Labelling every non-binary relationship as sapphic/yuri and achillean/yaoi is exorsexism.
It is one thing if a non-binary person personally labels their relationship as such. However, the active neglect of non-binary specific labels is exorsexist, especially since sapphic/yuri is predominantly used to refer to feminine relationships and achillean/yaoi is predominantly used to refer to masculine relationships. (This is not to say sapphic and achillean can't refer to other gender types, but theres no denying the binary-centric history these terms hold within the community.)
Fandom spaces are even worse with this, treating all non-binary relationships as just sapphic-lite and achillean-lite.
If you are in a fandom, and you have a character with a non-binary ship, please promote non-binary language.
At the very least, please mix in non-binary language with your binary-centric terms (ie; a non-binary person who is dating a binary man, and prefers to be called a husband, while using terms such as toric or adonic for their relationship.)
Here are some terms used in the same way sapphic/yuri and achillean/yaoi are:
-Diamoric (A relationship that involves a non-binary person in some shape or form)
-Trixic (NBLW) and Maedic (WLNB)
-Toric (NBLM) and Adonic (MLNB)
-Enbian (NBLNB) and Binitian (Binary Loving Non-binary)
Here are some terms used in the same way lesbian and uranian are:
-Feminamoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to women.)
-Viramoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to men.)
-Ceteramoric (non-binary person primarily attracted to other non-binary people.)
-Tria (binary person primarily attracted to non-binary people. This could be any type of non-binary person, or specific types of non-binary people). Can be spelled alternatively based on attraction (ie; triasexual, triaromantic, triaplatonic, etc.)
Here are some terms used for dating/marriage:
-Bach/Bachlorex/Bachloree/Bachloren/Bachlorum (unmarried)
-Partner/Joyfriend/Datefriend/Enbyfriend/Enfriend (dating)
-Fiance/Nearlywed/Betrothed/Celebrant (engaged)
-Marrier/Newlywed/Bridegroom/Brigroom/Gide (getting married)
-Spouse/Wifeband/Huswife/Wifen/Husen/Wifet/Huset/Esso/Essie (married/spouse)
And while we're here, stop calling non-binary people "they/thems." Non-binary people do not all collectively use they/them pronouns, we can also use he/him, she/her, it/its, neopronouns, multiple pronouns, or even no pronouns. Our genders do not deserve to be boiled down to infantilizing language like "my little they."
When referring to a singular person, use the words non-binary person, enby, or enban.
When referring to a group of non-binary people, use the words non-binary people, enbies, or enben.
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