Brigid Coady

Hi, love. I don’t know if you’ll see this, because I assume you’re not in this fandom, but I’m so glad that post helped you.

Honestly, fandom has been life changing for me in terms of realizing that being passionate about “nerdy/childish/weird” things is part of what makes my life really good. And I think the older you get, the less you actually care about what other people think.

I spent way too many years twisting myself into someone I wasn’t in order to fit in or be liked. I’m more “me” in my 50s than I’ve ever been.

People in their teens, twenties, even thirties, so often have no real concept of how freeing it is to just be who you are. I know I didn’t. I was always trying to be acceptable and palatable for everyone else.

Life is too short. Indulge in your passions and hyper-fixations. Fun isn’t only for young people. And who says “young” ends at twenty-five? My life has gotten exponentially better as I’ve aged.

My AGEISM tag is a fun scroll. And it includes this appropriate meme.

And to your anon: I became a fangirl in my 40ies (never to late to enjoy good things).

But I think it’s important to acknowledge what @i-need-a-cure wrote in her tags :

we are made to feel weird, uncomfortable because of misogyny and patriarchy.

It was only legalized in 8 US states (the 8th only a few months before), and wouldn’t be legalized nation-wide until 2015.

It was only legal in TEN COUNTRIES in 2011. We wouldn’t hit 20 countries until 2017. (Australia was 23rd)

As of today (April 14, 2026), I believe only 38 countries have fully legalized same-sex marriage. Out of somewhere around 200 countries in the world. That’s only ~19% of countries.

Hi, love. I don’t know if you’ll see this, because I assume you’re not in this fandom, but I’m so glad that post helped you.

Honestly, fandom has been life changing for me in terms of realizing that being passionate about “nerdy/childish/weird” things is part of what makes my life really good. And I think the older you get, the less you actually care about what other people think.

I spent way too many years twisting myself into someone I wasn’t in order to fit in or be liked. I’m more “me” in my 50s than I’ve ever been.

People in their teens, twenties, even thirties, so often have no real concept of how freeing it is to just be who you are. I know I didn’t. I was always trying to be acceptable and palatable for everyone else.

Life is too short. Indulge in your passions and hyper-fixations. Fun isn’t only for young people. And who says “young” ends at twenty-five? My life has gotten exponentially better as I’ve aged.

My AGEISM tag is a fun scroll. And it includes this appropriate meme.

Your husky isn’t “hyperactive”, it’s bred to pull sleds for 8 hours straight and you have it in a 400 sq ft yard.

Your English sheepdog isn’t “pushy”, it’s bred to herd sheep, and you have neither to space nor the herd to allow it.

Your terrier isn’t “nippy”, it’s bred to kill rats and your hamster looks a hell of a lot like one.

Your Catahoula isn’t “mean to animals”, it’s bred to hunt any and all animals smaller than it, and you didn’t acclimate it to your cat.

Your Lhasa Apso isn’t “yappy”, it’s bred to bark at any tiny noise and alert watchmen to intruders

You mean like how people read books at libraries, and end up buying them if they like them?

“That’s not the same 😡”