die. but then spockâs fiance (tâpring) is like no i dont want to marry spock i want to have him fight someone to death (which she can do) and spock at this point is fully in the âblood lustâ and is basically not in his right mind and doesnt get whatâs happening. and tâpring picks kirk to be her âchampionâ in the fight (her logic is that if spock dies in the fight she doesnt have to marry him and if kirk dies, spock will be so upset with her he wonât marry her anymore anyway). anyway kirk doesnt know that its a fight to the death and so heâs like of course iâll do this fight if itâll help spock and then he gets told itâs a fight to the death and he goes WHAT and right afterwards spock slices his titties open like in the gif. also eventually spock and kirk roll around in the sand and kirk fakes his death and THIS somehow knocks spock out of his blood lust and he goes back to the ship super sad bc heâs killed his âbest friendâ only to discover kirkâs alive and we see one of his biggest smiles of the series (a big deal bc spock is vulcan and they dont show emotion). anyway this aired as the season opener in 1967. know your history and all that happy pride
Also, my favorite bit of trivia from Memory Alpha about this episode:
Since the Vulcans' mating cycle seemed to be too adult a topic for West German TV at the time, ZDF aired a version that radically changed the dialogue, rearranging some scenes, while cutting others. As a result, Spock, instead of going through pon farr, suffers from some lethal disease (the German episode title "Weltraumfieber" translates as "space fever"). To save his life, McCoy administers an experimental drug that leaves Spock delusional. Large parts of the episode â such as the Enterprise visiting Vulcan, Spock fighting and eventually killing Kirk â are explained away as hallucinations. In 1996, using the title "Pon Farr," the episode was re-dubbed, restoring the original story.
Which, like, if you're gonna change it that much, why even bother translating the episode at all? Why not just leave it out?
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I saw this when running newpipe. But wait, it gets deeper. I clicked on the details buttons and it said as of today, we have 83 days left until Google rolls out this new requirement for apps inside and outside of the google play store. If any developer disagrees with their new terms and fees, they will be blocked!
I'll share some of the info below:
Looks like they're trying to nuke the remaining privacy and freedoms we have left on the internet.
What to do?
-Get your developer friends to not comply to their new guides
- Sign the open letter on the site and take action by checking out the full resources list on their website as well!
To summarize, this is all daunting especially when you feel all alone with unfair and inhumane regulations comming out faster than improvements but we got this working together!
Share the link with your friends, family and anyone who will listen!
Your phone is about to stop being yours. In September 2026, Google will block every Android app whose developer hasn't registered with them.
I'm posting this here because yes it's visually beautiful, but more importantly it shows the process of learning. It's not easy. It's scary. There's not a lot of people doing it.
It's beautiful because of the effort, not in spite of it. I feel like we don't value the effort of learning in social media posts, and this was incredibly done.
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I canât remember if I told you guys this but my grandpa paid a guy to put up a rock retaining wall in the backyard when my grandparents moved into their house in 1966. They live at the bottom of a mountain. The wall finally collapsed this year and my grandfather with dementia was PISSED OFFFFFF and he wanted so badly to call the guy who did it and chew him out for doing a bad job. My grandma is trying to explain that the wall lasted 60 years and the guy who did the work is probably dead and it TURNS OUT HE IS STILL ALIVE. Now weâre worried grandpa is going to get through to him (small town) and weâre going to see two 85 year old men come to blows over a rock wall that has been there since the mid-60s. My grandpa is a scrapper, heâs been to jail over a bar fight, the possibility that he WOULD fight this guy is high.
To top it off? The stone mason is the only person in town with one arm so grandpa would definitely recognize him if he saw him. If that is your grandpa, please protect him from my grandpa.
after 2 years working outdoors all day i finally got stung by an onion for the first time yesterday and i wasnt even doing anything there wasnt even a nest nearby
Okay justice for Ilya Rozanov, a man who notably managed his entire families finances and his dementia-having fathers caretaking since he was literally a teenager, while also essentially raising himself to be an elite, generational athlete by himself.
like what is this âIlya needs the threat of a sex ban to pick up his socksâ slander or this âIlya has terrible financial literacyâ misinformation or this âIlya only eats junk food and needs to be forced to eat his veggiesâ tomfoolery
Thirty-year-old Tamara Rees shows us what trans empowerment looked like in 1954. She fought Nazis, taught parachuting, and traveled the world... but her biggest challenge came when the press learned of her identity.
1950s news coverage of Tamera Rees' transition shows a time before the trans moral panic. Most stories regarded her as brave or heroic for her openness. National newspapers even celebrated her wedding in 1955.
The New York Daily News, which now hosts daily anti-trans editorials, ran a shockingly respectful series on trans people in the 1950s. Tamara Rees's narrative was among the longest and most detailed. She thoughtfully implored the public to respect not only her identity, but also other trans people like her.
Tamara wasn't the first famous trans woman of the 1950s, nor was she the best known. However, she had a unique opportunity to share her own story. You can read Tamara's 1955 autobiography, Reborn: A Factual Life Story of a Transition from Male to Female, at transreads.org/rebornÂ
Hi! I apologize for the out of the blue ask, but you have posted about this kind of thing before so I hoped you might be able to help me. TLDR, my little brother has OCD and has just recently started (ERP) therapy about it, and I am looking for things to read so I can better help him with it.
One of my bro's main compulsions is reassurance-seeking and I'm one of his main people. I know that part of therapy is to start to resist that urge, but I don't have a clue where to help him set that balance - as someone who loves him and whose first response is always validation, I worry my instincts to just. Try to help him feel better might not be helpful for him. He and I talk about it, obviously, but he's at the beginning of his journey and doesn't always know the best balance either. Do you know of any resources available to the layperson that you'd trust to help me get started?
The trick to supporting someone with OCD is to shift from the mindset of âfixing a problemâ and move towards the mindset of âfeeling an emotion.â Reassurance seeking relies on the natural human instinct to comfort difficult feelings and welcome positive ones - we are naturally empathic, we share our joy and our relief. But sometimes someone needs to feel scared or sad or angry as a requisite necessity in order to feel better, the same way someone may need to feel some pain when removing an ingrown toenail in order for the problem to stop. If you stop before the toenail is extracted then the toenail will not stop growing, it will continue to grow and hurt more and more over time, and eventually cause even worse problems than simple physical pain.
In other words, we cannot use intellectual solutions to emotional problems.
When your loved ones with OCD share feelings of fear or sadness or even self-loathing related to OCD, it helps to encourage them to sit with the raw feeling rather than look for an intellectual solution. That means validating the feeling without taking action to resolve it, at least not immediately. This is SO challenging, especially for helpers, but the long-and-short of it is that if your brother asks for reassurance, ask if this feels related to OCD. If he says yes, then do not provide the reassurance, no matter what. Instead, provide support while he experiences the emotion. Some examples of intrusive thoughts and helpful responses can be:
Thought: What if someone bursts into my bathroom stall and hurts me? I need to check the lock a few more times to be sure Iâm safe. (Primary emotion: fear)
Response: âOh wow that would be so scary if that happened! I know I would feel really scared about it. I wonder if you can just sit with that fear for a moment before turning the lock. Iâll set a timer for three minutes. In the meantime, try and pee as fast as you can!â
Thought: âWhat if I accidentally hit someone with my car and didnât know? I need to go back and check!â
Response: âOh man, that would be rough. You could get in trouble if you did that. Iâm glad youâre concerned enough for others to risk returning, but Iâm not sure if itâs a good idea for you. Letâs drive forward a few more miles while you try and remember if you did that or not.â
In reality it is often very counter-intuitive, at least at first. We try and do the opposite of what the OCD tells us when itâs severe because even if itâs a common concern with a rational solution, rationality is not the name of the OCD game. Empathy is. If the OCD says to keep scrubbing your hands, then you have to stop, and stay stopped for as long as possible, even if itâs a valid concern. The rest is gonna be on a case-by-case basis. If you can, Iâd recommend asking your brother if you can go to one of his sessions. If you can, Iâd also recommend asking your brother to sign an ROI with his therapist to allow for a one-off phone call to discuss ideas between yourselves. In addition, I have some other ideas that can be helpful:
Ask them what their therapist recommends as long as wait times, coping tools, and mnemonics. I personally am a fan of the S.T.O.P. acronym for obsessions and compulsions:
Stop the compulsion cold-turkey
Trick the compulsion
Obstruct the compulsion
Postpone the compulsion
Any of these steps can obstruct a compulsive behavior long enough to let the fear pass on its own, which is the primary goal of OCD treatment. Itâs not to rationally address the fear, often because the fear is, itself, rational. A person with intrusive thoughts about getting sick is going to feel stressed because itâs stressful to be sick and we know it. A person with intrusive thoughts about harming others is going to feel scared and sad because harming others is a scary and sad thing. The problem is with the intensity of the distress and the time consumed in the compensatory behavior. So finding ways to S.T.O.P. the OCD can be beneficial. Other ideas can include:
âOvercoming obsessive thoughtsâ is a book that has often been helpful for my patients with OCD.
Use of humor as a way to desensitize someone to their intrusive thoughts can be helpful too - I had a client once who said he was scared of accidentally calling others slurs and being seen as a bigot, and when he told his friends they started every phone call by addressing him with insults (i.e., âwhuddup, dork!â) related to his identities so he could get used to hearing them. Use of repetition to desensitize oneself to intrusions can also be helpful - i.e., repeating certain phrases to oneself or others often to take away the sting of panic until it feels boring. I had a client with intrusions about going to hell, and so anytime they did something Iâd say âoh, youâre so going to hell for that,â but like, I mean ANYTHING. Like, adjusting in their chair, looking at the wall while thinking, rolling their eyes at me for telling them theyâre going to hell, etc.
This kind of desensitization can be done in a myriad of other ways, too. I once had a client with harming intrusions (i.e., intrusive thoughts about harming others) press a freshly-sharpened pencil into my hand for 15 minutes until they got bored. My supervisor at work had a client hold a machete to his throat for 10 minutes while they discussed the clientâs favorite board game. I had a straight, cisgender, white male professor wear mismatching clothes and only do half a face of makeup for 6 sessions with a client who had intrusions about being laughed out of a room for âlooking sillyâ and needing to check the mirror and with others at least 15 times before they could do anything so that client could be exposed to some of their more judgmental/self-critical thoughts by seeing someone else do the thing they were afraid of and not care.
The short answer to your question is, honestly, âit depends.â It depends on your brother, it depends on the intensity of the distress, and it depends on the circumstance. Things that work for some people would never work for others, and some things are just too untenable to even attempt. The fact you care and are attentive to it is a good sign, because the long answer is that your brotherâs needs and your needs will change over time, but learning the basics to be ready for some stuff can still be helpful. I hope this response gave you some ideas, and I hope you know you are always free to reach out for support. My DMs are open, there are abundant online communities that can provide support and ideas for this, and your own family and friend group can be good resources as well. I hope all of this made sense because Iâm sick rn and a little out of it.
Also, I wish you The Best of luck! I hope your brother knows and appreciates your curiosity and interest. And I hope you can continue to be curious about the lives of others and yourself.
And for the rest of you reading this: Be kind to others, be kind to yourselves, be gayer, and read more Terry Pratchett. I love yâall
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a new reality tv show called So you think you can write Doctor Who
twelve episodes, twelve contestants - a mix of annoying middle aged sci fi authors, fan fic authors and random people off the street
a variety of against the clock writing tasks, big finish scripts, ability to interact with actors without shouting at them and challenges where you have no budget or doctor for an episode
judged by solely by christopher eccleston
this is how you find the new doctor who showrunner
