It's important, imo, that Alfred choose to stay because of his sense of duty more than some paternal feelings toward Bruce. Otherwise, it kind of make him misogynistic that he abandoned his daughter because of his sense of duty, but stayed with Bruce. Like he couldn't raise a girl, that is biologically his, but he can choose a boy, who isn't. And it's worse to be misogynistic than a bad father figure, imo.
I think Alfreds character suffers either way. The best option if he had a grown up daugther before the waynes or he just sponsored an orphanage and one child just chose to be his. Or he didnt know about the child.
Because him disregarding his children just makes his caracter suffer.
Nah, it's in his character, he never was a good parent, neither to Julia or Bruce, and erasing that suck. It is even spelled out in the comics that the difference between Dick and Bruce is that Dick had Bruce to love him, while Bruce had no one, because Alfred failed him. Alfred failed both Bruce and Julia, in different ways, and his character doesn't suffer from that, because that's his character.
For reminder, Alfred has once be portrayed paying actors to play the Waynes' murder and to beat up Batman once he was destabilized by his ptsd from the re-enactment. He also tends to leave Bruce when Bruce is suffering the most. He also has drugged Bruce without his consent, sometimes through his food, and he threatens Bruce to do it again, leading to Bruce being wary of eating Alfred's food (and he already doesn't eat a lot).
Canonically, in the current continuity (before Alfred died), Alfred also had no real relationship with Julia, apart from the dna they share. Even in Absolute Batman, where Alfred never became a butler and stayed in the military, even tho he worries about his daughter, they still don't share anything at all and she has cut contact with him. He doesn't have any relationship with Julia at all, making him to be present during her childhood would make his character suffers because it's the total opposite of who he is actually: an absence father with no real interest to learn to know his daughter as a person.
