If there is something small you can do right now to help yourself a bit, this is a sign to do it. And yes, this can be anything from leaving a screen you have been staring at for hours to going for a walk, to playing with your pet to making yourself a snack to filling up a water bottle and taking several sips, to stretching out and so on. The point is just this: Can you do something small that’s good for you, go take a little break and do it. 🌸

If you ever feel lost or feel like you don’t belong anywhere, please go to the movies or someplace and have a coffee, get a couple of books, and walk endlessly you'll feel better, and don't be hard on yourself.

“Do it scared” “do it alone” are all great tips, but my biggest takeaway from therapy is do it messy. This is especially true if you’re getting out of a burnout, which I experience often. Literally just do it messy. You don’t need to pick the perfect trail to walk, the perfect playlist to listen to, whatever the fuck it is. You don’t need to have a meticulous to do list and wake up at the exact time you planned and drink the exact amount of water you planned to drink. Like the biggest thing for people like me to remember is sometimes it’s okay to do it messy. Put on a random yt workout and just get it done in sweats. Do 5 minutes of a daunting task and go from there. Sometimes just getting up is a win during intense burnouts or depressive funks. Literally just do it messy.

if your response to, “I wish there was more sex repulsed asexual representation,” is to point out not all aces are sex repulsed, maybe first stop and ask yourself why you are doing that. We live in a society that’s constantly telling us we need to have sex and I’m so glad there are aces who aren’t bothered by that, but it doesn’t invalidate those of us that do not want to. This isn’t a competition, I want to see all kinds of aces, being upset with a lack of respect for sex repulsed aces doesn’t mean I think the rep that’s already there for sex positive aces should be changed. I am capable of wanting both, why aren’t you?

“there are always more fish in the sea!” babe no offense but i just really sincerely do not want to go fishing

from some of the comments i am seeing about having a hard time with fishing or wanting to fish in a specific way or looking for a white whale or wanting to skip the fishing and go straight to having a fish i feel i need to clarify the metaphor. this is not about the fishing itself to me as much as the fish. there’s this whole societal thing that pushes people to feel like they should be eating fish all the time and while fish are awesome for some people!! and while some people Want fish but don’t like the pressure about it!! i do not like fish i do not want fish and in fact i often feel as if i may exhibit an allergic reaction to seafood

we were never meant to see everyones opinions all the time

I think asexuals across the favorable-averse spectrum could benefit from accepting that asexuality is a different experience for different people, and we should be able to talk about our experiences without a plethora of disclaimers attached. If I see a post along the lines of "the asexual urge to write the horniest fic possible" I recognize that while that is not at all my experience of asexuality, it is theirs, and I don't feel a need to say "hang on, that's not the case for everyone, that's just your experience, don't generalize!" Because they are making a post about themself and others like them, not about me. And along these same lines, when an asexual conflates their asexuality with their disinterest in/dislike of sex, perhaps you could simply assume that that is their experience, and that those things are intertwined for them, even if they didn't add seven disclaimers about how being favorable is also Real and Valid and Awesome and Cool. Like, maybe they're talking about them, not being sex-negative and invalidating You Personally. (Maybe non-favorable aces should not be constantly presumed to be puritanical sex-negative prudes for vocalizing any distaste for sex, and expected to affirm sex-positivity at every opportunity, as if it's an activism membership card that absolves us of the terrible sin of not being too enthusiastic about sex.)

I really am just living for the hope of it all

hey good luck today with whatever u got going on. u got this. and i hope something really nice happens to u today. u deserve it. 

it is important to cling to wonder btw

many people grow up and forget what it feels like to be a child. we must remember this. we have to remember what a joy it is to play. to learn. to build connections. to grow. to experience. we must hold onto the things that awe us. we are changed by what we love

i think the most beautiful thing about being a human is the capacity to change

May you find a sense of wonder in all the little things once again. May you be comfortable and thriving just existing in the present.