Gender Whoreder

irl, i live alone. irl, i am disabled. irl, that intersection and my lack of interest in partnering actively makes life really hard. everything is expensive. i can't always cook when i want to or have fresh ingredients, because my symptoms don't care if I want to cut up vegetables and eat something homemade before they go bad. if I have a bad flareup and getting up is not in the cards, that's it. i have what's next to me. the lack of social support for single folks, for disabled folks, for folks whose family care is inadequate or damaging... it's impactful.

I talk about how i once visited a place with an ex partner. i mention how our relationship started because i was pressured into it, and i wasn't really into the level of seriousness and 'forever' she treated it with. everyone says it's weird that i agreed if i didn't want it to be serious. i remember being 16, saying no, and a chorus of people telling me i was stupid and immature, that her family was rich, that we would be cute and to listen to them, not my heart. my heart was saying nothing.

i look at my current age and life goals. for many of my peers, dating and marriage and eventual kids are common goals. i am watching my rights erode and trying to practice good mental hygeine. my five year goal is to be alive. my next major life milestone is a nebulous desire to find a life i can tolerate living.

being aromantic significantly impacts my day to day. i want to see aro people living their lives, and doing so with joy. i want to see aro adults making it, ones like me. i want aro people to thrive. i want to live, aromantically.

some words have violent history directed towards intersex people . if one would not argue that cisgender people can freely say tranny , then should not argue that perisex people can freely say hermaphrodite . no , scientific term is not defense for this , as even sciences phase out use of this term for alternatives with clearer definitions . hermaphrodite was always meant to devalue humanity and deviation from " human standards " - scientific use for animals come as result of that devaluation , not just coincidental .

ASAB indicate nothing about one's actual life circumstances . this is label for what doctors decide sex to be based on infantile measurements , and that decision may include surgical force . even so , external anatomy do not always match expectations for internal anatomy , chromosomes , and/or hormones . phrases like " AFAB chests " mean nothing : say breasts , say breast tissue , speak clearly . 

ASAB is also not indicator of how childhood go . some intersex kids will grow up with gendered expectations that change between places and time periods , never really just one . some will grow up with gendered expectations , but always lower class of this gender , free for others to take away and wave around as threat . some will grow up and have puberty that defy these expectations , then get legal reassignment to correlate . several of these things , as well as others not stated , may be true at once . if intersex person say that childhood relationship with legal sex , personal gender , and/or gendered expectations was complex , do not pretend that this is too uncommon to care about - stand for one another , not against . 

if intersex person identify with genders that do not seem to make sense , do not disregard this as simple troll . some intersex people will be cistrans , where experiences of gender fall into both modalities . some will be transfemmasc , or even cisfemmasc , because of how people degender and/or inconsistently gender . understand that most free and intersex-friendly definition of transgender is not one which rely on personal deviation from AGAB , but on personal deviation from any form of gendered expectation - be that legal , societal , or simply personal history . 

In it's most simple definition. Transandrophobia is the way that the fear of men impacts the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity effects transgender men’s ability to access queer and transgender spaces, sexual assault survivor resources, and reproductive health care.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity holds back transgender men from transitioning or from presenting as masculine.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the disowning of transgender men from previous found families and the isolation of transgender men in general.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men and/or masculinity has resulted in people using their trauma as an excuse for abusing transgender men, physically, sexually, and emotionally.

Transandrophobia, is the way the fear of men has resulted in people refusing admittance to “male identified people” to certain queer events and safe spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of masculinity has led to people assuming that butches across the gender spectrum are inherently violent and hyper-sexual.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men and/or masculinity results in the forced feminization of transgender men in queer spaces, with the insistence that those who refuse to feminize themselves to make others more comfortable should not be allowed entrance to certain queer spaces.

Transandrophobia, is the way that the fear of men has led people to assuming that butches who were assigned female at birth, are at risk of becoming the enemy (a man) and should not be given the same amount of trust as a feminine presenting cis woman.

Transandrophobia, is when that the fear of men being in women’s spaces prevents trans men and non-binary people who present as male from accessing gynecological care, abortions, and birth control.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men must make themselves smaller to be seen as “one of the good ones” and it is when a trans man who is loud or sexual or Black or Brown or too masculine is seen as a threat to the safety of other transgender people.

Transandrophobia, is when transgender men who speak up about how the normalized way of speaking ill about men in feminist and queer spaces has made them activity suicidal, de-transition, or prevented them from transitioning, are told to “shut up and sit down” or “good.”

Transandrophobia, is not when trans men face misogyny – that is just a trans man facing misogyny (which all trans men face, because misogyny and sexism effects everyone, not just women). However, transandrophobia is when someone says that trans men don’t face misogyny because they are men, make claims that trans men benefit from misogyny since they are men, or insist that trans men’s experiences with misogyny aren’t as valid or as bad as when a woman or non-male person faces misogyny.

Transandrophobia, is when trans men’s struggles are dismissed as being less important, because men don’t need help or men already have help or men don't face real struggles.

Transandrophobia, is when people refuse to acknowledge that the patriarchy see’s transgender men as failed women and not men, which is why transgender men do bot benefit from the patriarchy but are instead violently and systematically punished by it.

When you say that transandrophobia is not trans men facing misogyny, are you saying that you don’t think that misogyny is a part of how transandrophobia functions and that misogyny and transandrophobia are separate things, or that there are experiences of trans men which would better be discussed as ‘misogyny’ than ‘transandrophobia’ because transandrophobia is more specific than misogyny + transphobia for trans men (which can be described as misogyny against trans men and transphobia against trans men) and more an intermingling of those two forces with anti-masculinity.

For example, if a trans man is told he shouldn't enter the STEM field because his brain is hardwired for humanitarian studies instead of math because he's afab, that's sexism and misogyny. However, if a trans man is told that he shouldn't transition while he's in his STEM major because it will ruin his reputation as being an educated female and that his transition will break the hearts of young girls who want to enter STEM that's transandrophobia. Or if a trans man has a scholarship for women in STEM and transitions, only to get his scholarship revoked because he's no longer a woman in STEM, that's transandrophobia - because it's the removal of a needed support system that would have allowed an under repsesnted gender minority (men of the trans experience) acsess to a field of study that aggressively blocks people like him for entering, under the assumption that "now he's a man, he doesn't deserve this support".

A-polite-melody is tagging me here because I made a post saying that due to Saint's clarifications, I will not be using transandrophobia to describe my personal experiences, and instead I will be using anti-transmasculinity and/or transmisandry. This is because for me, anti-transmasculinity IS when I face misogyny. For me, misogyny is not separable from transphobia or from a fear of men and how that affects my livelihood as a transmasc person.

Some people find it useful to only talk about the way a fear of men influences transmascs. That's great. More power to everyone! I fully agree that "the way the fear of men affects the material reality and mental/physical health of transgender men" is 100% a thing transmascs deal with! And I think including that is absolutely vital to any definition of anti-transmasculinity.

I personally need a term that is broader. I need a term that includes everything covered by Saint's definition of transandrophobia, plus more. I need it to include misogyny and sexism, a fear of men/masculinity, and transphobia, and it needs to incorporate how all of those intersect to affect me as a transmasc person.

I was among the people who thought misogyny was an inherent part of transandrophobia, and I was defining it as such. I will stop doing that moving forward!

There is 100% room for multiple terms that overlap in out community to discuss our issues. Transandrophobia is a part of anti-transmasculinity. I don't use the term anti-transmasculinity, because for me it's too broad of a topic and too vague (for me to be able) to write about in a way that is effective at tackling the material issues that trans men face. (Again, for me specifically. I'm sure other people out there are utilizing it in a productive way that advocates for change. And I'm sure many other are just happy to have it as a way of having a word to use when you need to vent!!)

Transandrophobia, as a word, is specific because it's meant to allow people to effectively discuss how to make changes in our communities to prevent the intentional erasure of trans men in queer spaces while providing a dialect on why those issues exist (because people are afriad of us or of who we might hypothetically become like, due to patriarcal trauma being unchecked and allowed to manifest into its own oppressive force).

Some of yall may have heard some of the shit that has been going on right now. I'm gonna give a quick run down of some of the stuff that has been happening. Note, this is not all, and it may never be all as much as I will try to update this.

(I am going to try and compile and briefly explain these as much as I can. There may be misinformation. Please inform me if I got something wrong.)

(This will also be updated with additional information and new topics added.)

1) Racist Chinese Dolls.

There are these dolls in China that are being called "Natasha" baby dolls. These dolls are not only very obvious caricatures of black people, but they are being advertised as a "stress relief" in which the people who buy these abuse it in various ways.

This links to a video of a compilation of the various "uses" of the doll. There are more in the replies of the tweet. (Another link to the same tweet just incase)

2) The Mocking, Abuse, and Dehumanization of Black Children.

Apart from the aforementioned doll, there are apparently people going around mocking, abusing, and dehumanizing black children.

Some people have compared black children to the doll.

Others have been going into African countries and have found ways to mock, abuse, and dehumanize black children for clout.

(Source 1 + Full Video) (Source 2)

There are more videos surfacing.

3) Black people are going missing.

Black people, especially children and teens have recently been going missing at an alarming rate. Some of these same people are turning up dead, deaths being ruled as "suicides."

While it generally unknown why many of these people are going missing, many suspect that their disappearances, deaths, and even lack of coverage is rooted in anti-blackness.

The following is a list of black people that have been reported missing as of recently. Please note that this is not a complete list (it may never be completed due to the fact that many of these disappearances will still occur as time passes) this may contain inaccurate information. Please inform me if that is the case.

By the time you see this, some of these people may have already been found either alive or deceased. This post will be updated overtime.

It is also heavily encouraged that you reblog this with more links to recent cases of missing black people if you are aware of any that aren’t included on this list.

Alexis Shaver

Payton Diver

Nasir Tacuma

Ka’Laya Cooper

Makaila Monae Adam

Moriah Kerre Smith

Uchechi Chijindum Nkemdirim

Victeria Uriah Spear

Rilen Wade (Found. Is Safe)

This page is pretty much the same as in canon... yeah ok I just wanted to draw the umbrella scene.

Anyways uhhhh happy pride month? Sorry that it took a while to make this part. I could blame top surgery, but honestly I just got out of the habit of drawing comics and struggled to get back into it. Comics are hard.

One explicit rule for this post !!!! No doubting yourself in my notes because "well my doctor hasn't said—" Shaking your shoulders!!!!! medicine is wildly intersexist!! They often lie to very "obviously" intersex people sometimes to the point of harm by ignoring their variation! I know too many horror stories sadly!! Medicine and doctors CAN help you with numbers and images and hard information about your body to lead you to a more clear answer if necessary that much is all true, but you know how your body feels and looks best because you're in it all the time! And ultimately, I will say it infinitely, intersex is first and foremost a social & political label!!!! Medical diagnosis of any variation is NOT a prerequisite to identify with being intersex, and anyone who says such is intermedicalist (link) and not worth listening to, much like transmedicalists!!!!!

Oh by the way. Sliding this in real awkwardly for a pride month post but anyway check out An Intersex Jam 2026 they're running this year too make it big go go go !!!