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aplatonic

Many would describe being aplatonic as cool

Evil Aromantic: an aromantic that embraces the "negative" stereotypes associated with being aromantic; this could include being loveless and/or heartless, being the villain / relating to aro-coded villain characters, being aplatonic or allosexual, or, more generally, being an "angry aromantic" or "aggressively aromantic" Evil Aros may or may not also relate to being evilpunk

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you get to choose what labels fit your relationships best.

you get to choose what your actions mean in your relationships.

you get to choose your intentions for your relationships.

nobody else gets to decide those things for you.

nobody else gets to claim they know better than you; nobody else gets to say they know what you're "really" wanting or doing.

you are the only person who knows what you intend. nobody else can change that except for you.

even if others misunderstand you, you have done nothing wrong for living authentically. you don't ever have to conform to someone else's standards in order to move through this world "correctly" or "better." you don't ever have to change yourself in order to appease other people (whether allo or a-spec).

Just for people to feel sad for you because you didnt have like, a romantic partner or whatever. Maybe you didnt have much of family either. So what?

When I first learned about being aromantic and asexual, I saw a post on Tumblr about QPRs, aka “Queer/Quasi-platonic relationship”. Here is some quick information on what this means.

I thought that I was interested in this type of relationship. I have been in multiple QPRs in the past even. 

But, after really reflecting on it, I realized - it was the exact same situation as with romantic/sexual relationships.

I am not interested in any kind of relationship beyond friendship. Queerplatonic, romantic, sexual, anything like that. I do not want a “life-long partner”. I love being completely single. I am completely fulfilled and content.

Yet, that voice that tells me that I will never be happy without being in these types of relationships? Yeah, it’s still here. 

With QPRs, this was my unconscious thought process.

“If I am not in a romantic/sexual relationships, at least I can be in a QPR and be somewhat normal.” or “Maybe I will develop these feelings if I can hold out a little longer.”

I felt the exact same in QPRs as I felt in romantic/sexual relationships: trapped, awkward, uncomfortable, stressed. The fact I could not return these feelings would make me extremely stressed. In my last relationship, that was the biggest wake-up call. I was so stressed during that relationship and had no idea why. The second we broke up? I felt so much better.

My dream is living on my own, maybe own a pet, have my own space, but also have a few friends I can hang out with. This is completely fine! I am allowed to live however I want to as long as it isn’t hurting anyone.

Anyways, I guess I’m making this post to show people that you don’t have to be in ANY kind of relationship if you do not want to. I didn’t realize this until very recently, and if I had known earlier, it would’ve saved SO MUCH TROUBLE for EVERYONE.