Why are you so against the idea of Harry being bisexual? Those of us who think he might be don't say that just because we don't want him to be with Louis, which is not true, but because he gave multiple hints about that. He waved multiple times the bi flag, including the one time he screamed freedom, never the gay one. He defined his music "sparkly bi music", he has men and women in many of his videos, he made comments about women during the early 1d day, even during xfactor when he was not media trained. Some of the songs in his discography are clearly about women.
He said during an interview when he was 19 that he wasn't bi but isn't that obvious? Could he say he was if he was closeted?
This doesn not mean he wasn't with Louis, or that he couldn't have a preference for men.
Why the need to call stupid everyone who has a slightly different opinion? He never labeled himself so you don't know if he's gay or bi.
Hope this doesn't sound confrontational, I just wanted to add another perspective
I’ve answered this eight million times already. But I will do it yet again because I have jet lag and can’t sleep.
Let me start by saying that I’m bisexual. So my opinion has nothing to do with “bi erasure” or whatever nonsense people want to fling at me. It also has absolutely nothing to do with Larry or Louis. Harry can be bi and Larry can still be real.
I’m “against” the idea because I don’t think it’s accurate. And I’m vehemently opposed to the idea of the “bi stepping stone” that so many celebrities are encouraged to go with when they come out. To me, THAT is the biggest invalidation of bisexuality. And I firmly believe that the Azoffs are pushing that idea as a way to give Harry a tiny bit of autonomy without losing any money or control over him.
I’ll start with your arguments. Sure, he has run with the bi flag. He’s also run with the lesbian flag. I doubt he thinks of himself as a lesbian. He runs with whatever pride flags people give him. Here’s my HARRY AND RAINBOWS tag for everything I’ve got showing H with flags/queer symbols over the years. I have each type of flag he’s held up linked separately as well.
He didn’t “define” his music as sparkly bi music. He asked a person coming out as bisexual what sort of music they wanted while they did it and they said, “sparkly bi music.” Do you really think he’d classify his music as “bi music” because he’s bi? I don’t think his music is “gay music” because I think he’s gay. IMO, what he was saying is that if you’re bi, and you want music to come out to, any music we play is going to be sparkly bi music. Or, even if you want to stretch it to his music (because the band was just jamming), I would say he meant any of my music will suit your desire for sparkly bi music. Here’s my tag on SPARKLY BI MUSIC.
Of course he made comments about women during Xfactor and the very early 1D days. But have you actually seen the way he made those comments? Do you really think they weren’t told from day one what was expected of them? They knew off the bat that their largest audience was young girls. Of course they weren’t as intensely media trained as they are now, and a lot of their charm came down to some if the ridiculous things they did and said. But Harry saying I LIKE GIRLS doesn’t come across as a boy who is actually excited about all the girls who want to date him. Or Harry talking about a date with Caroline Flack and saying he liked the PROFITEROLES he had for dessert? Come on. That’s not a guy who is excited to be talking about the hot older woman he went on a date with.
“He has men and women in some of his videos.” Yes, in the LATE NIGHT TALKING MV and the LIGHTS UP MV there are men and women shown in what could be seen as sexual/romantic settings. I think if you scroll through my tags linked here, you’ll find some really interesting theories about the meanings.
“Some of the songs in his discography are clearly about women.” You’re going to need to be a lot more specific here. There are songs like WOMAN or his cover of GIRL CRUSH, that are clearly about women who are in the way of him being with the man he loves. There are songs like SHE and FINE LINE where i believe the woman he refers to is actually himself because that whole album is, IMO, a deep dive into Harry coming to understand his GENDER. There are also songs like CAROLINA that were clearly written to fulfill a need to have a stunt song. But, other than a couple of choice words, they are much more likely to be about other things (like drugs, in this case).
All in all, I think Harry mainly writes about himself: his place in the world, his struggles, his longing, his mistakes, his desire to understand himself, etc. If there’s a female pronoun or name involved, there’s very often a reason for it that has nothing to do with a romantic attachment to a woman. But feel free to share which songs you’re thinking of. I just pulled a few off the top of my head.
His 2013 BRITISH GQ interview is one which continues to infuriate me because of how little barely-19-year-old Harry was protected from a predatory journalist. He was flat-out asked if he was bisexual and he said no. Yes, obviously he could have said no because he wasn’t going to share the fact that he was bisexual. But that doesn’t mean he actually is bisexual. He could also have said no because he’s gay. Or straight (although, given the way he answered, and the fact that years later he spoke about trying to answer in a way that wouldn’t upset anyone, tells me otherwise). This is a SUMMARY of what he’s said in print interviews about his sexuality. Here’s a much more extensive tag for HARRY’S SEXUALITY
IMO, given the fact that Harry seems very, very supportive of, and connected to, the queer community, very proud of who he is, and goes out of his way to queer code and signal, why would all of that be directed toward gay male culture and not bisexuality? Even if he were bi, but primarily attracted to men, it seems to me that given how much people push the idea that he’s straight, it would be extremely important to him to express the idea that a man could be bisexual (as in be attracted to multiple genders). But that’s not what he does. He makes endless GAY INNUENDO and PENIS JOKES, but I don’t recall him doing anything of the sort about being bi. HE’S GAY PETRA is one of my biggest tags for a reason.
Look, I truly don’t care if he’s bi and not gay. I would support him either way. My irritation (and the reason I call people stupid) is that there is endless information out there that, IMO, shows us not only who Harry is, but how the system in which he has to exist operates. And yet people tend to see only what they want to see.
The music industry does not want their sexy, charming, pop star to be gay. A huge swath of the world’s population does not want him to be gay. Being bi is more palatable—as long as he only dates women and any references to liking men is kept in the shadows and in metaphor. If he is indeed bisexual, I’m happy for him. I just have yet to see anything that makes me believe it, and I feel like simply accepting it because of a few twisted narratives is negating the actual truth that Harry has been trying to get us see for sixteen years.
