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If you make goth clothing, decor, accessories, etc
please
please please please
please stop putting crosses on literally everything.
I know that they're a staple of goth fashion. I know. But not everyone is Christian. Not everyone wants to wear or surround themselves with Christian symbols. There are a lot of goths who would die happy if we they never had to see a cross again. Please.
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Question for transfemmes: did you have the experience of being asked "are you a boy or girl" by your peers when you were a kid or was it exclusively behaviors in the "youre a boy why dont you act like it" category
Trust is a slippery concept, and it's even more slippery when you've grown up around people that regularly hurt or betrayed you (sometimes out of true necessity; a toddler isn't going to feel non-betrayed when their parents poke them with needles regardless of whether they know that it's medically necessary). We didn't really understand how to trust people until very recently, and it's still an ongoing process for us to learn what trust means.
For fellow "do I even know what trust is, let alone how to feel it?" people, the actual, formal definition of "trust" is
"Assured reliance on the character, ability, strength, or truth of someone or something."
In other words, you know what someone is like and can rely on them to act a certain way. You can look away and have a reasonable amount of confidence that things will turn out a certain way. In context of a system, that can mean letting go and allowing others to run the ship for a little if they'd like to (because you know they won't burn the house down), believing someone when they say they need something or will get something done, and working together as a team because you know it'll be okay if you're not the sole person in control of your life.
We haven't trusted each other for most of our existence. Sure, we'd say that we trusted someone to do something, but then we'd act as though we expected them not to follow through. If you didn't put yourself first, then no one else was going to look out for you.
Every creature for themselves! Sabotage! Steal! Lie and betray! Do whatever you have to do to survive, even if it means strangling everyone else to get what you need!
This didn't do much to inspire actual trust between us.
Your relationship with the rest of your system doesn't have to be a chain of constant betrayals and injuries. Trust is a skill, and you can learn it at any time. The first step is to admit that you don't trust each other as much as you wish you could. The second step is to try.
Find patience for each other where you can, be honest about your needs, be vulnerable sometimes, and listen to your system when they ask you to stop or need you to do something. Listening to each other and respecting each other's needs and limits can make a huge difference in how much you trust each other, especially in the long term.
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A comic titled, "Do you trust me?"
For years, we used to lie and say "of course!"
"Yes," says Echo, who doesn't really "get" trust and is stuck in "care about nothing and you'll never get hurt" mode.
"Why wouldn't I?" says Gwen, who hasn't unpacked her parentification yet.
"I guess I have to," says Red, who still remembers what it was like to be rejected by everyone else.
"Then why won't you listen to me?" asks Blue.
"Because we don't actually trust anyone, let alone you!"
Only one of us was honest from the start. Hawthorne said "no" in vibes and gestures. Being trampled over and completely ignored for years (even unknowingly) doesn't make a person want to trust you. Because Hawthorne barely knew us and had no peace to keep, they had no reason to lie.
If you lie about trust, then you won't know where you stand, and you won't find out why the distrust exists so you can make changes.
"Wait, we can say no?" asks Blue. "Ok, wow then, honestly I don't think I actually trust any of you and maybe that's a problem."
It turns out that it's easier to build trust if everyone is honest.
you will never catch me complaining about an actress on a tv show having an imperfectly concealed pregnancy or a character going on a sudden trip somewhere while her actress is on maternity leave. so many actresses (and women working in any other field) are fired, punished and pressured into making reproductive decisions for their employers' convenience & if i have to try a bit harder to suspend my disbelief then that's absolutely what i'm going to do if it means people are getting to exercise reproductive & bodily autonomy without punishment
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ever since i was young i've been drawn to narratives where a character acquires powers by being premeditatively attacked, subdued, and forcibly empowered by some kind of invasive procedure, leaving them feeling guiltily ashamed, alienated from their own body, and violently uncomfortable under any amount of attention drawn to them despite their new enhanced ability to defend themself and others. for no particular reason.
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