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One I see echoed a lot is "she could have been the most well-known voice in history and she threw that away," as if that's a fair trade. Another is people being mad because they liked the Sky voice and they want it back, who cares how she feels about being deepfaked.

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First thing the sales guy did after I laid down the rules was turn to Sean and go, "What's your number?" And Sean said. "Oh, no, you negotiate with Gayle."

So, strike one for the sales guy. Could not divide and conquer us by implying THE MAN would not surprised at what I laid down.

Sales guy then had to confer with his manager and left us at his desk for several minutes. I have a vague recollection (this was 16 years ago) of Sean and I amusing ourselves doing bits about the other people there to look at cars. I am sure we did not give off the stressed or nervous energy they were hoping for.

Guy comes back. His first offer is fifty dollars a month more than I told him we could pay. I looked at him and said "I gave you our upper limit."

"Well, but what's another 50 bucks a month?"

"Something I can't afford."

He didn't know what to do with my open and unashamed admittal that I had a budget because my money was finite.

He went back to talk to the manager again.

It took two more rounds of "I told you what I can afford" before he finally came back 20 bucks under what I'd stated as my max.

tags by satan-incarnate-666 #shout the fuck out to nonwhite trans women who by virtue of their “ethnic” features are being told they are inherently less feminine #being nonwhite doesn’t make you nonfeminine!!!! i love you trans woc!!!!

...gets you labeled a "transandrophobia truther" and allegedly a transmisogynist.

"You have to use the term 'TME' to describe yourself. Although you experience both transphobia and misogyny, when you use the term 'transmisogyny' for your experiences, as a man, it is appropriating the term and takes attention away from trans women, which is itself transmisogynistic. Nevermind the fact that a part of your experience includes being mistaken for a trans woman and treated as such. By virtue of being a trans man, you are inherently 'transmisogyny exempt'."

Cool. Sure. Noted.

If that's how we're gonna use the language, then let's create our own terms for transmasc oppression. We were thinking of using the tag ''transmisandry", meaning "the hatred of trans men/masculinity".

"That's misogynistic because it's now implying that you think misandry is an actual thing that exists in our society. You're promoting M.R.A. talking points by doing that!"

OK, that was not at all what the term meant, nor the purpose the language was meant to serve, but let's let bygones be bygones and come up with a different word, since you take onus with the "-misandry" part of the term. How about "transandrophobia"?

"You're being misogynist and transmisogynist because you're implying that trans men are oppressed specifically for their masculine identity-"

I'm gonna let you continue, but like... I have literally throughout most of my life been punished by society for being masculine when according to cis sexist beliefs, I am supposed to be feminine-

"What you ACTUALLY experience is an intersection of transphobia and misogyny. And we already have a word for that! It's transmisogyny! You just want to invent your own thing because you clearly don't understand gender studies or trans theory. I can't support this. The term "transandrophobia" is inherently transmisogynistic."

??? So can we use the term "transmisogyny" to describe transmasc experiences and label them as a part of our self advocacy?

"No, you have to label yourself as 'transmisogyny exempt' (TME)."

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Funny enough, it seems that whenever we try to talk about our oppression as trans men and try to combat trans male erasure- one of the key tools of our oppression- no matter what terms are used, you seem to view them as transmisogynistic. Have you considered taking a step back and considering why?

One thing you learn when you study rhetoric is that it's less important what words are used than what those words are doing. What is our speech doing? Why do you feel the need to silence it? Why does your speech, although cloaked in the language of progressivism, still fulfill the function of silencing another minority?

Now, first thing I learned: fruit flies don't eat fruit. They eat yeast. They eat the yeast on fermenting fruit. They can not actually eat fruit. Their name is a lie.

Secondly, one of the two mutant lines I was given to cross are flies with the apterous mutation, aka they're wingless. I feel so bad for them, they can't do the one thing they're named for, they cant fly.

And then I realized. My fruit flies are in truth insects that eat yeast and can't fly.