The thing about social anxiety when you're autistic is that "someone can spontaneously get Mad At You for reasons entirely unpredictable to you & you might not even know cause sometimes they simply won't tell you" has just been your lived reality since like. Birth. And at some point you just have to go "OK well if they have one sided beef with me that's their problem actually" so you don't go completely insane
If it sounds like I'm just describing abuse patterns that's because I am except when you're autistic it's Kinda Everyone because You as a neurodivergent person are presumed to be the problem by default until proven otherwise
Like from my pov when I don't understand some Social Rule I apparently crossed unknowingly it strikes me as just as nonsensical as like. What if everyone on the bus hates me for getting on the bus. Because the whole problem is that it's not computing at all. So you just kind of learn to be on high alert 24/7
